Hi, I am scared to talk in groups, my thought process is ok..but still not sure why i don't express myself?

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No don't listen to that person. You don't have to drink to be more talkitive. Will unless you want to, but you don't have to get drunk. Coming from a shy person believe me it can be hard. However you can get over this not talking in groups things. First of all you got to relax and clam down. It's not totally a bad thing that you don't like to be so chatty to a group. You don't have to be and no one can make you. Do whatever you feel comfortable with. When it comes to trying to be more outgoing or talking answer questions with more than a yes or no asnwer. It seems hard, but once you just let what you have to say out then you'll feel more confident. Laughing, smiling, relaxing (sitting, leaning, etc) helps too and peoples might not care about the not talking so much. If comments are said then don't worry. Not everyone has to be the "life of the party" and hey if your able to help friends or cheer people up does a chatty group really mater? (you'll be the one in the end friends and family will come to for comfort)... Ok it's nice to be in convos yes thats true. Maybe you could stick closer to the ones you feel comfortable being chatty and joking with and then you'll be able to talk better with the others. Good luck and hang in there.
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yes i know the feeling it's the whole tongue tied feeling like you wanna say something but something inside you just holds you back. You may think that if you do speak and say something no one will appreciate or understand what you are talking about so it's better to stay silent . Then when you work up the courage to say something the moment has passed. It's quite an annoying thing to be stuck with. You need to boost your confidence somehow maybe take drama classes or something.

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It's ok everyone has varying degrees of the same problem. Just start by focusing your attention to one friend and express yourself to that person, at first just ignore that other people are present. After a while you will find that you can express yourself in any group setting.

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i had the same problem...you need to push yourself to do it! i have low self confidence (for personal reasons) and being able to function in a social scene was very hard for me...i was good with one maybe two or three people but when there was a crowd i got anxiety. sometimes so bad i had to leave.
my boyfriend now helped me gain confidence by supporting me to push myself in social scenes. practice in front of a mirror if you feel it would work for you (it did for me as gay as it sounds...)
you could just have social anxiety in which then you may want to see your doctor. but best to stay off any drugs that would make you different from who you really are. this is how God made you...work with it and you will be great!

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u might not fill comfortable talking to strangers that u dont know, even though they dont know who u really or u dont know them. There might be that uneasy feeling u get,maybe it wont live up to ur expectations or just not knowing what is goin to happen makes things weird

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There is a thing called gradients - but the major trouble with people having this as a problem is that they trying to speak to the 'crowd' instead of individuals.

If you pick individuals to speak to, but ensure your voice goes out to all people present, you'll find that you will improve your ability to talk to a group of individuals.

But the major practise is to get more practise time in than worry time on it.

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It just needs to be in a gradient, just be sure what you want to express and then talk to 2 people and then 4 and then increase the number of people you talk to. And only continue to increase the number if you see you are okay with doing it and then talk to more people.

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What about just picking out someone in that group you feel comfortable talking to and let them know that you are going to share but you are only going to look at that person and pretend you are only talking to that one person instead of the whole group. You might be having a bit of anxiety and thats why you are to scared to talk.
I know I have anxiety in a group of people and I dont say anything but when I have to I look at the person that I feel comfortable with and start talking.

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See the section on social anxiety at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 9.

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