I am thirteen years old and i am in eighth grade. i get so mad at people a lot of the time. i could just be sitting there and just the sound of some peoples voices can irritate the hell out of me. (even if it is my bf) please give me examples and HELP for this problem and HOW to deal with it!!!!
Answer:
I have a friend that use to be like that anything could set her off.. So we tried a few things. 1.) Instead of cussing we would use fruit.. Like OH STRAWBERRIES! 2.) When she started to feel up set she would think of something stupid that I had done then she would laugh. C.) Another thing she would do is draw silly pictures to keep her mind off the people who annoy her. These were all just little things to help keep her temper down, I hope they work for you.
listen to you iPod. try to listen to music that would clam you down...
Take some deep breaths and think to yourself, "well they are annoying, but what is getting angry going to do? Make them feel bad about themselves and get me into trouble and it's not going to change their behavour." Take a few more deep breaths and as soon as you can remove yourself from the situation to be alone even if just for a few minutes.
ok. well i guess it's good that your at least not keeping your anger IN, since it'll keep collecting, and eventually you'll crack anyway and blow up all at once (i know from experience, except i gathered anger up for 6 years and now i'm going insane. XP). So yea, at least your letting it out. But if you really think you have a problem, it's probably because your lack of patience. You can't stand the smallest things apparently, so just try practicing patience until you don't even notice those small things. I'm no yoga/therapist instructor, but i think these exercises might help:
1. Try asking someone to talk to you for like 1 minute straight, then 5 minutes, then 10minites, and so on, until you think you can handle people. Make sure you ONLY listen, and that you can handle the first increment before you move on to listening even more.
2. Try sitting with someone, and just talk casually about things, so that you'll be able to feel laughter and hapiness with people rather then anger and annoyance.
3. Finally, try just sitting in the middle of the classroom, and just try and not notice the voices.
The exercises should help you gain patience, and be able to help you control your temper. Remember to DO something about your anger, even if my suggestions don't work. It's not about not showing anger, it's more about not feeling it at all, though sometimes you can't help it. =DDDDDD
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