I really would like to phone up my local doctor's clinic and make an appointment. I want to talk to him and ask my doctor so many questions.
I know i cannot diagnose myself over the internet, but im over 100% i have the things i look up everynight.
I feel i have: Social Anxiety, OCD and CSP. I know it seems that if i really wnated to get help, i would hve gone by now. But i just have this huge fear that he will say there is nothing wrong with me, im wasting my time etc.
Anyone know how to overcome this? Or should i not bother going?
Answer:
Please Go! Write down all your symptoms and things your thinking. Be honest with the Doctor and they will refer you to the Mental Health Professional you should be seeing. Trust that you know what is going on with yourself and just be honest. If the first Therapist does not work out go to another.
It will be worth your effort, believe me.
Well you just annouced to the world on yahoo so why wouldn't your doctor be less supportive..that is what he is there for.
Yes, you need to bother going. But talk to a therapist. Even in 2007, many regular medical doctors tend to dismiss complaints from females, especially young ones. Trying to diagnose yourself will drive you nutz.
Make an appointment with a counselor. Choose one you are comfortable with Male or Female and tell them. It is safe and easy TRUST YOURSELF YOU CAN DO THIS
Your doctor's job is to help you. If you talk to him/her and they make you feel uncomfortable, then THEY are not doing their job. It has nothing to do with you. Doctors know we are usually uncomfortable admitting there is something we feel is not right with us. They should make us feel comfortable and if you are made to feel like you are wasting their time, you might need to look for another doctor.
I honestly belive you should write all that you are worried about and how you feel. You should take your notes with you and ask the doctor everything you need to ask. Its his job to listen and answer you.
I call my kids doctor when ever I have a question, and I expect him to answer my call! If he doesn't I'll give him hell for it. Its my right to ask and to know.
The doctor would tell you what he thinks he can not force you to do anything you dont want to and if you dont like his answers then go to another doctor. Its as simple as that!
Good Luck and God Bless
You do need to go hun. There will always be anxiety about going, however if it is bothering you and causing you distress in your life , then please start looking for answers as to why you are feeling like that.
Good luck to you !
Sometimes you won't get a good doctor who doesn't genuinely listen to your fears. All they have to base their decisions on is what you tell them. Just be sure to stress how this is affecting your life. Definitely go though. Ask all of the questions that you have. All this will have been made harder by the fact that you probably have those things. Bring a friend if that would help.
I had the same problem about making myself clear. I knew I had depression, but I didn't want to admit it. (dang male pride, I thought I could tough it out)
It took a near breakdown in my counselor's office for me to make an appointment to see my doctor.
The counselor wrote everything I had to do and say, or I would have not been able to do it. I had to sneak a call from work (cell phones are forbidden) to talk to my doctor's office.
Please write everything down so you don't forget. A friend reminded me that the doctor is YOUR employee, you are the one paying the bill so make him or her listen.
First, make a written list of what you consider your symptoms and take it to the appointment you are going to make.
Second, ask a friend you trust to accompany you as an advocate who can share if you get tongue-tied.
Third, you may not want to go to a local doctor's clinic but to a mental health center with the symptoms you describe.
There is nothing wrong with asking for help, rather silly not to ask for help. Go!
Go!
You need to find a qualified therapist that really knows about social anxiety, OCD and CSP (I'm not sure what this last one is).
If you find someone that really knows these things and has experience, then you are not going to say ANYTHING to them that they have not already heard.
Keep in mind that OCD is NOT you. You are not OCD. Just because you may have very disturbing obsessive thoughts that does not mean you are bad or crazy or anything like that.
Everyone has weird thoughts. With OCD however, the thoughts get stuck and then the OCD sufferer starts to doubt themselves. "Gosh... if I'm thinking about this sooooo much it must mean that it is me." NOT TRUE. The thoughts bother you. The rituals (compulsions) bother you. You would not recommend them to anyone - right?
Have faith in YOU.
I belief that OCD sufferers tend to be very nice, kind-hearted people and OCD takes advantage of that by focusing on things that are most disturbing and painful.
OCD makes a person worry exessively about harm or doing harm to the people and things they care the most about. That is OCD not YOU. if it were YOU, it wouldn't bother you.
Definitely get help. Talk to your parents or other family members that you feel you can trust. Not only do you need to find a therapist that can help you also need support from loved-ones.
In your search for help, you need to find someone that knows cognitive behavior therapy / exposure response prevention. These are the techniques that have been shown by research to actually work and achieve long term relief.
Get help. Get support.
Getting your confidence:
OCD is not you.
YOU are not bad.
YOU are not OCD thoughts.
YOU are not crazy.
You are not alone.
OCD and social anxiety can be effectively treated.
If you are really worried about talking about all of this initially, write it down and take that with you to your Doctor so that you have something from which you can both work.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
How can i gain super powers that will make me go through objects?
i wanna be able to move through objects how can i gain this ability
Answer:
I have bestowed upon you these powers, but you must begin with semi-solids. Find a mature rose bush (wear goggles) and run through it. It will take several times, but keep practicing.
waitt do u mean in real life or in a video game%26gt; if u mean in real life then u cant gain sperpowers and if u mean a video game then it depends which one, but seriousky if u mean in real life, then... uhhh hemm
Human beings are not able to pass through solid objects, and as of yet, there's no technology that enables us to do so.
Also, there are no superpowers to speak of at ALL, let alone ones that defy the laws of physics.
Don't. That's dipping into Satan's realm. Bad Idea. I'll pray for you.
Lottie.I think the only people that can go through objects are dead people, ghosts
Come on over to my house. You dont need super powers. I have a nice wall I could put you through.
Run at whatever you want to go through and dont slow down
Answer:
I have bestowed upon you these powers, but you must begin with semi-solids. Find a mature rose bush (wear goggles) and run through it. It will take several times, but keep practicing.
waitt do u mean in real life or in a video game%26gt; if u mean in real life then u cant gain sperpowers and if u mean a video game then it depends which one, but seriousky if u mean in real life, then... uhhh hemm
Human beings are not able to pass through solid objects, and as of yet, there's no technology that enables us to do so.
Also, there are no superpowers to speak of at ALL, let alone ones that defy the laws of physics.
Don't. That's dipping into Satan's realm. Bad Idea. I'll pray for you.
Lottie.I think the only people that can go through objects are dead people, ghosts
Come on over to my house. You dont need super powers. I have a nice wall I could put you through.
Run at whatever you want to go through and dont slow down
How can i gain my brain memory?
Answer:
I heard if you eat blueberries it helps, they hold a B vitamin I think its like B12
There are certain exercises you can do. There are also many herbal supplements that claim to help brain functions including memory. I have been taking these, I am a sucker for anything that is supposed to help my memory.
"Jigsaw Health: Brain Support" may help:*
* Enhance your memory and mental acuity.
* Improve concentration and focus
* Enhance your mood
* Provide protection to your brain cells from free-radicals
* Enhance you eye health.
* Improve blood circulation to your brain.
* Reduce leg pain by increasing blood flow to the legs and other extremities.
Unlike other supplements supporting the brain, Jigsaw Health Brain Support:
Contains six powerful nutrients for brain health
* Ginkgo biloba extract, widely promoted throughout Europe as the leading "brain herb." Studies have shown that ginkgo biloba may be helpful in enhancing memory and mental function in aging brains, and can improve overall circulation to the brain and the extremities. Ginkgo Biloba contains flavonoids and terpenoids, two chemicals that have potent antioxidant properties which are capable of destroying free radicals that can potentially damage brain cells.
* Acetyl L-carnitine, an amino acid able to pass the blood/brain barrier to destroy free radicals that can damage brain cells. Acetyl L-carnitine has shown promise in reducing mental deterioration associated with Alzheimer's disease.
* Phosphatidyl serine complex, a major component of cell membranes in the brain. It helps increase the activity of neurotransmitters involved in learning, memory and mood.
* DHA (docosahexaenoic acid), an omega-3 essential fatty acid crucial for brain health. DHA is a rich brain-building fat found in human milk, and has a crucial influence on healthy brain development and function. A deficiency of DHA due to a poor diet can lead to a deficiency in brain function. DHA is considered so safe and so important for brain and eye development, it is added to infant formulas in over 60 countries (not yet including the U.S.).
* Choline, a precursor for acetylcholine, an important neurotransmitter involved in memory.
* Inositol, essential for cell formation and transporting fats within the body.
I had the answer to this question, but I . forgot.
Crossword puzzles help with your brain. Do lots of reading, play games anything to stimulate the mind, Eat lots of fruits and vegetables,. Get plenty of rest, exercise. Eat bluberries they help for memory. Take vitamins, and thats all I can think of so far.
If you find a cure let me know--- I lost a lot of my memory-- long story but I now try to do sudoku puzzles which somedays I whiz right through-others I can't even understand them (and it's not due to any meds cause Im not on any). Try to refresh your memory by looking at old pictures and remembering the past- this is what's really hard for me to remember-- if your memory loss is knowledge- then try reading books and papers that were general knowledge to you before and see if you can start understanding--take it slow and don't force it- I know if someone asks me something- I'm under the gun and I can never remember the answer- 2 hours later I can recite what it is because no one is pressuring me for the answer- you may be like that also-- and I don't understand why and neither do the docs...good luck to you....I hope I helped.
Make sure you are breathing deep enough. Take a deep breath once in awhile.
Do some puzzles or cross word puzzles, or any kind of thing that would challenge your brain. An active brain stays active as you age.
How can i forget that awful experience?
I was suffering from depression and anxiety.My childhood was bad,divorced parents..But the real source was that horrible love.I had very bad days.I used to cut myself too.For a year i regularly usedmy medication my doctor gave.But nothing happened.Worse and worse..and last summer i drank all of my drugs and committed suicide.Mother understood and they brought me to hospital.I had my stomach washed with hose.From my nose to my stomach.And i stayed at hospital for a night.My sister fainted because of me.We suffered from that awful night.Now i am fine.I don't want to die.But i can't forget that awful night.Some nights i cry in my bed because of this.Please some advice.I want to forget...
Answer:
The memories of that awful night may fade but you don't want to totally forget it. Remembering how awful it was to have your stomach pumped and how it hurt others you love may be what helps you work on doing everything you need to do to recover from depression and anxiety. If your medicine doesn't work again, tell your doctor. Often it takes trying several medications before you and your doctor find one or a combination that works the best for you. Also, studies have shown that people respond better to a combination of medicine and therapy.
I suffered with depression for six years after my "awful night" before I was finally put on the right medicine combination. Hang on because life can be better and you can be happy...I say this because if I could get better, almost anyone can.
Maybe you could try counseling
DONT EVER FORGET.USE IT FOR A PURPOSE.
you have to process your shame/guilt/feelings.
so you tried suicide. big deal. i almost did. and if i did, so what. you were ill. forgive yourself.
seek counseling. if after a few sessions you think it is not working, tell him/her. and if they don't help, try another. i got lucky (or blessed) and found a good therapist first try.
try your best to take it out of your thoughts on a daily basis, everytime you think of it, just remember how far you have come since, and how great life has been since, and the happyness that you have now each morning you wake up, and take in that breath your still alive. you didn't die. Pick up a hobby, something your passionate about that you can endulge in, for me it's just working out, running my concerns and worries out of my mind and body. Reading is another good one, so is writing things down. Write it in a diary, and take it to a peaceful place and burn the pages. let it go... move forward, holding on will only hold back what you have faught for since that night.
you will be just fine. confide in good friends, and take care, realizing these issues is half way there, handeling them is the hardest part.
You don't forget.. you learn from it.. it makes you a stronger better person. Been in your shoes and i do know .. life is good now all because of that. It's called when you hit rock bottom and now the only direction to go is up.
A good therapist might help.
I say this from the bottom of my heart.. don't dwell on the bad.. instead focus on the positive and take baby steps and eventually you will be ready to run!!
Good luck..
It should help to (no matter how hard tis!) keep telling yourself it never happened, maybe say that was just a bad dream. It will be hard to move on, my life is kinda like that right now. I'm trying to forget, and it's not even over yet.
For crying at night, think about something you did HAPPY that day or week. Or, watch a television show and take your mind off it until you're asleep.
Good luck and God bless
Girl, its time to Move On..EVERYONE has done something they regret--even Moses, and he was God's prophet. Moses killed a man, and God forgave him. Just know that part of being a human being is failing sometimes. We ALL fail--you me, Moses, Donald Trump, your mom, your dad, and even the person you think is the most perfect person. Honey, the thing you must remember is to DONT LOOK BACK. Instead--LOOK TO THE FUTURE. You can become a whole new person. You can be redeemed. Plan a good life for yourself. Follow your Dreams.
Look, do you know Halle Berry? She is the first black woman to win an Oscar in history. Do you know that she tried to kill herself? She did. She attempted suicide one day. But, she got herself together, followed her dreams, and now she is an Academy Award winning actress. Honey, you can do the same. Turn your life around--think about TOMORROW--and the great person you want to be. STOP thinking about the past. Its OVER. You Survived.. Let it God. God saved you for a Reason--find out what that reason is and life a Great Life!
talk to someone u trust, and drink starbucks.
Well, maybe you don`t need to forget to be fine, maybe you need to just confront it. Try not to run away from your past. I`m so glad you`re okay now because depression and anxiety really hurts. Well, my advice is, when you get upset about the night or don`t want to remember, the thing you gotta do is just remember about it and deal with it. You know? Think about the good stuff. Your sister fainted, so that means she cared about you. And your mom took you to the hospital because she cared. I guess that's the bright side. I`m the kind of person who just deals with things usually, and I don`t think you can really forget the past without it coming back. But that doesn`t have to be a bad thing. =] You`re you because of what happened in your past. Just try to focus on the good things.
Pepper, You will not be able to forget it, but the good news is, with proper counseling you will learn how to cope, deal, and can live a happy normal life, in spite of it. You need professional help so that you understand "why" you tried to commit suicide, and cause harm to yourself. I know that you stated some terrible experiences that you have suffered through, but, the underlying reasons need to be talked about.Obviously your past Doctor was not the one for you. A good therapist will help you explore past experiences,and try to connect them with present feelings and actions. I know it is something that you would like to forget, but, talking to someone, a good Doctor, will be detrimental to you, and help you move on. I was a victim of a heinous crime many years ago, I do not want to get into graphic details, but with the love and support of family, friends, and a good Doctor, I am leading a productive, fulfilling life. I was very fortunate, and know that you can too. Please get in touch if you would like to talk. Take care, and God Bless.
take it from someone who nows a painful experince no you cannot forget that memory will always be there i just got out from the hospital because i had an asma attack i could not breath in live support ...needles. colma for 3 weeks...i no it's diffrent but the pain was so unbareable...besides while i was ina colma..i was stuck in a bad dream it all felt so real
Answer:
The memories of that awful night may fade but you don't want to totally forget it. Remembering how awful it was to have your stomach pumped and how it hurt others you love may be what helps you work on doing everything you need to do to recover from depression and anxiety. If your medicine doesn't work again, tell your doctor. Often it takes trying several medications before you and your doctor find one or a combination that works the best for you. Also, studies have shown that people respond better to a combination of medicine and therapy.
I suffered with depression for six years after my "awful night" before I was finally put on the right medicine combination. Hang on because life can be better and you can be happy...I say this because if I could get better, almost anyone can.
Maybe you could try counseling
DONT EVER FORGET.USE IT FOR A PURPOSE.
you have to process your shame/guilt/feelings.
so you tried suicide. big deal. i almost did. and if i did, so what. you were ill. forgive yourself.
seek counseling. if after a few sessions you think it is not working, tell him/her. and if they don't help, try another. i got lucky (or blessed) and found a good therapist first try.
try your best to take it out of your thoughts on a daily basis, everytime you think of it, just remember how far you have come since, and how great life has been since, and the happyness that you have now each morning you wake up, and take in that breath your still alive. you didn't die. Pick up a hobby, something your passionate about that you can endulge in, for me it's just working out, running my concerns and worries out of my mind and body. Reading is another good one, so is writing things down. Write it in a diary, and take it to a peaceful place and burn the pages. let it go... move forward, holding on will only hold back what you have faught for since that night.
you will be just fine. confide in good friends, and take care, realizing these issues is half way there, handeling them is the hardest part.
You don't forget.. you learn from it.. it makes you a stronger better person. Been in your shoes and i do know .. life is good now all because of that. It's called when you hit rock bottom and now the only direction to go is up.
A good therapist might help.
I say this from the bottom of my heart.. don't dwell on the bad.. instead focus on the positive and take baby steps and eventually you will be ready to run!!
Good luck..
It should help to (no matter how hard tis!) keep telling yourself it never happened, maybe say that was just a bad dream. It will be hard to move on, my life is kinda like that right now. I'm trying to forget, and it's not even over yet.
For crying at night, think about something you did HAPPY that day or week. Or, watch a television show and take your mind off it until you're asleep.
Good luck and God bless
Girl, its time to Move On..EVERYONE has done something they regret--even Moses, and he was God's prophet. Moses killed a man, and God forgave him. Just know that part of being a human being is failing sometimes. We ALL fail--you me, Moses, Donald Trump, your mom, your dad, and even the person you think is the most perfect person. Honey, the thing you must remember is to DONT LOOK BACK. Instead--LOOK TO THE FUTURE. You can become a whole new person. You can be redeemed. Plan a good life for yourself. Follow your Dreams.
Look, do you know Halle Berry? She is the first black woman to win an Oscar in history. Do you know that she tried to kill herself? She did. She attempted suicide one day. But, she got herself together, followed her dreams, and now she is an Academy Award winning actress. Honey, you can do the same. Turn your life around--think about TOMORROW--and the great person you want to be. STOP thinking about the past. Its OVER. You Survived.. Let it God. God saved you for a Reason--find out what that reason is and life a Great Life!
talk to someone u trust, and drink starbucks.
Well, maybe you don`t need to forget to be fine, maybe you need to just confront it. Try not to run away from your past. I`m so glad you`re okay now because depression and anxiety really hurts. Well, my advice is, when you get upset about the night or don`t want to remember, the thing you gotta do is just remember about it and deal with it. You know? Think about the good stuff. Your sister fainted, so that means she cared about you. And your mom took you to the hospital because she cared. I guess that's the bright side. I`m the kind of person who just deals with things usually, and I don`t think you can really forget the past without it coming back. But that doesn`t have to be a bad thing. =] You`re you because of what happened in your past. Just try to focus on the good things.
Pepper, You will not be able to forget it, but the good news is, with proper counseling you will learn how to cope, deal, and can live a happy normal life, in spite of it. You need professional help so that you understand "why" you tried to commit suicide, and cause harm to yourself. I know that you stated some terrible experiences that you have suffered through, but, the underlying reasons need to be talked about.Obviously your past Doctor was not the one for you. A good therapist will help you explore past experiences,and try to connect them with present feelings and actions. I know it is something that you would like to forget, but, talking to someone, a good Doctor, will be detrimental to you, and help you move on. I was a victim of a heinous crime many years ago, I do not want to get into graphic details, but with the love and support of family, friends, and a good Doctor, I am leading a productive, fulfilling life. I was very fortunate, and know that you can too. Please get in touch if you would like to talk. Take care, and God Bless.
take it from someone who nows a painful experince no you cannot forget that memory will always be there i just got out from the hospital because i had an asma attack i could not breath in live support ...needles. colma for 3 weeks...i no it's diffrent but the pain was so unbareable...besides while i was ina colma..i was stuck in a bad dream it all felt so real
How can I fix my paranoid quality?
When listening to people or observing their attitude toward me, I just read too much out of them and often make exaggerated assumptions about their motives. This makes me angry at even little things, and restrain me from opening with all people.
Answer:
You're not being paranoid.
Realize how narcissistic everyone else is; people are not going to spend all of their energy focusing on you, they are too wound up in themselves, kind of like you.
Understand that only a handful of people in your life care about your existence. If you died today, I wouldn't give a fu%26lt;k and neither would the rest of the world. Being paranoid is ridiculous. Get over yourself.
Most people are concerned with themselves 24/7, they are not focusing on you. Someone told me that once. Also remember, the world doesn't revolve around you. I don't mean that in a bad way, it's just reality. Then there's always counseling.
First thing - if you smoke marijuana - try quitting it for a while and see if the symptoms persist. It's not an urban legend, it DOES make you paranoid.
If you don't smoke marijuana or the symptoms don't lessen after withdrawl, then consider seeing a psychologist or another mental health professional. Paranoia can affect you profoundly and it will affect your relationships with others in a negative fashion. The trick is to be able to trust the mental health professional - paranoia can be very hard to treat due to the lack of trust - how can you trust anyone if you think they have a hidden agenda, for example?
But that's up to you, not to me. If I were you, I'd try and get some help and if only at that one time, try and trust the best I could. I know it would be hard for you, but eyes on the prize: mental health and some measure of peace from your paranoia.
Answer:
You're not being paranoid.
Realize how narcissistic everyone else is; people are not going to spend all of their energy focusing on you, they are too wound up in themselves, kind of like you.
Understand that only a handful of people in your life care about your existence. If you died today, I wouldn't give a fu%26lt;k and neither would the rest of the world. Being paranoid is ridiculous. Get over yourself.
Most people are concerned with themselves 24/7, they are not focusing on you. Someone told me that once. Also remember, the world doesn't revolve around you. I don't mean that in a bad way, it's just reality. Then there's always counseling.
First thing - if you smoke marijuana - try quitting it for a while and see if the symptoms persist. It's not an urban legend, it DOES make you paranoid.
If you don't smoke marijuana or the symptoms don't lessen after withdrawl, then consider seeing a psychologist or another mental health professional. Paranoia can affect you profoundly and it will affect your relationships with others in a negative fashion. The trick is to be able to trust the mental health professional - paranoia can be very hard to treat due to the lack of trust - how can you trust anyone if you think they have a hidden agenda, for example?
But that's up to you, not to me. If I were you, I'd try and get some help and if only at that one time, try and trust the best I could. I know it would be hard for you, but eyes on the prize: mental health and some measure of peace from your paranoia.
How can i find someone to talk to about my problem?
i have been depressed for a few months now.i have not told my gp as i feel ashamed.i have lost my business and sunk into huge debt.i can no longer pay my bills and i am drinking heavily,i can not go on much longer
Answer:
you could speak to a councillor at the samaritans, or go back to your gp and demand some help. You could also give nhs direct a call and see if they can refer you
xxx
Next please.
change your g.p or find the courage to talk to your current one...you know you have to do something...maybe things have got to get worse before you take action...so that's the choice you have.is going to your doc worse than the situation you are currently in? get your **** over there!
you have already done a move by speaking out your problem,that's always the hardest part...
first of all,cut the drinking,it will worsen everything,i know its escapism but you got to veer away from it.
if you are into religion talk to your local priest,but other than that,ByeDr.com isnt the right place to talk about this matter
seek help from a medical team
PLEASE
WISH YOU BEST OF LUCK
It's time to hire a professional to help you navigate through these troubled waters, my friend. On the back of your insurance card, you'll find a number to call to get a visit to a psychiatrist pre-certified. Call it now. If you know anyone personally in the local area who has seen (and is satisfied with) his/her psychiatrist, find out if he/she is in network.
At this point, you most likely need to get started on meds. Psychotherapy will be helpful, as well .Research has proven time and time again that the optimal method for combatting depression is a two-pronged approach including both psychotherapy AND medication.
DO not delay. This likely will not improve on its own, and it sounds like your life is already unravelling.
Call today.
Hang in there,
~M~
get chatting to some nice young chicks on bebo, faceparty or profileheaven. works wonders after a stressfull day.
Why don't you go to AA then? Everyone there has been, or is where you are right now.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. The shame would be in letting this suck you down so far that you can't get back up. You can reverse this whole mess, you know.
If you don't feel that you can stop drinking right at this moment, ok. You still should go to a meeting (just don't drive drunk please).
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/?med...
dont feel ashamed just pop along to your doctor tell them whats going on, they see it all the time and you`ll feel a lot better. they also know of places you can go and talk about your problems. good luck.
get in touch with gp - can sort out helping
avoid further debt
best wishes
There is no need to feel ashamed about being depressed...telling someone is the best first step that you could possibly do. You're GP is there to listen and if needed, to refer you to a specialist, they are not there to judge.
Ring a helpline and talk to a trained councillor, they are there to help and are completely annonumus.
Good Luck : )
I'm sorry to hear about your problem, but you are not alone. It may feel like it but i can assure you're not. You need to talk to someone and not bottle it up cos that wont help you. If you can talk to your gp. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Talk about your situation to them as your first step. Secondly, seek legal advice. If you're in the uk go to the citizens advice bureau. They have brilliant tools to give you in order to deal with the loss of your business and how to handle your debt. You need to see them asap. They will help draw up letters to send out to the people you owe and get you on the right track. CAB are brilliant for this sort of thing. But dont give up hope and dont leave it. It wont help you and neither will the bottle you keep as company. We have all at some point in our lives gone through times like this and come out the other side, fitter and wiser. You can too. So take hold of those reigns and take control of your life again. I hope this has helped in some way. Good Luck!
If you are in UK check Thompson's Local telephone directory. Somewhere at the front you will find all the help you need from your local authority. Your problem[s] can be dealt with and you can get help swiftly. Be open and honest about your situation.
Good luck.
stop going to the bottle as everyone knows it does not take the problem away, hang in there this will pass i always wondered if this type of thing happens alot and it does most people has gone through the same as you, We went through it and we battled on for over 4 years now we are back on our feet and doing much better. Remember that if you fall of you bike you have to get on it agian . So leave the bottle and do your best to move on , take one day at a time. Make arrangements with the people you cant pay as they can become nasty should you just leave them Good luck my thoughts are with you as i know its not a very nice position to be in as most of your friends and family will also turn away but show them that you can do it
first thing u should stop drinking cos it wont solve your problem. there are many people around u who love and would like to help u. u just have to think of them e.g. your close friends. u have to forget that u r depressed and look forward for life cos u are going to meet lots of things like this. and about your debit your friends and family can help u to get over it.
Go to your doctor, explain to him that you are suffering from depression and ask for a referral to a psychologist.
There are short term help like the Samaritans. But you do need to see a psychologist to help you. I know the despair you feel and that feeling of panic and drowning. But don't give in. Stop drinking - It doesn't help. It's a depressant.
I found writing in a notebook all my thoughts and feelings helped to purge myself of all the dark thoughts. It doesn't matter what you write. And don't be afraid of crying. You have to let out all the bad emotions before they become to great that you explode. Once you have purged yourself of these emotions, then acceptance and finding your centre becomes easier. Also go to your bank, talk to them about your debt and ask for their help and advice. They are quite willing to help usually. But you have to go to them.
Don't put it off. The sooner you start, the sooner you recover.
Well do you think that drinking heavily is going to hep that sounds like a mini lecture but as you mentionn it you must know that it is true .
Go and see your Doctor the hardest step is the first step out of the door . Your business has failed but you as a human being need not unless you will it .The businass folding will resolve itself in time fimnacially . They cant get blood our t of a stone and I'm sure youn know that in America peolple often have six trys before they finally give up .
When you start again are you going to do the same kind of business think carefully if the market is boyant enough to support it . Of course it is very hard to see into the future so a little flexibility is anovel and will hold you in good stead however let us talk about your immmediate plan .
The doctor will put you on anti depresants , he will instruct you not to drink alchol , that is because alcohol is a depressant and works against teh medicine .
I assume you do not have any supportive infastructurew , as you dont mention any peolpe in your life accept this it could be an advantage as if you accepted help you may find you have to pay back alot more than you get eventually.
Finally I notice that you say you are ashamed dont be only feel shame if you have done something intentionally imoral you havent you were just trying to make a living .
I dont know how far you have gotten with your drinking ,but consider alcholics anonymous
well drink ing willnjot help. at the very least the money you are spending on drink could be paying off your bills. i suggest you contact acolohics anonymous and a debt counselling aganey NOT a loan company and do something positive to get yourself out of theis mess.
Trust me. I know how your feeling... I have had a lot of turmoil in my life over the last few years, then when you feel like your back on your feet, you can still fall. I recently went on a quest to find a better paying and more satisfying job, only to find I hated it, so I had to quit. After the first month I sunk into a deep depression and felt suicidal. (especially once the bills start piling up...) I have felt like this on and off for a few years as nothing ever seems to be where I want it no matter how hard I work at things, but I have OCD which makes me obsess. You just have to tell yourself "I refuse to worry about money... I will allow myself to be happy... etc."
Step 1. the WORST thing you can do is give up, FORCE yourself to get up every day and go out and do something positive.
- Look for some work (even part time) to keep you balanced till you get on your feet.
- Even do volunteer work for others less fortunate, this will help you put a positive spin on things... (such as I cried cause I had no shoes, till I met a man with no feet...) Remember things can be worse, be grateful for what you DO have, and remember it is in YOUR power to move ahead.
- Maybe travel somewhere where you can do some fruit picking perhaps? Money and travel puts a better perspective on things... a part time job at a nursing home? (even cleaning)
Think of what you have accomplished already in life (such as even being able to set up your own business... a lot of people are too afraid to even try that!)
Trust me, sticking your head in the sand and not taking action will only keep digging your hole further down, and it gets harder and harder to get out.
At the very least...
- ring up the places where you have debts, explain the situation... they will be very understanding usually and this will buy you some time to get on top of the bills.
Once again. NOT TAKING ACTION WILL ONLY MAKE THINGS WORSE...
DONT be ashamed to tell your doctor... medication may help ease your mind for the time being, and even just getting it out in the open and off your chest will help more than you know.
Just remember... You have the power, dont LET it get you down... others have felt this many times, you WILL come out of it... and in the meantime you may be pleasantly surprised what you find out about yourself.
Helping others will take your mind off your own problems... and back to the beginning is a very good place to start! Money isnt everything, try to be content with a warm blanket and food in your belly, water in your glass etc. Think how much worse it could be... (like perhaps if you were in prison or got told you had cancer and not long to live...) it is imperative to put a different spin on things and have acceptance for the situation and yourself. It seems you have the intelligence to make something of yourself again... so give yourself a break, take it easy, but start taking baby steps at getting back on your feet...
Make a list of your issues, and write next to them why you shouldnt worry / options on how you can fix them / and how it could be worse. Then set little goals for yourself each day and try to accomplish t least some of them. Making a to do list will also help.
Search online for forums to chat in... (be careful some people can be insensitive...)
Ask your doctor for a referral to a cousellor...
Or find a helpline you can ring (look in your phone directory- usually in the first few pages) they can also refer you onto someone...
But DONT BE HARD ON YOURSELF.
even the best of us fall at times, it is our ability to get up again when we stumble that defines our strength as a person.
Last word: "this too shall pass..." Keep up the fighting spirit my friend...
OK.lets deal with each issue instead of lumping them together!! No-one nowadays should be ashamed to speak to their doctor about depression. Make an appt now!!
Business's do fail..i have personal proof of this.and debts do mou nt up which is a very big worry. However, all companies have a legal obligation to try and help you clear those debts by an agreement. If you don't feel up to speaking to all your debtors..see the citizens advise bureau who will help. Do not contact any debt consolidation companies...they are bad news. The drinking can be dealt with leter on but try and curb it a little as it will add to your depression but i know how hard that is. You need to start turning things around. See yourself in 5 years time with all this behind you. It will have been a learning curve and we can all start again. Life is too precious to feel so desparate so start dealing with each issue and set yourself one small task every day so it doesn't seem so daunting. Keep strong!
im not a professional, but i like to think about wat the worst thing that cud happen wud be. i always figure that if all else fails, i can just go and be a squating hermit in the wilderness and spend my days writing and painting and doing odd jobs to buy myself cans of beans to live off of or some ****. that wudnt be so bad as long as u have the right attitude about it. i guess this wasnt really good advise. i dont know if ur being treated already, but it might be good to see a doctor. take up a hobby to consume ur interest. i dont know. if it makes u feel better im a hs valadictorian who is about to fail half of her classes her freshman yr of college due to depression. at least u made it further than me, right? u have the skills to clean things up. i like to think that problems clear up if u give them time and that u just have to chill and let them fall into place. remember to enjoy the little things in life when the big things are ****. remember that there are alot of ppl who suffer in the world, and that u are worthy of as much attention as they are for ur troubles, but sometimes u need to be the big player in finding the solution. i suggest making sure u spend as much time around other ppl as possible. i think ppl start getting their worst wen the have too much time alone to think about their troubles and worry over their next move. im prob too young to provide u with to much help when it comes to talking, but if ur interested in learning about how other ppls lives are who deal with depression--dont know, it kinda helps me to hear about the stories of others so ive begun to offer this one up on here:
http://helterskelterhereiam.blogspot.com...
i wish u well and am confident that u will see a brighter day. later
Go to your doctor and ask to be refered to a conceller
I went to my local doctor, i had fears of feeling embarrassed and alone and frustrated and confused, i needed help desperately through the loss of my child. I could have taken many directions but i chose to get help. Remember there is nothing to be ashamed about, they are there to help you. Be strong and take yourself there and get yourself sorted ok ? i wish you loads of luck ! I am now a counsellor and if you ever feel you need to let things out feel free to contact me on pollyrose3@hotmail.com
Answer:
you could speak to a councillor at the samaritans, or go back to your gp and demand some help. You could also give nhs direct a call and see if they can refer you
xxx
Next please.
change your g.p or find the courage to talk to your current one...you know you have to do something...maybe things have got to get worse before you take action...so that's the choice you have.is going to your doc worse than the situation you are currently in? get your **** over there!
you have already done a move by speaking out your problem,that's always the hardest part...
first of all,cut the drinking,it will worsen everything,i know its escapism but you got to veer away from it.
if you are into religion talk to your local priest,but other than that,ByeDr.com isnt the right place to talk about this matter
seek help from a medical team
PLEASE
WISH YOU BEST OF LUCK
It's time to hire a professional to help you navigate through these troubled waters, my friend. On the back of your insurance card, you'll find a number to call to get a visit to a psychiatrist pre-certified. Call it now. If you know anyone personally in the local area who has seen (and is satisfied with) his/her psychiatrist, find out if he/she is in network.
At this point, you most likely need to get started on meds. Psychotherapy will be helpful, as well .Research has proven time and time again that the optimal method for combatting depression is a two-pronged approach including both psychotherapy AND medication.
DO not delay. This likely will not improve on its own, and it sounds like your life is already unravelling.
Call today.
Hang in there,
~M~
get chatting to some nice young chicks on bebo, faceparty or profileheaven. works wonders after a stressfull day.
Why don't you go to AA then? Everyone there has been, or is where you are right now.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. The shame would be in letting this suck you down so far that you can't get back up. You can reverse this whole mess, you know.
If you don't feel that you can stop drinking right at this moment, ok. You still should go to a meeting (just don't drive drunk please).
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/?med...
dont feel ashamed just pop along to your doctor tell them whats going on, they see it all the time and you`ll feel a lot better. they also know of places you can go and talk about your problems. good luck.
get in touch with gp - can sort out helping
avoid further debt
best wishes
There is no need to feel ashamed about being depressed...telling someone is the best first step that you could possibly do. You're GP is there to listen and if needed, to refer you to a specialist, they are not there to judge.
Ring a helpline and talk to a trained councillor, they are there to help and are completely annonumus.
Good Luck : )
I'm sorry to hear about your problem, but you are not alone. It may feel like it but i can assure you're not. You need to talk to someone and not bottle it up cos that wont help you. If you can talk to your gp. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Talk about your situation to them as your first step. Secondly, seek legal advice. If you're in the uk go to the citizens advice bureau. They have brilliant tools to give you in order to deal with the loss of your business and how to handle your debt. You need to see them asap. They will help draw up letters to send out to the people you owe and get you on the right track. CAB are brilliant for this sort of thing. But dont give up hope and dont leave it. It wont help you and neither will the bottle you keep as company. We have all at some point in our lives gone through times like this and come out the other side, fitter and wiser. You can too. So take hold of those reigns and take control of your life again. I hope this has helped in some way. Good Luck!
If you are in UK check Thompson's Local telephone directory. Somewhere at the front you will find all the help you need from your local authority. Your problem[s] can be dealt with and you can get help swiftly. Be open and honest about your situation.
Good luck.
stop going to the bottle as everyone knows it does not take the problem away, hang in there this will pass i always wondered if this type of thing happens alot and it does most people has gone through the same as you, We went through it and we battled on for over 4 years now we are back on our feet and doing much better. Remember that if you fall of you bike you have to get on it agian . So leave the bottle and do your best to move on , take one day at a time. Make arrangements with the people you cant pay as they can become nasty should you just leave them Good luck my thoughts are with you as i know its not a very nice position to be in as most of your friends and family will also turn away but show them that you can do it
first thing u should stop drinking cos it wont solve your problem. there are many people around u who love and would like to help u. u just have to think of them e.g. your close friends. u have to forget that u r depressed and look forward for life cos u are going to meet lots of things like this. and about your debit your friends and family can help u to get over it.
Go to your doctor, explain to him that you are suffering from depression and ask for a referral to a psychologist.
There are short term help like the Samaritans. But you do need to see a psychologist to help you. I know the despair you feel and that feeling of panic and drowning. But don't give in. Stop drinking - It doesn't help. It's a depressant.
I found writing in a notebook all my thoughts and feelings helped to purge myself of all the dark thoughts. It doesn't matter what you write. And don't be afraid of crying. You have to let out all the bad emotions before they become to great that you explode. Once you have purged yourself of these emotions, then acceptance and finding your centre becomes easier. Also go to your bank, talk to them about your debt and ask for their help and advice. They are quite willing to help usually. But you have to go to them.
Don't put it off. The sooner you start, the sooner you recover.
Well do you think that drinking heavily is going to hep that sounds like a mini lecture but as you mentionn it you must know that it is true .
Go and see your Doctor the hardest step is the first step out of the door . Your business has failed but you as a human being need not unless you will it .The businass folding will resolve itself in time fimnacially . They cant get blood our t of a stone and I'm sure youn know that in America peolple often have six trys before they finally give up .
When you start again are you going to do the same kind of business think carefully if the market is boyant enough to support it . Of course it is very hard to see into the future so a little flexibility is anovel and will hold you in good stead however let us talk about your immmediate plan .
The doctor will put you on anti depresants , he will instruct you not to drink alchol , that is because alcohol is a depressant and works against teh medicine .
I assume you do not have any supportive infastructurew , as you dont mention any peolpe in your life accept this it could be an advantage as if you accepted help you may find you have to pay back alot more than you get eventually.
Finally I notice that you say you are ashamed dont be only feel shame if you have done something intentionally imoral you havent you were just trying to make a living .
I dont know how far you have gotten with your drinking ,but consider alcholics anonymous
well drink ing willnjot help. at the very least the money you are spending on drink could be paying off your bills. i suggest you contact acolohics anonymous and a debt counselling aganey NOT a loan company and do something positive to get yourself out of theis mess.
Trust me. I know how your feeling... I have had a lot of turmoil in my life over the last few years, then when you feel like your back on your feet, you can still fall. I recently went on a quest to find a better paying and more satisfying job, only to find I hated it, so I had to quit. After the first month I sunk into a deep depression and felt suicidal. (especially once the bills start piling up...) I have felt like this on and off for a few years as nothing ever seems to be where I want it no matter how hard I work at things, but I have OCD which makes me obsess. You just have to tell yourself "I refuse to worry about money... I will allow myself to be happy... etc."
Step 1. the WORST thing you can do is give up, FORCE yourself to get up every day and go out and do something positive.
- Look for some work (even part time) to keep you balanced till you get on your feet.
- Even do volunteer work for others less fortunate, this will help you put a positive spin on things... (such as I cried cause I had no shoes, till I met a man with no feet...) Remember things can be worse, be grateful for what you DO have, and remember it is in YOUR power to move ahead.
- Maybe travel somewhere where you can do some fruit picking perhaps? Money and travel puts a better perspective on things... a part time job at a nursing home? (even cleaning)
Think of what you have accomplished already in life (such as even being able to set up your own business... a lot of people are too afraid to even try that!)
Trust me, sticking your head in the sand and not taking action will only keep digging your hole further down, and it gets harder and harder to get out.
At the very least...
- ring up the places where you have debts, explain the situation... they will be very understanding usually and this will buy you some time to get on top of the bills.
Once again. NOT TAKING ACTION WILL ONLY MAKE THINGS WORSE...
DONT be ashamed to tell your doctor... medication may help ease your mind for the time being, and even just getting it out in the open and off your chest will help more than you know.
Just remember... You have the power, dont LET it get you down... others have felt this many times, you WILL come out of it... and in the meantime you may be pleasantly surprised what you find out about yourself.
Helping others will take your mind off your own problems... and back to the beginning is a very good place to start! Money isnt everything, try to be content with a warm blanket and food in your belly, water in your glass etc. Think how much worse it could be... (like perhaps if you were in prison or got told you had cancer and not long to live...) it is imperative to put a different spin on things and have acceptance for the situation and yourself. It seems you have the intelligence to make something of yourself again... so give yourself a break, take it easy, but start taking baby steps at getting back on your feet...
Make a list of your issues, and write next to them why you shouldnt worry / options on how you can fix them / and how it could be worse. Then set little goals for yourself each day and try to accomplish t least some of them. Making a to do list will also help.
Search online for forums to chat in... (be careful some people can be insensitive...)
Ask your doctor for a referral to a cousellor...
Or find a helpline you can ring (look in your phone directory- usually in the first few pages) they can also refer you onto someone...
But DONT BE HARD ON YOURSELF.
even the best of us fall at times, it is our ability to get up again when we stumble that defines our strength as a person.
Last word: "this too shall pass..." Keep up the fighting spirit my friend...
OK.lets deal with each issue instead of lumping them together!! No-one nowadays should be ashamed to speak to their doctor about depression. Make an appt now!!
Business's do fail..i have personal proof of this.and debts do mou nt up which is a very big worry. However, all companies have a legal obligation to try and help you clear those debts by an agreement. If you don't feel up to speaking to all your debtors..see the citizens advise bureau who will help. Do not contact any debt consolidation companies...they are bad news. The drinking can be dealt with leter on but try and curb it a little as it will add to your depression but i know how hard that is. You need to start turning things around. See yourself in 5 years time with all this behind you. It will have been a learning curve and we can all start again. Life is too precious to feel so desparate so start dealing with each issue and set yourself one small task every day so it doesn't seem so daunting. Keep strong!
im not a professional, but i like to think about wat the worst thing that cud happen wud be. i always figure that if all else fails, i can just go and be a squating hermit in the wilderness and spend my days writing and painting and doing odd jobs to buy myself cans of beans to live off of or some ****. that wudnt be so bad as long as u have the right attitude about it. i guess this wasnt really good advise. i dont know if ur being treated already, but it might be good to see a doctor. take up a hobby to consume ur interest. i dont know. if it makes u feel better im a hs valadictorian who is about to fail half of her classes her freshman yr of college due to depression. at least u made it further than me, right? u have the skills to clean things up. i like to think that problems clear up if u give them time and that u just have to chill and let them fall into place. remember to enjoy the little things in life when the big things are ****. remember that there are alot of ppl who suffer in the world, and that u are worthy of as much attention as they are for ur troubles, but sometimes u need to be the big player in finding the solution. i suggest making sure u spend as much time around other ppl as possible. i think ppl start getting their worst wen the have too much time alone to think about their troubles and worry over their next move. im prob too young to provide u with to much help when it comes to talking, but if ur interested in learning about how other ppls lives are who deal with depression--dont know, it kinda helps me to hear about the stories of others so ive begun to offer this one up on here:
http://helterskelterhereiam.blogspot.com...
i wish u well and am confident that u will see a brighter day. later
Go to your doctor and ask to be refered to a conceller
I went to my local doctor, i had fears of feeling embarrassed and alone and frustrated and confused, i needed help desperately through the loss of my child. I could have taken many directions but i chose to get help. Remember there is nothing to be ashamed about, they are there to help you. Be strong and take yourself there and get yourself sorted ok ? i wish you loads of luck ! I am now a counsellor and if you ever feel you need to let things out feel free to contact me on pollyrose3@hotmail.com
How can i find out more concerning forcing a person to receive medical care?
I know of someone who is mentally ill but because she still cares for herself (eats, and bathes) and hasnt tried to harm herself or anyone the courts won't allow her to be taken into medical custody. I know this person well enough to know this is not how she wants to live but the illness (bipolar) has control over her. Are there independent groups that help get past these legal red tape issues in order to truly get a person the help they need? If so who and what? You can email the info as well...
Answer:
Does she want help? Or is this something YOU want for her? You cannot force someone to get treatment unless they are a danger to themself or to others. Doesn't sound like it to me. If she wants help, contact her county's department of social services. If she has no insurance and is low income they will get her to the mental health department where she can see a doctor for either very little money or for free. Medications, too (if needed). If she doesn't want help (a lot of times people with mental illness think there is nothing wrong with them--that's part of the disease) there is nothing you can do. You can't force her.
You can call the county health department %26 tell them your concern, but there is no way to force the issue. To get that kind of assistance has to go through the court system.
The only way you can FORCE someone to get medical help is if they are a harm to themselves or someone else. You have already stated that this person is not. You can always continue to try and help her and perhaps that will influence her in wanting to seek out medical treatment. I wish the best for you and her~
with the best will in the world, you cant make someone get help unless they want to,the only way that you can get help is if there a danger to them self or others,try and persuade them to talk to their mental health team.
www.cchr.org
If she cares for herself and is no danger to herself or the community, why does she need care?
When she becomes unable to care for herself, or becomes dangerous, many communities have a law in place that can be invoked by a caregiver, police, or doctor to involuntarily commit a person--usually temporarily--for a period of crisis monitoring and care. You should find out about such a law in your community. In Florida, it is called The Baker Act. Before you try to have her confined under such a law, make sure that you understand the full import of the law in your community, and the full burden of proof that it requires.
On the Web..Go to: "Forced Mental Health Treatment"
Good Luck!
hey...I don't have an anwser for you, but a question, how are you able to update your questions? I am sorry for your friend and I hope that you are able to get the anwser you are seeking
You are co-dependent and need help as well. It is not normal to be obsessed with changing a person to accommodate what you feel they want to live like. I know someone like this as well. I got counseling and now I can appreciate how improving this part of my personality has actually helped the other person without THEM being expected to make any changes.
Answer:
Does she want help? Or is this something YOU want for her? You cannot force someone to get treatment unless they are a danger to themself or to others. Doesn't sound like it to me. If she wants help, contact her county's department of social services. If she has no insurance and is low income they will get her to the mental health department where she can see a doctor for either very little money or for free. Medications, too (if needed). If she doesn't want help (a lot of times people with mental illness think there is nothing wrong with them--that's part of the disease) there is nothing you can do. You can't force her.
You can call the county health department %26 tell them your concern, but there is no way to force the issue. To get that kind of assistance has to go through the court system.
The only way you can FORCE someone to get medical help is if they are a harm to themselves or someone else. You have already stated that this person is not. You can always continue to try and help her and perhaps that will influence her in wanting to seek out medical treatment. I wish the best for you and her~
with the best will in the world, you cant make someone get help unless they want to,the only way that you can get help is if there a danger to them self or others,try and persuade them to talk to their mental health team.
www.cchr.org
If she cares for herself and is no danger to herself or the community, why does she need care?
When she becomes unable to care for herself, or becomes dangerous, many communities have a law in place that can be invoked by a caregiver, police, or doctor to involuntarily commit a person--usually temporarily--for a period of crisis monitoring and care. You should find out about such a law in your community. In Florida, it is called The Baker Act. Before you try to have her confined under such a law, make sure that you understand the full import of the law in your community, and the full burden of proof that it requires.
On the Web..Go to: "Forced Mental Health Treatment"
Good Luck!
hey...I don't have an anwser for you, but a question, how are you able to update your questions? I am sorry for your friend and I hope that you are able to get the anwser you are seeking
You are co-dependent and need help as well. It is not normal to be obsessed with changing a person to accommodate what you feel they want to live like. I know someone like this as well. I got counseling and now I can appreciate how improving this part of my personality has actually helped the other person without THEM being expected to make any changes.
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