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How can i gain the confidence to speak to my doctor?

2010-05-25T18:34:00.001-07:00

I really would like to phone up my local doctor's clinic and make an appointment. I want to talk to him and ask my doctor so many questions.
I know i cannot diagnose myself over the internet, but im over 100% i have the things i look up everynight.

I feel i have: Social Anxiety, OCD and CSP. I know it seems that if i really wnated to get help, i would hve gone by now. But i just have this huge fear that he will say there is nothing wrong with me, im wasting my time etc.

Anyone know how to overcome this? Or should i not bother going?
Answer:
Please Go! Write down all your symptoms and things your thinking. Be honest with the Doctor and they will refer you to the Mental Health Professional you should be seeing. Trust that you know what is going on with yourself and just be honest. If the first Therapist does not work out go to another.

It will be worth your effort, believe me.

Well you just annouced to the world on yahoo so why wouldn't your doctor be less supportive..that is what he is there for.

Yes, you need to bother going. But talk to a therapist. Even in 2007, many regular medical doctors tend to dismiss complaints from females, especially young ones. Trying to diagnose yourself will drive you nutz.

Make an appointment with a counselor. Choose one you are comfortable with Male or Female and tell them. It is safe and easy TRUST YOURSELF YOU CAN DO THIS

Your doctor's job is to help you. If you talk to him/her and they make you feel uncomfortable, then THEY are not doing their job. It has nothing to do with you. Doctors know we are usually uncomfortable admitting there is something we feel is not right with us. They should make us feel comfortable and if you are made to feel like you are wasting their time, you might need to look for another doctor.

I honestly belive you should write all that you are worried about and how you feel. You should take your notes with you and ask the doctor everything you need to ask. Its his job to listen and answer you.
I call my kids doctor when ever I have a question, and I expect him to answer my call! If he doesn't I'll give him hell for it. Its my right to ask and to know.
The doctor would tell you what he thinks he can not force you to do anything you dont want to and if you dont like his answers then go to another doctor. Its as simple as that!
Good Luck and God Bless

You do need to go hun. There will always be anxiety about going, however if it is bothering you and causing you distress in your life , then please start looking for answers as to why you are feeling like that.
Good luck to you !

Sometimes you won't get a good doctor who doesn't genuinely listen to your fears. All they have to base their decisions on is what you tell them. Just be sure to stress how this is affecting your life. Definitely go though. Ask all of the questions that you have. All this will have been made harder by the fact that you probably have those things. Bring a friend if that would help.

I had the same problem about making myself clear. I knew I had depression, but I didn't want to admit it. (dang male pride, I thought I could tough it out)
It took a near breakdown in my counselor's office for me to make an appointment to see my doctor.
The counselor wrote everything I had to do and say, or I would have not been able to do it. I had to sneak a call from work (cell phones are forbidden) to talk to my doctor's office.
Please write everything down so you don't forget. A friend reminded me that the doctor is YOUR employee, you are the one paying the bill so make him or her listen.

First, make a written list of what you consider your symptoms and take it to the appointment you are going to make.

Second, ask a friend you trust to accompany you as an advocate who can share if you get tongue-tied.

Third, you may not want to go to a local doctor's clinic but to a mental health center with the symptoms you describe.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help, rather silly not to ask for help. Go!

Go!

You need to find a qualified therapist that really knows about social anxiety, OCD and CSP (I'm not sure what this last one is).

If you find someone that really knows these things and has experience, then you are not going to say ANYTHING to them that they have not already heard.

Keep in mind that OCD is NOT you. You are not OCD. Just because you may have very disturbing obsessive thoughts that does not mean you are bad or crazy or anything like that.

Everyone has weird thoughts. With OCD however, the thoughts get stuck and then the OCD sufferer starts to doubt themselves. "Gosh... if I'm thinking about this sooooo much it must mean that it is me." NOT TRUE. The thoughts bother you. The rituals (compulsions) bother you. You would not recommend them to anyone - right?

Have faith in YOU.

I belief that OCD sufferers tend to be very nice, kind-hearted people and OCD takes advantage of that by focusing on things that are most disturbing and painful.

OCD makes a person worry exessively about harm or doing harm to the people and things they care the most about. That is OCD not YOU. if it were YOU, it wouldn't bother you.

Definitely get help. Talk to your parents or other family members that you feel you can trust. Not only do you need to find a therapist that can help you also need support from loved-ones.

In your search for help, you need to find someone that knows cognitive behavior therapy / exposure response prevention. These are the techniques that have been shown by research to actually work and achieve long term relief.

Get help. Get support.

Getting your confidence:

OCD is not you.
YOU are not bad.
YOU are not OCD thoughts.
YOU are not crazy.
You are not alone.
OCD and social anxiety can be effectively treated.

If you are really worried about talking about all of this initially, write it down and take that with you to your Doctor so that you have something from which you can both work.

How can i gain super powers that will make me go through objects?

2010-05-25T18:34:00.000-07:00

i wanna be able to move through objects how can i gain this ability
Answer:
I have bestowed upon you these powers, but you must begin with semi-solids. Find a mature rose bush (wear goggles) and run through it. It will take several times, but keep practicing.

waitt do u mean in real life or in a video game%26gt; if u mean in real life then u cant gain sperpowers and if u mean a video game then it depends which one, but seriousky if u mean in real life, then... uhhh hemm

Human beings are not able to pass through solid objects, and as of yet, there's no technology that enables us to do so.

Also, there are no superpowers to speak of at ALL, let alone ones that defy the laws of physics.

Don't. That's dipping into Satan's realm. Bad Idea. I'll pray for you.

Lottie.I think the only people that can go through objects are dead people, ghosts

Come on over to my house. You dont need super powers. I have a nice wall I could put you through.

Run at whatever you want to go through and dont slow down

How can i gain my brain memory?

2010-05-25T18:33:00.002-07:00

Answer:
I heard if you eat blueberries it helps, they hold a B vitamin I think its like B12

There are certain exercises you can do. There are also many herbal supplements that claim to help brain functions including memory. I have been taking these, I am a sucker for anything that is supposed to help my memory.

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* Choline, a precursor for acetylcholine, an important neurotransmitter involved in memory.
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I had the answer to this question, but I . forgot.

Crossword puzzles help with your brain. Do lots of reading, play games anything to stimulate the mind, Eat lots of fruits and vegetables,. Get plenty of rest, exercise. Eat bluberries they help for memory. Take vitamins, and thats all I can think of so far.

If you find a cure let me know--- I lost a lot of my memory-- long story but I now try to do sudoku puzzles which somedays I whiz right through-others I can't even understand them (and it's not due to any meds cause Im not on any). Try to refresh your memory by looking at old pictures and remembering the past- this is what's really hard for me to remember-- if your memory loss is knowledge- then try reading books and papers that were general knowledge to you before and see if you can start understanding--take it slow and don't force it- I know if someone asks me something- I'm under the gun and I can never remember the answer- 2 hours later I can recite what it is because no one is pressuring me for the answer- you may be like that also-- and I don't understand why and neither do the docs...good luck to you....I hope I helped.

Make sure you are breathing deep enough. Take a deep breath once in awhile.

Do some puzzles or cross word puzzles, or any kind of thing that would challenge your brain. An active brain stays active as you age.

How can i forget that awful experience?

2010-05-25T18:33:00.001-07:00

I was suffering from depression and anxiety.My childhood was bad,divorced parents..But the real source was that horrible love.I had very bad days.I used to cut myself too.For a year i regularly usedmy medication my doctor gave.But nothing happened.Worse and worse..and last summer i drank all of my drugs and committed suicide.Mother understood and they brought me to hospital.I had my stomach washed with hose.From my nose to my stomach.And i stayed at hospital for a night.My sister fainted because of me.We suffered from that awful night.Now i am fine.I don't want to die.But i can't forget that awful night.Some nights i cry in my bed because of this.Please some advice.I want to forget...
Answer:
The memories of that awful night may fade but you don't want to totally forget it. Remembering how awful it was to have your stomach pumped and how it hurt others you love may be what helps you work on doing everything you need to do to recover from depression and anxiety. If your medicine doesn't work again, tell your doctor. Often it takes trying several medications before you and your doctor find one or a combination that works the best for you. Also, studies have shown that people respond better to a combination of medicine and therapy.

I suffered with depression for six years after my "awful night" before I was finally put on the right medicine combination. Hang on because life can be better and you can be happy...I say this because if I could get better, almost anyone can.

Maybe you could try counseling

DONT EVER FORGET.USE IT FOR A PURPOSE.

you have to process your shame/guilt/feelings.

so you tried suicide. big deal. i almost did. and if i did, so what. you were ill. forgive yourself.

seek counseling. if after a few sessions you think it is not working, tell him/her. and if they don't help, try another. i got lucky (or blessed) and found a good therapist first try.

try your best to take it out of your thoughts on a daily basis, everytime you think of it, just remember how far you have come since, and how great life has been since, and the happyness that you have now each morning you wake up, and take in that breath your still alive. you didn't die. Pick up a hobby, something your passionate about that you can endulge in, for me it's just working out, running my concerns and worries out of my mind and body. Reading is another good one, so is writing things down. Write it in a diary, and take it to a peaceful place and burn the pages. let it go... move forward, holding on will only hold back what you have faught for since that night.
you will be just fine. confide in good friends, and take care, realizing these issues is half way there, handeling them is the hardest part.

You don't forget.. you learn from it.. it makes you a stronger better person. Been in your shoes and i do know .. life is good now all because of that. It's called when you hit rock bottom and now the only direction to go is up.
A good therapist might help.
I say this from the bottom of my heart.. don't dwell on the bad.. instead focus on the positive and take baby steps and eventually you will be ready to run!!
Good luck..

It should help to (no matter how hard tis!) keep telling yourself it never happened, maybe say that was just a bad dream. It will be hard to move on, my life is kinda like that right now. I'm trying to forget, and it's not even over yet.

For crying at night, think about something you did HAPPY that day or week. Or, watch a television show and take your mind off it until you're asleep.

Good luck and God bless

Girl, its time to Move On..EVERYONE has done something they regret--even Moses, and he was God's prophet. Moses killed a man, and God forgave him. Just know that part of being a human being is failing sometimes. We ALL fail--you me, Moses, Donald Trump, your mom, your dad, and even the person you think is the most perfect person. Honey, the thing you must remember is to DONT LOOK BACK. Instead--LOOK TO THE FUTURE. You can become a whole new person. You can be redeemed. Plan a good life for yourself. Follow your Dreams.

Look, do you know Halle Berry? She is the first black woman to win an Oscar in history. Do you know that she tried to kill herself? She did. She attempted suicide one day. But, she got herself together, followed her dreams, and now she is an Academy Award winning actress. Honey, you can do the same. Turn your life around--think about TOMORROW--and the great person you want to be. STOP thinking about the past. Its OVER. You Survived.. Let it God. God saved you for a Reason--find out what that reason is and life a Great Life!

talk to someone u trust, and drink starbucks.

Well, maybe you don`t need to forget to be fine, maybe you need to just confront it. Try not to run away from your past. I`m so glad you`re okay now because depression and anxiety really hurts. Well, my advice is, when you get upset about the night or don`t want to remember, the thing you gotta do is just remember about it and deal with it. You know? Think about the good stuff. Your sister fainted, so that means she cared about you. And your mom took you to the hospital because she cared. I guess that's the bright side. I`m the kind of person who just deals with things usually, and I don`t think you can really forget the past without it coming back. But that doesn`t have to be a bad thing. =] You`re you because of what happened in your past. Just try to focus on the good things.

Pepper, You will not be able to forget it, but the good news is, with proper counseling you will learn how to cope, deal, and can live a happy normal life, in spite of it. You need professional help so that you understand "why" you tried to commit suicide, and cause harm to yourself. I know that you stated some terrible experiences that you have suffered through, but, the underlying reasons need to be talked about.Obviously your past Doctor was not the one for you. A good therapist will help you explore past experiences,and try to connect them with present feelings and actions. I know it is something that you would like to forget, but, talking to someone, a good Doctor, will be detrimental to you, and help you move on. I was a victim of a heinous crime many years ago, I do not want to get into graphic details, but with the love and support of family, friends, and a good Doctor, I am leading a productive, fulfilling life. I was very fortunate, and know that you can too. Please get in touch if you would like to talk. Take care, and God Bless.

take it from someone who nows a painful experince no you cannot forget that memory will always be there i just got out from the hospital because i had an asma attack i could not breath in live support ...needles. colma for 3 weeks...i no it's diffrent but the pain was so unbareable...besides while i was ina colma..i was stuck in a bad dream it all felt so real

How can I fix my paranoid quality?

2010-05-25T18:33:00.000-07:00

When listening to people or observing their attitude toward me, I just read too much out of them and often make exaggerated assumptions about their motives. This makes me angry at even little things, and restrain me from opening with all people.
Answer:
You're not being paranoid.

Realize how narcissistic everyone else is; people are not going to spend all of their energy focusing on you, they are too wound up in themselves, kind of like you.

Understand that only a handful of people in your life care about your existence. If you died today, I wouldn't give a fu%26lt;k and neither would the rest of the world. Being paranoid is ridiculous. Get over yourself.

Most people are concerned with themselves 24/7, they are not focusing on you. Someone told me that once. Also remember, the world doesn't revolve around you. I don't mean that in a bad way, it's just reality. Then there's always counseling.

First thing - if you smoke marijuana - try quitting it for a while and see if the symptoms persist. It's not an urban legend, it DOES make you paranoid.

If you don't smoke marijuana or the symptoms don't lessen after withdrawl, then consider seeing a psychologist or another mental health professional. Paranoia can affect you profoundly and it will affect your relationships with others in a negative fashion. The trick is to be able to trust the mental health professional - paranoia can be very hard to treat due to the lack of trust - how can you trust anyone if you think they have a hidden agenda, for example?

But that's up to you, not to me. If I were you, I'd try and get some help and if only at that one time, try and trust the best I could. I know it would be hard for you, but eyes on the prize: mental health and some measure of peace from your paranoia.

How can i find someone to talk to about my problem?

2010-05-25T18:32:00.002-07:00

i have been depressed for a few months now.i have not told my gp as i feel ashamed.i have lost my business and sunk into huge debt.i can no longer pay my bills and i am drinking heavily,i can not go on much longer
Answer:
you could speak to a councillor at the samaritans, or go back to your gp and demand some help. You could also give nhs direct a call and see if they can refer you

xxx

Next please.

change your g.p or find the courage to talk to your current one...you know you have to do something...maybe things have got to get worse before you take action...so that's the choice you have.is going to your doc worse than the situation you are currently in? get your **** over there!

you have already done a move by speaking out your problem,that's always the hardest part...

first of all,cut the drinking,it will worsen everything,i know its escapism but you got to veer away from it.

if you are into religion talk to your local priest,but other than that,ByeDr.com isnt the right place to talk about this matter
seek help from a medical team
PLEASE

WISH YOU BEST OF LUCK

It's time to hire a professional to help you navigate through these troubled waters, my friend. On the back of your insurance card, you'll find a number to call to get a visit to a psychiatrist pre-certified. Call it now. If you know anyone personally in the local area who has seen (and is satisfied with) his/her psychiatrist, find out if he/she is in network.

At this point, you most likely need to get started on meds. Psychotherapy will be helpful, as well .Research has proven time and time again that the optimal method for combatting depression is a two-pronged approach including both psychotherapy AND medication.

DO not delay. This likely will not improve on its own, and it sounds like your life is already unravelling.

Call today.

Hang in there,
~M~

get chatting to some nice young chicks on bebo, faceparty or profileheaven. works wonders after a stressfull day.

Why don't you go to AA then? Everyone there has been, or is where you are right now.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. The shame would be in letting this suck you down so far that you can't get back up. You can reverse this whole mess, you know.
If you don't feel that you can stop drinking right at this moment, ok. You still should go to a meeting (just don't drive drunk please).

http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/?med...

dont feel ashamed just pop along to your doctor tell them whats going on, they see it all the time and you`ll feel a lot better. they also know of places you can go and talk about your problems. good luck.

get in touch with gp - can sort out helping
avoid further debt
best wishes

There is no need to feel ashamed about being depressed...telling someone is the best first step that you could possibly do. You're GP is there to listen and if needed, to refer you to a specialist, they are not there to judge.
Ring a helpline and talk to a trained councillor, they are there to help and are completely annonumus.
Good Luck : )

I'm sorry to hear about your problem, but you are not alone. It may feel like it but i can assure you're not. You need to talk to someone and not bottle it up cos that wont help you. If you can talk to your gp. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Talk about your situation to them as your first step. Secondly, seek legal advice. If you're in the uk go to the citizens advice bureau. They have brilliant tools to give you in order to deal with the loss of your business and how to handle your debt. You need to see them asap. They will help draw up letters to send out to the people you owe and get you on the right track. CAB are brilliant for this sort of thing. But dont give up hope and dont leave it. It wont help you and neither will the bottle you keep as company. We have all at some point in our lives gone through times like this and come out the other side, fitter and wiser. You can too. So take hold of those reigns and take control of your life again. I hope this has helped in some way. Good Luck!

If you are in UK check Thompson's Local telephone directory. Somewhere at the front you will find all the help you need from your local authority. Your problem[s] can be dealt with and you can get help swiftly. Be open and honest about your situation.

Good luck.

stop going to the bottle as everyone knows it does not take the problem away, hang in there this will pass i always wondered if this type of thing happens alot and it does most people has gone through the same as you, We went through it and we battled on for over 4 years now we are back on our feet and doing much better. Remember that if you fall of you bike you have to get on it agian . So leave the bottle and do your best to move on , take one day at a time. Make arrangements with the people you cant pay as they can become nasty should you just leave them Good luck my thoughts are with you as i know its not a very nice position to be in as most of your friends and family will also turn away but show them that you can do it

first thing u should stop drinking cos it wont solve your problem. there are many people around u who love and would like to help u. u just have to think of them e.g. your close friends. u have to forget that u r depressed and look forward for life cos u are going to meet lots of things like this. and about your debit your friends and family can help u to get over it.

Go to your doctor, explain to him that you are suffering from depression and ask for a referral to a psychologist.
There are short term help like the Samaritans. But you do need to see a psychologist to help you. I know the despair you feel and that feeling of panic and drowning. But don't give in. Stop drinking - It doesn't help. It's a depressant.
I found writing in a notebook all my thoughts and feelings helped to purge myself of all the dark thoughts. It doesn't matter what you write. And don't be afraid of crying. You have to let out all the bad emotions before they become to great that you explode. Once you have purged yourself of these emotions, then acceptance and finding your centre becomes easier. Also go to your bank, talk to them about your debt and ask for their help and advice. They are quite willing to help usually. But you have to go to them.
Don't put it off. The sooner you start, the sooner you recover.

Well do you think that drinking heavily is going to hep that sounds like a mini lecture but as you mentionn it you must know that it is true .
Go and see your Doctor the hardest step is the first step out of the door . Your business has failed but you as a human being need not unless you will it .The businass folding will resolve itself in time fimnacially . They cant get blood our t of a stone and I'm sure youn know that in America peolple often have six trys before they finally give up .

When you start again are you going to do the same kind of business think carefully if the market is boyant enough to support it . Of course it is very hard to see into the future so a little flexibility is anovel and will hold you in good stead however let us talk about your immmediate plan .
The doctor will put you on anti depresants , he will instruct you not to drink alchol , that is because alcohol is a depressant and works against teh medicine .
I assume you do not have any supportive infastructurew , as you dont mention any peolpe in your life accept this it could be an advantage as if you accepted help you may find you have to pay back alot more than you get eventually.
Finally I notice that you say you are ashamed dont be only feel shame if you have done something intentionally imoral you havent you were just trying to make a living .
I dont know how far you have gotten with your drinking ,but consider alcholics anonymous

well drink ing willnjot help. at the very least the money you are spending on drink could be paying off your bills. i suggest you contact acolohics anonymous and a debt counselling aganey NOT a loan company and do something positive to get yourself out of theis mess.

Trust me. I know how your feeling... I have had a lot of turmoil in my life over the last few years, then when you feel like your back on your feet, you can still fall. I recently went on a quest to find a better paying and more satisfying job, only to find I hated it, so I had to quit. After the first month I sunk into a deep depression and felt suicidal. (especially once the bills start piling up...) I have felt like this on and off for a few years as nothing ever seems to be where I want it no matter how hard I work at things, but I have OCD which makes me obsess. You just have to tell yourself "I refuse to worry about money... I will allow myself to be happy... etc."

Step 1. the WORST thing you can do is give up, FORCE yourself to get up every day and go out and do something positive.
- Look for some work (even part time) to keep you balanced till you get on your feet.
- Even do volunteer work for others less fortunate, this will help you put a positive spin on things... (such as I cried cause I had no shoes, till I met a man with no feet...) Remember things can be worse, be grateful for what you DO have, and remember it is in YOUR power to move ahead.
- Maybe travel somewhere where you can do some fruit picking perhaps? Money and travel puts a better perspective on things... a part time job at a nursing home? (even cleaning)

Think of what you have accomplished already in life (such as even being able to set up your own business... a lot of people are too afraid to even try that!)

Trust me, sticking your head in the sand and not taking action will only keep digging your hole further down, and it gets harder and harder to get out.

At the very least...
- ring up the places where you have debts, explain the situation... they will be very understanding usually and this will buy you some time to get on top of the bills.
Once again. NOT TAKING ACTION WILL ONLY MAKE THINGS WORSE...

DONT be ashamed to tell your doctor... medication may help ease your mind for the time being, and even just getting it out in the open and off your chest will help more than you know.

Just remember... You have the power, dont LET it get you down... others have felt this many times, you WILL come out of it... and in the meantime you may be pleasantly surprised what you find out about yourself.

Helping others will take your mind off your own problems... and back to the beginning is a very good place to start! Money isnt everything, try to be content with a warm blanket and food in your belly, water in your glass etc. Think how much worse it could be... (like perhaps if you were in prison or got told you had cancer and not long to live...) it is imperative to put a different spin on things and have acceptance for the situation and yourself. It seems you have the intelligence to make something of yourself again... so give yourself a break, take it easy, but start taking baby steps at getting back on your feet...

Make a list of your issues, and write next to them why you shouldnt worry / options on how you can fix them / and how it could be worse. Then set little goals for yourself each day and try to accomplish t least some of them. Making a to do list will also help.

Search online for forums to chat in... (be careful some people can be insensitive...)
Ask your doctor for a referral to a cousellor...
Or find a helpline you can ring (look in your phone directory- usually in the first few pages) they can also refer you onto someone...

But DONT BE HARD ON YOURSELF.
even the best of us fall at times, it is our ability to get up again when we stumble that defines our strength as a person.

Last word: "this too shall pass..." Keep up the fighting spirit my friend...

OK.lets deal with each issue instead of lumping them together!! No-one nowadays should be ashamed to speak to their doctor about depression. Make an appt now!!
Business's do fail..i have personal proof of this.and debts do mou nt up which is a very big worry. However, all companies have a legal obligation to try and help you clear those debts by an agreement. If you don't feel up to speaking to all your debtors..see the citizens advise bureau who will help. Do not contact any debt consolidation companies...they are bad news. The drinking can be dealt with leter on but try and curb it a little as it will add to your depression but i know how hard that is. You need to start turning things around. See yourself in 5 years time with all this behind you. It will have been a learning curve and we can all start again. Life is too precious to feel so desparate so start dealing with each issue and set yourself one small task every day so it doesn't seem so daunting. Keep strong!

im not a professional, but i like to think about wat the worst thing that cud happen wud be. i always figure that if all else fails, i can just go and be a squating hermit in the wilderness and spend my days writing and painting and doing odd jobs to buy myself cans of beans to live off of or some ****. that wudnt be so bad as long as u have the right attitude about it. i guess this wasnt really good advise. i dont know if ur being treated already, but it might be good to see a doctor. take up a hobby to consume ur interest. i dont know. if it makes u feel better im a hs valadictorian who is about to fail half of her classes her freshman yr of college due to depression. at least u made it further than me, right? u have the skills to clean things up. i like to think that problems clear up if u give them time and that u just have to chill and let them fall into place. remember to enjoy the little things in life when the big things are ****. remember that there are alot of ppl who suffer in the world, and that u are worthy of as much attention as they are for ur troubles, but sometimes u need to be the big player in finding the solution. i suggest making sure u spend as much time around other ppl as possible. i think ppl start getting their worst wen the have too much time alone to think about their troubles and worry over their next move. im prob too young to provide u with to much help when it comes to talking, but if ur interested in learning about how other ppls lives are who deal with depression--dont know, it kinda helps me to hear about the stories of others so ive begun to offer this one up on here:

http://helterskelterhereiam.blogspot.com...

i wish u well and am confident that u will see a brighter day. later

Go to your doctor and ask to be refered to a conceller

I went to my local doctor, i had fears of feeling embarrassed and alone and frustrated and confused, i needed help desperately through the loss of my child. I could have taken many directions but i chose to get help. Remember there is nothing to be ashamed about, they are there to help you. Be strong and take yourself there and get yourself sorted ok ? i wish you loads of luck ! I am now a counsellor and if you ever feel you need to let things out feel free to contact me on pollyrose3@hotmail.com

How can i find out more concerning forcing a person to receive medical care?

2010-05-25T18:32:00.001-07:00

I know of someone who is mentally ill but because she still cares for herself (eats, and bathes) and hasnt tried to harm herself or anyone the courts won't allow her to be taken into medical custody. I know this person well enough to know this is not how she wants to live but the illness (bipolar) has control over her. Are there independent groups that help get past these legal red tape issues in order to truly get a person the help they need? If so who and what? You can email the info as well...
Answer:
Does she want help? Or is this something YOU want for her? You cannot force someone to get treatment unless they are a danger to themself or to others. Doesn't sound like it to me. If she wants help, contact her county's department of social services. If she has no insurance and is low income they will get her to the mental health department where she can see a doctor for either very little money or for free. Medications, too (if needed). If she doesn't want help (a lot of times people with mental illness think there is nothing wrong with them--that's part of the disease) there is nothing you can do. You can't force her.

You can call the county health department %26 tell them your concern, but there is no way to force the issue. To get that kind of assistance has to go through the court system.

The only way you can FORCE someone to get medical help is if they are a harm to themselves or someone else. You have already stated that this person is not. You can always continue to try and help her and perhaps that will influence her in wanting to seek out medical treatment. I wish the best for you and her~

with the best will in the world, you cant make someone get help unless they want to,the only way that you can get help is if there a danger to them self or others,try and persuade them to talk to their mental health team.

www.cchr.org

If she cares for herself and is no danger to herself or the community, why does she need care?

When she becomes unable to care for herself, or becomes dangerous, many communities have a law in place that can be invoked by a caregiver, police, or doctor to involuntarily commit a person--usually temporarily--for a period of crisis monitoring and care. You should find out about such a law in your community. In Florida, it is called The Baker Act. Before you try to have her confined under such a law, make sure that you understand the full import of the law in your community, and the full burden of proof that it requires.

On the Web..Go to: "Forced Mental Health Treatment"

Good Luck!

hey...I don't have an anwser for you, but a question, how are you able to update your questions? I am sorry for your friend and I hope that you are able to get the anwser you are seeking

You are co-dependent and need help as well. It is not normal to be obsessed with changing a person to accommodate what you feel they want to live like. I know someone like this as well. I got counseling and now I can appreciate how improving this part of my personality has actually helped the other person without THEM being expected to make any changes.

How can I find energy to work, take care of the kids and still be civilized? I seem to be beat all day long!?

2010-05-25T18:32:00.000-07:00

I have three kids, work several "at home" jobs and have to stay up late to get everything done. I am a zombie and have not figured out how to manage my time, space, priorities yet. I need suggestions.
Answer:
Do you put water in your gas tank if you want your car to take you somewhere?

Start by eating healthier. It may sound too simple, or absurd, but people forget that we are biological organisms that didn't evolve by eating more preservatives. Your body needs good fuel to do good things. If you give your body crap to digest, it will use more energy to do so.

Stimulants like caffeine are only a 1 or 2 hour boost, and you crash immediately after. They also mess up your normal rythyms. Cavemen didn't drink coffee. Your body doesn't need caffeine.

After, focus on your stresses and eliminate them one by one. Don't start a project until the other is finished. Learn what makes you happy, and keep it close. Lose what you don't need, as they will bring you down in time by taking up your time.

Red Bull鈩?It gives you wiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiings!

How can I find a way to sleep at night without some kind of medication?

2010-05-25T18:31:00.002-07:00

I can never fall asleep at night, I lie in my bed for hours thinking about what happened that day, what will happen tomorrow, and what has happened in the past. I've tried to meditate before going to bed but it just doesn't work.

When I finally do get to bed, I wake up a few hours later and start my way of thinking all over again. Usually it's something sad that I end up thinking about.

The only way I can fall asleep is to picture myself lying there, breathing, while thinking "inhale, exhale" but still my mind wanders while picture that AND saying inhale exhale. How can I make myself fall to sleep?
Answer:
Exercise in the evenings between 5pm to 8pm. Exercising helps release endorphins in your blood. The blood carries endorphins to your brain.

Avoid caffeinated and energy drinks 4hours before bed because they linger for a long time in your blood stream. Energy drinks will remain in your blood for up to 8 hours and will prevent you from leeping. Caffeinated drinks are diuretics and will keep your kidney active, thus interfering with your sleep cycle, as you have to keep going to the toilet.

Eat at least 4 hours before your "usual" bedtime. 2 hours before bed take a warm glass of milk with a medium or small banana; this increases the secretion of serotonin and melatonin, which help give you a sense of well being/euphoria and help induce sleep.

Someone like you, who seems like an anxious person might also benefit from massages right before you sleep; ask your partner/lover to give you a massage. Also,you might want to consider eating fish at least 3 times a week or taking omega fish oil supplements. Fish or omega oil supplements help with moods--the whole mechanism is too complicated to explain here, however, it works; it may help your mood.

Tai chi is very good for people with anxiety/stress issues. In Tai Chi, you're taught compsure, how to maintain calmness and reduce stress. If you can't meditate, Tai Chi is the next best thing to relaxing yourself. You might want to enrol in some classes. Hope the tips help you.

Exercise vigorously for at least 1/2 hour per day during the day, no exceptions, but NOT AT NIGHT. Avoid ALL stimulants including caffeine, all day long. Create a bedtime ritual, that lasts at least 30 minutes, including brushing teeth, etc... Also 2 hours before bed limit all entertainment to reading. No computer or tv or phone calls.

sadly, I have a tendency to go through this little process quite often myself. What helps to take my mind off of everything sometimes is playing some really soothing music that i can sing or hum along to in the dark as i'm laying there trying to fall asleep. For some reason, the singing along gets my mind off of all the other incessant things going on in my life.

Another thing I've tried to do is write out a lot of how I feel right before i feel. Whether online or in a journal, I think that writing this kind of purges the mind of all the busy stuff that goes on in there, and doing this prior to laying down gets me pretty tired and clears my head.

hope you get some rest soon.

There are a few things that can help you sleep at night.

One of them is exercise. Are you getting enough exercise? If you are, your body should be tired when it's time to go to bed.

Are you eating sugary foods or anything with caffeine in it before bed? Too much sugar or caffeine in your system can keep you up.

Sometimes watching TV or working on the computer right before bed can keep us up. It is recommended to turn them off at least a half hour before bed.

One thing that can help you fall asleep is anything lavendar scent. I hear it calms the nerves. Bubble bath, lavendar oil on the pillow or lotion. breathe it in.

Good luck, sleepless!

Avoid sugars and caffine and naps, talk to your doctor, make a routine for eating, pottying, bedtime, wake up time, exercising and so on. Also if your bed isn't comfortable fix that.. My boyfriend got a new bed because of his back and he sleeps like a baby now.

Sounds like you might have a bit of anxeity-I'm deffinatly no doctor-but sounds like stress or something like that. Try venting, lowering your stress level, relax, sit in a warm bath surrounded by a lavender scent listening to soothing music or meditate instead of sitting in the tub.

Or perhaps you have a small unnoticable pain that wakes you up, maybe try some Tylonol PM it helps me, but take it about 2 hours before you plan on sleeping and be sure you can devote 7 hours to sleeping or its hard to get up and around.

And lastly, my grama "taught" me how to fall asleep. Lay in bed, get comfy, don't move at all. Count slowly to 1000. If you move start back at one. I think the highest I've ever got is about 19 lol

Good Luck and if you havn't yet I'd be sure to see a doctor about it if I were you

How can I face my mother??

2010-05-25T18:31:00.001-07:00

I'm 20 years old and I have something like agoraphobia and emotional disorder,so I moved back to my mothers home because I was getting crazy.
Now that I live with my family (mother,half brother and step father who's nones real father) I'm staying all the time in my room and don't bother anyone but my mother insists to talk to me like I am a sick person and I really hate this. Basically I don't want her to talk to me at all and so I used to shout at her or to ignore her but she just can't understand! What can I do?
Answer:
Give her some literature on your disorder that explains your desire to be alone and not bothered. Maybe that will help.

Well, basically you are a sick person. You need help for your problem. Agoraphobia is a real problem and you need to start counseling immediately. Your mom loves you and wants to help you. By talking to you she is trying to ease you into a social status even it means starting to socialize with just one person at a time. Seek professional counseling immediately this is not only ruining your life, but the lives of those who love you.

Maybe she care about you.
How about getting professional help.
Take mom along so she can understand too.

you need to have respect for your mother %26 stop being such a little snot-face. Your mom cares about you %26 is concerned for your well being. If you have a problen with the way she talks to you then tell her, respectfully, like you would any human being. Do not shout at or ignore her. If you continue to do so then you're an ungrateful little brat %26 she should kick you out of the house!

You shouldn't shut out your mother. Allow her to help you. Or else, why bother to move back home if you don't want anything to do with her?

You need to seek help. Find a mental health professional in your area and work through your emotional and mental issues.

I am not saying this to hurt only to help. Get the help you need now before you put too many layers between yourself and those who wish to help you.

Good luck. Seek help today.

KK

Well your mother is concerned about you like any good mother would be. She may want to make sure you are not a threat to yourself or anyone else. Does she think you are sucidual. You can talk to her about it when the both of you are calm, and try not to be mean to her. Trying being her for a minute, if it was the other way around how would you feel and how would you react. It is also commendable that she is allowing you to live in her house, she could just allow you to be admitted into a psyche ward, and allow you to be medicated and lost to the system. Give your mom some slack, talk to her but be gentle and sensitive. She is your mother, she is human just like you are and she also has feelings as well. Think about her feelings and her wishes, and think about how you want her to relate and react to you, and try to consider her feelings about this, and talk to her gently. If you think you will shout, get a mature adult that will not be bias, and maybe they can serve as a mediator.

Good Luck

It sounds like your mom is trying to help you. If you don't want to change, that would be annoying. Shouting at her or ignoring her is rude. You're 20, so she doesn't really have an obligation to give you a room.

It sounds like you need to get some help. That can be frightening, but it's not going to go away on it's own. You can't expect to stay holed up at your mother's forever. You have to deal with it sooner or later. You need to go see a doctor and be referred to a counselor. Some of your problem may be a chemical imbalance. If that's the case, medication could help you. Why don't you ask your mother to help you make a doctor's appointment? It would be a step in the right direction and it would probably ease your mother's mind. No doubt she's worried about you. Get help. Life is too short to spend it being uncomfortable when you don't have to. Good luck.

For anyone who hasn't been in this situation, it is natural to resent help. Of course your mother doesn't understand and you should sit down with her and tell her how you're feeling. This will prevent conflict in the future. For those who have insulted him, nice compassion there - I hope someone is as thoughtful when you're not feeling great. Agoraphobia can't be fully understood by someone who hasn't been there and I know how awful it can feel.

Panic attacks are quite prevalent in imagining the worst scenario. Of course your are frightened. Fear is really anger. Forgive yourself and others. I hope you're family knows about your situation and is supporting you. Get out of that room and go outside for a few minutes. Enjoy the nature God has given us. When you get more Vitimin D from the sun, you will feel much better. Start when you do feel better by walking a little distance from home. Get a cassett playing and listen to your favorite music but not wired music that can hurt you.
God bless you and please try.

I used to stay all the time in my room when I was 20. My stepdad literally grabbed me and tossed me out the front door. He said don't come back until you get a job. I walked 5 miles and came back with a small job. That led me to biking to work every day. Then, when I had $1500 saved, I bought a 1979 Firebird. I found weights that somebody was throwing out. I took them home and used them. I read about vitamins and minerals. Then I got a cheap apartment... and life went on.

sit her down and talk to her and explain it to her. Or write it in a letter and give it to her. Even if it hurts. THe truth hurts.

How can I escape my depression and anxiety without drugs?

2010-05-25T18:31:00.000-07:00

I just want drugs, anything to make me feel better. god I miss doing blow.
Answer:
If it's situational depression, you can probably get by with more or intense exercise and counseling. If it's clinical depression, you might need some medication to help for a while, but yes, it would indeed be good to resolve this without dependence on medications.
Apart from clinical depression, most depression is caused by 'putting your hope in the wrong place.' Talk to a counselor for direction, and have lunches with a friend who is willing to listen to you. If cost is an issue, local churches usually offer free counseling. Professional counselors are good too, but there is no need to see them for more than 2 years...then you are considered dependent on them.

Try counseling.

I was under the same situation now i know one of the best ways to make you feel good is relaxation .You really need to do that .Working out also is very useful ,plus try to avoid bad thoughts as much as you can ,or at least dont go to deep with them.try to dress up well and in lively colors .try to meet your good friends more often and talk to them.but let the drugs be the last thing you try ...

See http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 2 %26 6, and www.drdrew.com Speaking from experience, the longer you go without it, the easier it gets, but keep occupied.

narconon.org

How can i eliminate the pressure and stress and calm myself whenever i take a test?

2010-05-25T18:30:00.002-07:00

im 16. im usually an "A" student but whenever i take a quiz or test, i get "Cs"!! how can i eliminate this?
Answer:
The night before, go over everything that'll be on the test. Then go to sleep. That's the best way to remember what you'll be being tested on. When you wake up do these simple relaxation exercises: Starting at the top of your body, clench your jaw, then relax it. Do the same with your shoulders, arms, hands, stomach, buttocks, legs, and feet.. Get up and eat a good breakfast. There. You've done all you can do. If you start feeling anxious at school, do those relaxation exercises. They work. Good luck to you!! I'd love to hear how it went!!

call the md for a mild anti anxiety drug

Practice the homework more. The tests and quizes are usually similar to homework. If you do good and understand the homework, you should do fine on tests and quizes.

Try breathing... deep breath in... deep breath out.. i dont get nervous unless i know i havent gone over the things i learnt in class...and i dont understand it... but i dont get nervous... try the breathing stuff.. :D gud luk

i chew gum or have some other snack. i also just constrate on the paper not whats going around me.

square breathing

Lorazapam. The brand name is Ativan.

This is the basic med that Docs prescribe for anxiety. It will get you down fast. The sub lingual (under the tongue version works the fastest)

It works!

Just knowing that nothing important will happen and if happen its not important

Read a book and take a course on NLP. This will help you focus in when you need it most.

HOW CAN i ELIMINATE NEGATIVE STRESS??

2010-05-25T18:30:00.001-07:00

there are so may things going on right now and i'm stressed what can i do to relax and really feel good about everything...??
Answer:
My experience has been to run. There is something about the breathing, sweating and the fact the jerks that create the stress are too lazy to run with me i can really be alone and at peace for the duration of my run. No cell phone. No questions, no paperwork... just me and myself and a little peace. Careful though exercise can be very addictive. watch your bathroom scale and be cautious not to over do it. You will be surprised how good it can make you feel about yourself and the world. Start with a walk build up to a jog before you know you will easily run 45 minutes at a time. Good luck to you- let the endorphins roll!

Here is a link to a page in an on-line booklet on that will give you several practical things you can do to lessen stress and feel less threatened or overwhelmed in your environment.
http://www.scientologyhandbook.org/lesse...
Feel better!

How can i educate my partner about my depression without scaring him?

2010-05-25T18:30:00.000-07:00

I feel like he thinks that suffering from depression is some decision I've made that I can just snap out of. He gets frustrated when I cry for any reason and acts as if I'm being impolite or simply seeking attention. He gets pouty and says "I don't like it when you cry". As if that's going to change anything? He has never been close to anyone with depression (or anyone with any sorts of problems whatsoever it sometimes seems) so he spends a lot of time in denial about problems people face. Are there any good websites about depression that are geared towards people in a relationship with a depressed person? I want him to understand that my depression isn't just "in my head" but I also don't want to scare him away. In the past it seemed like he was giving me an ultimatum. As if to say "give up this depression act or you'll lose me". I've tried to tell him about it before but it's as if he doesn't want to believe me. I hope he'll be more open to information from an offical source.
Answer:
I am currently suffering with depression and had to tell my partner how I was feeling and what I was going through.
Basically, all I did was sit him down and say to him that I was feeling really down in myself and that although I knew that he hadn't any experience with anyone close to him having depression, I would try to explain it to him as best I could.

I think the best way is to be frank, open and honest without being patronising. Tell him that while you know it is hard for him to see you this way, it is equally hard for you to have these thoughts and emotions that you don't really understand yourself and sometimes can't control.

Although websites are an invaluable source of information, they tend towards the generic, which may not be too helpful for your partner, as everyone suffers depression differently.

You could also try keeping a diary and allowing him access to it. This way, when you are having a "bad" day, you can write down everything that is going on inside your head and let him see it in black and white. Also, write in it when you're having a "not so bad" day and your partner can see the difference in mood and emotions.

I hope this helps a little, I know it isn't easy, especially if your partner is showing signs of frustration or negativity towards you or your depression. You could always try telling him that sometimes his attitude towards how you are feeling doesn't help and that you need him to be there for you and that you're trying to help him understand you and where you're coming from.

This is a wrong time to discuss your depression with anyone except your counselor - the Virginia Tech shooter was suffering from depression.

Do you think keeping him as your partner is really healthy right now? He sounds unfeeling and cold-- not exactly the type of person to help you with your healing. If you feel he's giving you an ultimatum, I think it's time to dump him and focus on getting well.

type in living with deppression, on you home page..but too me it sounds like your partener has problems of his own ?. good luck

depression is an illness. when he gets a cold, flu or toothache ,tell him to snap out of it. when he fails he might understand what you mean. in the meantime he should be made to realise what your situation is. you need his support. i hope you get it

He sounds like a very cold unfeeling person. I hate to say it, but I don't think you'll get anywhere with him, he clearly doesn't want to understand what you're going through. As someone above said, if it was a broken leg, or the flu, he'd be understanding, but because it's something emotional he's reacting like you're putting it on, which is basically victimising you for your illness.

What you need to show him is this perhaps

http://www.mind.org.uk/information/bookl...

which is an online booklet about depression. Also, try and explain to him that depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain which causes these symptoms. Other chemical imbalances can causes stuff such as schizophrenia and psychotic episodes, which you could also show him. He sounds like he's led an extremey sheltered and a little callous life so far.

If I were you, I'd find another man, can you imagine the attitudes your children would grow up with if he carries on like this?

He should know you well enough to know that you are not faking. But, give him a chance and inform him with "depression" information. Tell him to let you convince him about it once. Google info about deppressive disorders, read them and pick out the ones you think best fits you. Let him read it. By then he still doesnt believe you, then forget him. YOu have anough problems to deal with, he should be the one that stands beside you to help you cope through it, not give you more problems. You should be taking anti depressive meds, bring him along on one of your appointments to let the professional explain to him about it.

I feel for you, you are struggling to cope with an illness that can be debilitating and unfortunately haven't got support from the person closest to you.

Please visit the Mind website, it offers great information, in an easy to read and understand format. I've given a few links below to information that I think will help both of you,

http://www.mind.org.uk/information/bookl...

http://www.mind.org.uk/information/bookl...

http://www.mind.org.uk/information/bookl...

but please take time to look around the website as there is loads of good information and advice.

Also use the link below

http://www.mind.org.uk/mind+in+your+area...

to find out where your nearest local Mind association is.

They offer support, advice and information to anyone who is suffering, but also to carers as well. They may have a carers support group, or will be able to direct you to one nearby.

Unfortunately mental illness is still widely misunderstood and many people view it as something to wary of, or totally deny that it is a real illness.

In fact, 1 in 4 people will suffer from some form of mental illness at some point in there life:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/157875...

http://education.guardian.co.uk/print/0,...

http://www.changes.org.uk/html/changes_-...

Maybe showing your partner some of the headlines surrounding this issue will help him to understand that it is a reall illness and one that needs treating seriously.

I hope that the information I have recommended helps you to encourage your partner to see that his view is not correct.

You deserve and need to receive support and treatment so that you can start to rebuild your life and begin to cope again.

Having a loving and understanding partner will make so much difference.

But remember that both of you do not have to do this alone, there is excellent help out there and available, if you know where to look for it.

I strongly advise that you contact your local Mind, all it takes is a phone call. You can refer yourself, and you can either go alone, or take your partner with you. They will be able to offer you support and help on a wide range of things that will help.

You need and deserve treatment that is right for you, medication and other medical approaches can be accessed through your GP, and these are valid and useful tools, but remember that you have a right in how you are treated, and that is where Mind will come in. Their services are centred around what you want and how you feel support will best benefit you.

Please remember that it is possible to start a journey of recovery, it will be hard work and there will be relapses on the way, but it is well worth the effort.

I hope that you can help your partner to better understand the illness that you suffer from, and that he will, with time, come to realise that you are not making any of it up, and that you need treatment and understanding.

Good luck to you and to your partner too.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel, your partner just needs someone to shine a light to guide him towards it.

theres a good website about depression.www.depression.o...
It tells you the symptoms, warning signs, the effects it has on people, a summary of what depression is and lots more things. you should check it out it should give you all the info that you need to educate ur partner.
Good Luck : )

How can I discipline myself?

2010-05-25T18:29:00.000-07:00

I feel that I have no disclipline of whatsoever and its getting to make me feel sick
Answer:
By setting up goals that you believe in and want to accomplish. Create baby steps that you have to follow to achieve your goals. Remind yourself constantly what your goals are and WHY they are your goals. Whenever you are doing anything, especially something that you don't think is right, or you are feeling sick from, ask yourself, "Is this behavior in line with my goals? Is it helping me reach my goals? Is it good for me?" etc.

Depends on what you need discipline on. Being a rebel is cool. Acept who you are!

Look at a picture of Rosie O'Donnnell and let that be the consequence of failure!

set up rules for yourself that you have to keep.its all about self control and how much you want to discipline yourself.

How can I delete my identity from facebook? Am I paranoid? Irrational?

2010-05-25T18:28:00.000-07:00

How can I delete my identity from facebook? Am I paranoid? Irrational?

I just signed up for facebook because people keep asking me why i don't have an account. In high school, there were a lot of people who hated me, so I'm afraid that they will torture me through face book. I'm afraid of th memories. It makes me greatly uncomfortable. Does everyone have a facebook account? I don't want anyone to know who I am. I'm afraid they will hurt me emotionally.

How can I delete it!! I think I'm going to get a heart attack at my age!
Answer:
Hi I felt like that when I first signed up to friends reunited as I went through hell in school but one people get older and they don't care about picking on your like they used too. Plus abuse is normally not tolerated by these kinds of sites and the person can and normal will be removed if they start abusing the system. Please don't be scared of letting the world back into your life.

I've got a Facebook account. It is safe. You can say who you want to see your profile, and if they do send you notes, you can report them and have them banned from Facebook. However, if you still don't feel safe, but deactivate your account, then everything will be deleted. You won't get any more e-mails or anything. If you go to the "Help" section of it, it can tell you how to deactivate.

How can I deal with this sadness?

2010-05-25T18:27:00.000-07:00

How do people deal with infertility...How do you deal with the fact that you will never be a mom...You will never be able to go through a pregnancy and go throught the giving birth prosess...Can some one tell me how is it possible to deal with all this sadness...I am 24 and everyone says that I have my life a head of me...But what I have always wanted is a family and its the only thing I can't have...I am really upset I don't even feel like talking to anyone. All I want to do is sleep and never wake up...I need advice of people that are going through the same situation. I don't need stupid remarks not right now
Answer:
When others don't know what to say, they generalize or try to make you "look at the bright side"...

You deserve a period of mourning, but you cannot stay in that forever. Talking to someone who is also in the same situation as you will certainly help. Support groups are bound to be out there and I would recommend looking into just that.

You can have a family, just not in the way you see as conventional. You get to choose your family... and as I see it, this is probably more special and selfless than anything you could ever do...

Yes, you are young, and your priorities may change over time, but right now you are sad and for good reason. Embrace it, mourn it and let go... You will be a strong person and an incredible parent someday. YES, you will. if you so choose... right?

My thoughts are with you :)

Realize that although this sucks, and doesn't necesarily fit into your life plans, that life goes on. Whether or not you believe that everything happens for a reason (I do) realize that this did happen and there is no point in letting it eat you up inside.

By all means grieve, it's healthy. Be sad for the children you will never concieve but don't let it destroy you. Be strong. There are very many children out there who were not fortunate to be born to parents as good as you know you can be. You can become a foster parent, or you can adopt. Adopting a child can be one of the most rewarding experiences a person can have. You will love those children as if they were your own flesh and blood.

Well... look for groups in your areas where you can talk to other people with the same problem about it... Its best to talk to people who know and understand what you are going through...
just keep talking and go to the Doctor about it and see if there are things you can do to enhance your chances of concieving...
Good luck and God bless.

Please say thank you for what you have and try to help the children that don't have a mother,; there are things that we cannot understand but it's better if we say:"thank you God!"When I was 24 I didn't want to have children...few years later things changed...let's always say " GOD, Your will it's better than mine!"...please read God's Word, the Psalms, 1Corinthians 13. Have you ever read about JESUS PRAYER? If you want to read about go here, it will help you!

http://www.svots.edu/faculty/albert-ross...

Take good care of your soul reading good, healthy Words!
May God help with what you need best!

Have a good day!

How can I deal with this depression?

2010-05-25T18:26:00.000-07:00

I have been dealing with depression since I was a teenager. However, it is very bad right now because I am out of work. I really feel out of sorts, Michigan has very little professional positions where I live and moving is not an option. Any ideas to increase my self worth?
Answer:
Therapy could help, you can probally find it free or low cost through your citys health department. I would try getting out for little walks(even though you might not want to) and eating very healthy whole foods in the mean time. Be kind to yourself, keep up the job search. Set small achievable goals each day. Consider a job out of your field, just to keep earning and feeling productive. Good luck.

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first of all you gotta know WHY ARE YOU SO DEPRESSED, after that, it gets easier,because if you know the problem you know how to fix it.. right?
if that doesn't work, get prefessional help... you can see a psychologist... which works very good in this kinda cases

so... good luck with that
bye

Get to a Dr at the local community mental health clinic and ask them to help you to get on some depression meds. Ask for samples. They usually have some. Also go to a website called needymeds.com and look up the medicine the Dr prescribes and you will find the ways to get the meds for free
from the manufacturing.
Hang tough. It took guts for you to ask for help. Keep on keeping on!
God loves you. Ask him for help

Are you on medication? if not go and see your doctor - you might need a mild pick me up.
Go out walking when you can - get up early everyday - do not mope around the house/apartment
Keep telling yourself that you are worth something - positive thinking will help when applying for jobs
P.S. you are not drinking are you - it is a depressive.
Hope this helps a little - Good Luck to you

May be taking a course and getting a new trade will help.But see your doctor about your depression.I am on ant depression pills and thank God for them it helps me to cope and feel human again

If you have been dealing with depression since your teen years it's very possible that it has less to do with your situation and more to do with a chronic condition. Everyone gets "down" or feels "blue" over life's normal disappointments. Dealing with true depression for a long time is something a doctor should be helping you with. Group therapy is a good start to helping with the self worth issue. Talking to peers who have similar feelings really helps. Knowing that you're helping them as they help you is rewarding and helps establish new connections with people who truly understand how difficult depression can be.

I'm in the same boat. i've got bi-polar depression. you've got to keep at it until you find that job you want. there may not be that many, but you have to make youself stand out. as far as feeling out of it, you have to force youself to stay in a daily routine. stay out of the bedroom during the day.make sure youre getting up at a regular time.try exersizing. like taking a walk around the nieborhood. i grew up in minnesota, it's beautiful country up there. think positive. hope that helps.

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How can I deal with guilt?

2010-05-25T18:25:00.001-07:00

I have three teenagers and everytime they go thru a difficult time, like failing a class or just being sick, I feel so guilty and disgusted about myself, to the point where I start feeling depressed and sad. I feel like a failure as a mother. Is this normal or am I suffering from a mental problem? I was a single mom until they reached teenage years.
Answer:
hi there, im sorry about the sickness in your family, believe me I know how that is and it can weigh on everyone emotionally too, as well as physically. Just know that you have nothing to feel guilty for, and you are not a failure. It's got to be hard to have the responsibility of raising three kids all on your own, and dealing with heath struggles too.

If they fail a class, they probably feel just as bad as you do, so do your best to just give them a hug and smile and let them know it is ok and maybe if they need some extra help with a class, then that could be worked out.

Difficult times are always going to arise, believe me, we've had ups and downs in our family too, and now that they've moved into the teenage years (it sounds like you may have some help now? i hope so) then family communication and unity with everyone working towards the same things is going to be important.

Try and take a few minutes for yourself each day too, just to either cool off, destress, and regroup. This can even just be in your own room, laying in bed with some soft music for 5-10 minutes.

You kids need you and it sounds like you all have stuck together as a pretty good team so far, if they are sad because they failed a class, give them a hug (haha if hey let you hug them!) and just know there is always tomorrow and there is the next class that maybe everyone can pitch in to help so they can do better next time.

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Figure out what you feel guilty about. There is always a choice to be made when you are feeling guilty.
Face your guilt. Don't block it out; it will only make it worse. Arrange a time of the day to just think about it. Could you have made a better choice? How can you fix it? Spend as much time as it takes to confront the guilt. You will know it when it's done. Don't turn on the TV or computer. Everyone faces their own guilt a different way, so do it your way.
After you think about it, choose a course of action. Do you want to apologize to the person who you offended? Do you want to confess to the person exactly what you did? If you followed step two correctly, you will know what to do.

As a mother, it is our nature to feel this way when we feel our children fail. Even though we want to, we cant do everything. All I can say is to teach ur children the best that u can and help them w/ all you can and know that u have done ur job. Do U feel guilty because you feel you haven't did all u can? Especially being a single parent sometimes u feel more guilty than some. U must understand that part of ur children growing and learning is that their going to fall and must learn to get up on their own. Hope this helps a little...

I do the same thing!
The reason the we feel guilty is because we hold beliefs that we should be able to be "super moms".
You know, be there at all times, for everything and not miss a beat.
When things start to go wrong, or seem like they are going wrong, we feel like failures because we, as moms, are the glue that is suppose to "keep it all together".
But, and this is a big but, these expectations are unrealistic. They are too much, and we are doomed for failure.
It is important to evaluated our personal constructs, values, goals and expectations and make them attainable.
Do this, and you will lessen the amount of guilt you feel.

You have to understand that as a parent you make mistakes, but you have raised your children as well as you can. Now they are becoming responsible for their own actions. Even an almost perfect parent can end up having kids with real problems. Guilt is a poison that you can only get rid of by changing your mind set. Whether that means you see a counselor to help you deal with your emotions or whether you have enough will power to stop those negative thoughts about your parenting, that is up to you. Stop and think about the truth when you are faced with the lie of guilt. Replace that negative thought with what is true.

Let yourself be human. Your guilt sounds like it is for things that aren't really your fault. Let your child know that you love them, help them with schoolwork and make it important. When they are sick be there for them as much as possible.

Being depressed and sad when your kids hurt isn't abnormal at all. It is terrible to see bad things happen to the ones we love, but we can't fix the whole world. All we can do is be there at their side and let them know that they have someone in their corner.

Also realize that it is in the parent/child dynamic that you may not be appreciated for many years. Your job is to help them grow to adults and it is the hardest job there is in the world. You are going to make mistakes. Learn from the past but don't live in it. Your mistakes will help you to be better in the future.

I don't think you have a mental problem at all, but it might not be silly to see a counselor to learn how to better cope with it when you start feeling that way. At the very least it will be someone to talk to that may give you some suggestions and affirm what you are doing is right, maybe point out ways to better do what you want to do.

Guilt is not living up to your expectations of yourself.

You have no control over what grades your children get, whether or not they have diabetes or asthma.

Once you accept the fact that you are not in control and some higher authority is, you will stop feeling guilty.

Been there.

How can i deal with anger at school and not show that i am not angery?

2010-05-25T18:25:00.000-07:00

I am thirteen years old and i am in eighth grade. i get so mad at people a lot of the time. i could just be sitting there and just the sound of some peoples voices can irritate the hell out of me. (even if it is my bf) please give me examples and HELP for this problem and HOW to deal with it!!!!
Answer:
I have a friend that use to be like that anything could set her off.. So we tried a few things. 1.) Instead of cussing we would use fruit.. Like OH STRAWBERRIES! 2.) When she started to feel up set she would think of something stupid that I had done then she would laugh. C.) Another thing she would do is draw silly pictures to keep her mind off the people who annoy her. These were all just little things to help keep her temper down, I hope they work for you.

listen to you iPod. try to listen to music that would clam you down...

Take some deep breaths and think to yourself, "well they are annoying, but what is getting angry going to do? Make them feel bad about themselves and get me into trouble and it's not going to change their behavour." Take a few more deep breaths and as soon as you can remove yourself from the situation to be alone even if just for a few minutes.

ok. well i guess it's good that your at least not keeping your anger IN, since it'll keep collecting, and eventually you'll crack anyway and blow up all at once (i know from experience, except i gathered anger up for 6 years and now i'm going insane. XP). So yea, at least your letting it out. But if you really think you have a problem, it's probably because your lack of patience. You can't stand the smallest things apparently, so just try practicing patience until you don't even notice those small things. I'm no yoga/therapist instructor, but i think these exercises might help:

1. Try asking someone to talk to you for like 1 minute straight, then 5 minutes, then 10minites, and so on, until you think you can handle people. Make sure you ONLY listen, and that you can handle the first increment before you move on to listening even more.

2. Try sitting with someone, and just talk casually about things, so that you'll be able to feel laughter and hapiness with people rather then anger and annoyance.

3. Finally, try just sitting in the middle of the classroom, and just try and not notice the voices.

The exercises should help you gain patience, and be able to help you control your temper. Remember to DO something about your anger, even if my suggestions don't work. It's not about not showing anger, it's more about not feeling it at all, though sometimes you can't help it. =DDDDDD

How can i cut smocking? i tried everything!!?

2010-05-25T18:23:00.003-07:00

Answer:
Check at a health food store or pharmacy for Resolve lozenges. This is a natural product which blocks the nicotine from going into your body. Use these for a few weeks and they should help you kick the habit. The other thing is to mentally prepare yourself. If you aren't truly ready to face quitting, then you will set yourself up for disappointment. It really is a mental challenge but I know you can do it if you really want to.

I quit cold turkey very hard thing to do good luck

What is smocking. But the name sounds kind of fun.

Talk to your dr. he gave my husband and i a prescription for Chantix...it works really well and you dont have withdrawl symptoms. Really good product.!!

Smocking is actually an activity, so I wondered if you meant smoking or if you actually have some kind of addiction to fine needle arts and fabric stitching.

As for smoking, you can try hypnosis, nicotine gum, patches, therapy, or go cold turkey. :)

Check out the Great American Smokeout which aids people in the ordeal of getting off that particular drug.

I had to quit hanging around other smokers (even though some were close friends), and quit drinking.

I smoked a pack of 25 cigarettes a day for 25 years and quit in '92, using the patch. I believe the patch has been improved upon since then.
You may find it easier if you avoid drinking alcohol while you are quitting. Coffee and soda are two more triggers, but alcohol has the power to lower your resistance to the habit.
Even now, fifteen years later, I will occasionally think "I should have a smoke", but the thought disappears just as fast as it arrives.
It's a long hard battle, but well worth it.

How can i cure myself of internet addiction?

2010-05-25T18:23:00.002-07:00

i always on online after work and at weekends. this is withdraw me always from my family that i losing them. i feel like staying home all day. i am anxious of food cause of the internet. and also i am so leave out from school and study.
Answer:
yea, I have the same problem. I automatically check myspace and then come here. Horrible! Suddenly hours pass me by. Well it's good that you recognize this at least. My suggestion for the both of us is to set a timer for like 15 minutes or whatever and then go do something else, anything else! for at least 15 minutes. Hopefully well forget about the internet by then! hmmm, i'll try it now...

Get off the damn thing. Have someone keep it for you for awhile. I like to go on ByeDr.com and all but it doesn't consume our lives

Turn off your computer. Go outside with your family for a few hours. Talking with people generally cheers a person up.
When you do turn on the computer, set a timer, maybe for an hour. If you actually turn the computer OFF it will help you to not go back to it.

A good plan is to choose one or two parts of the day to be on the computer - after school, or after your homework is done in the evening. Use it as a reward for doing all your work.

grab the computer monitor and throw it against the concrete. continue smashing it with a baseball bat until you feel better.

don't pay the cable bill.

I know it sounds weird but this is a fact I learned from a book.
Anytime you try to get rid of a bad habit you need to replace it with a good habit.
If you do not replace it there will be any empty spot hidden in the brain just waiting for the old habit to come home again. Boo! I gotcha again %26 again %26 again ect.
Set a timer or cheap alarm clock. Log off as soon as possible to beat the addiction.
I developed computer related tendinitis RSI my injury %26 pain helped to wake me up %26 make me log off earlier.
Learning my way is the wrong method believe me. Its not worth the pain.
Once you find other fun stuff / hobbies to do you may wonder why you sat around wasting your life away.
Good luck its a lifestyle change.

How can i cure my anxiety?

2010-05-25T18:23:00.001-07:00

Answer:
Hate to say it as it's not easy but your best bet and the current way of thinking is that you need to put yourself into positions that make you anxious and live through it. Obviously don't go out and climb everest if your anxiety is around heights but expose yourself to your fears gradually. At first you can take someone with you who will understand and get them to help you through it, then gradullay build up to doing things on your own.
If for example, your fear is around shopping, start by going to a small shop at a relatively quietly time of day to buy a couple of specific items. Do this regularly, e.g. once or twice a day for a week, then build up - go at a busier time of day or spend longer there. Set yourself a goal, e.g. spending a Saturday afternoon browsing around the shops each week and build up until you get there.
As I said it's not easy but it works! Good luck, Pud.

get out more. My friend has anxiety attacks because she is scared of accidents after losing her bro and dad in random accidents. She found that facing her fear and going to a club one night with her mates has made her less scared or going out or using transport etc

see your GP who will send you to the psychiatrist and go on from there

Fight against it - F*** everybody else and just get out there!!

try xanaz or valium talk to a dr

you should talk it out with someone you can really trust and hope that they can give you an answer but if not then do things that'll keep you cool, calm, and collective like a vacation or even ignoring stupidity....but if that doesn't work then go to a doctor and let them give you an answer for your problem....

hope for the best

Try to recognize what precipitates your anxiety. What is it specifically that you are afraid of? If its generalized and constant I would say see a professional.

Do you know what is causing your anxiety? Is it something specific or do you feel constantly worried and anxious about a lot of little things?

Sometimes talking with a doctor or therapist is the most effective way to control it.

Yeah, see your doctor if it's affecting you day to day. If he/she refers you to a counsellor who can help you with cognitive therapy then all the better. At the end of the day it's about changing the way you think about yourself and the world but you might need someone to help you through if it isn't too easy for you to make the changes in your life.

Health wise: cut out caffeine, sugary foods, simple carbs and eat more of the good stuff. Stopping the fluctuating blood sugar levels helps calm the system. And vigorous exercise is a good stress buster too.

i suffer from the same thing its hard but you will find it alot better if you just get out there, im writting this and thinking how far iv come from when i felt really bad. just try to be around your friends and laugh more!!

If it's affecting your everyday life activities, then you should probably go to your family doctor. They should be able to tell you whether or not you should go see a therapist. From there, the therapist will probably just talk to you and teach you how to cope. They might give you a medication to help adrenaline releases. They might even do both. But if you feel like it's not too serious, then maybe you should examine what you're nervous about. If you feel self-concious, try making a list of all the things that you like about yourself. Just know that real friends will like you for you, and if you mess up sometimes, so does everyone else. And I know it's hard to actually believe that saying that 'other people's opinions don't matter', but in truth, the only opinion that matters is the one that you hold about yourself.

EXERCISE ! ride a bike or buy a punching bag .. that's great always!

How can i cope with my borderline personality disorder and anxiety?

2010-05-25T18:22:00.001-07:00

its ruling my life and stopping me from doing the things i want to do and stopping me from being the person i so want to be!
Answer:
I have had BPD all my life, I guess. I didn't know anything was wrong -- I just thought it was normal. I wasn't diagnosed until 1998. My doctor didn't give me a diagnosis; I knew I was depressed. I found out by accident when I was researching major depression on the Internet. I started connecting all the dots and asked my therapist if that is what his diagnosis was. He said yes but to be fair, do not label myself. I read everything I could find on BPD and found I didn't like myself very much. Once I knew I met 8 of the 9 criteria I was able to recognize these problems and be aware of my feelings. Accepting that there is a problem is the first step in solving that problem. I have been on meds since 1998, all different kinds, and in therapy since June 1998. I will be starting my tenth year with my therapist. He acknowledged that the accepted term of treatment for BPD is ten years. Now, he also says that he would not diagnose me as such. I still have black and white thinking, but I can work on that.

The best book I read was "Lost in the Mirror." A couple others are "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" and "Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified." The more you understand your behavior, the better chance you have of doing something about it.

I hope you are in therapy and that you won't give up. Be patient with yourself.

Borderline Personality Disorder treatment can be difficult, but medications can be used to reduce some of the symptoms. At times a combination of medications is helpful. The most widely prescribed are antidepressants and mood stabilizers. In addition, atypical anti-psychotics may help reduce reckless and impulsive behaviors. It is also noted that after about 10 years of treatment, about half of those diagnosed no longer have the behaviors of BPD.

The majority of those with the disorder become gradually more stable in their emotions, relationships, and jobs when they reach the ages between 30 and 40 years.

If you think you might have BPD, seek medical and emotional help. Refrain from self-diagnosis and instead, seek help from professionals experienced in treating BPD. Many people have also found emotional help from a Christian counselor or local church leader. It is important to know that God loves you and wants to help you.

Examine closely http://1-800-therapist.com/index.html... (USA) Phone 1 800 843 7274 and find a therapist using Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT). See http://www.borderlinepersonalitytoday.co... (today.com) %26 http://www.behavioraltech.com/ (/downloads/dbtFaq_cons.pdf) and http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 6.

How can I cope up with this stress.?

2010-05-25T18:22:00.000-07:00

Am working in a certain company but I don't feel comfortable there because my boss keep on harrasing the workers.I want to leave but I don't know where to go.I feel so stressed up.Please help me.
Answer:
If your boss us harrassing you, report it to his/her supervisor. You don't have to be treated badly, and as far as getting another job, start looking now. Don't be afraid to say something at work, you're not the one in the wrong here. Good luck!

Is he harrassing you? If he is, then COMPLAIN about it. Man-up and grow some pears...

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This sounds strange but give it ago and see what happens, image that type of job and boss you want to have, see it as already happened. ask that it be so and let it go.

The best advice I can offer, is to keep your job but, send resumes to other companies, post on job search sites, on your days off, apply to other companies, search job offers in the newspapers, etc.
It's a tough situation to be in but, you will have an income, and still be looking for better prospects.

JUST THINK THAT WORK IS WORSHIP OK.IF TATS SO MORAL BY YOUR VIEW,then its all in the way that you make your mind set.actually if you are not comfortable with a place then the work tat you do will not have a good result so wat i recommend is that jus try for other companis for work so that a changed atmosphere can give you a mental relief.

Report it. If nothing is done get out. it will only get worse and worse.

pray to saint jude

You know what the Nike Logo is right? "Just do It? I quit just like that after my health started to suffer along from it. If there is a will to make things better, it will happen. You could go to a Doctor and get him to pump you up on Valium but is that how you want to live? I quit my job on my bosses birthday and it thru the whole office for a loop!

How can I control compulsive shopping?

2010-05-25T18:20:00.002-07:00

I just got paid today, %26 I have OCD, %26 I'm a compulsive shopper. What are some ways that can I control myself?
Answer:
Have you spoken to a certified professional about your problem? If not, one will be able to suggest healthy, productive ways to combat the compulsive behavior. Instead of shopping, make a list of all the things you need for your future, and then a list of the things you would have purchased had you hit the mall. Which list is better for your future? Do clothes, shoes, and purses help you pay for college or rent? Here's a hint I got from Oprah: If it goes on your *** it's not an asset.

You may need professional help. Speak to a counselor at your school.

If you have to stop, you have to STOP. STOP ALL OF IT. There is no way to shop in a controlled way if it is an addiction for you. Just like an alcoholic can't have just 1 beer a day. You need to stop it all.

Cut up your credit cards, give your debit cards to someone you trust. Explain the problem, and keep yourself out of any shopping environment for 30 straight days.

You need to work on what is behind this. You probably like the feeling you get when you shop. Well, I think you know the price is too high. If it satisfies your OCD then try other, alternate, FREE things to satisfy it. Draw pictures, make collages from old magazines, organize your closet. Find other outlets.

Good luck. Hang in there.

I used to have this problem myself.
The first step is to recognize your problem, and call it a problem.

I found that the times I spent too much money were:
A) when I was sad or upset - to feel better
B) when I found a really great clearance sale - it was a real "shopping high"
C) getting a paycheck - after going without for a l-o-n-g time.
D) when I had a "money-making-plan" I would invest more than I was able to make back successfully.

In one way or another - as life goes forward, there were times when I would feel emotionally low, or emotionally upset. To compensate, in order to make myself feel better , I would go out and find something to buy.

To start with, I would limit the amount to be spent. I would look and look until I found something "just right" for say, $3.
I also cut-up my credit cards, and stopped writing checks (they would bounce and I was left with huge fees I couldn't afford to pay)

I use cash.
I only allow myself to carry as much money with me as I can afford to use as "spending money", having figured out that over a month's time $100 comes out to $3 a day. So, if I spend more, then I know the next day or two I have none to spend.

If I have bills to pay, or need to set money aside, I get it out of my reach - in a bank account, or go ahead and pay the bill.

In many ways the problem of compulsive shopping is more of an emotional problem -- like any other addiction. It takes learning to identify why you do what you do, and when you do what you do -- then you can move to learning to recognize your feelings and DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.
Maybe rather than spending, you would, say, chew a strong-flavored gum. That would be something to use one of your senses to get your attention and satisfaction. An action like that can move you away from the"moment" and "need" to spend money.

One word home boi.Xanax!

How can I change my sleeping schedule quickly?

2010-05-25T18:20:00.001-07:00

I am leaving tomorrow morning at about 4am, I will be getting ready for it starting at midnight (hair, clothes makeup etc..)
The thing is I don't want to be tired in the morning and go to bed in the afternoon when I get back. How can I change my schedule so I am not tired? I usually go to bed around midnight and get up before 10am..thnx
Answer:
the best way is to stay up all night and go to bed when you are needing to in the future, however I do not think you have enough time for this, so I might suggest a sleeping pill, even though I don't like them because they leave me hung over slightly

The best way would be to pull an all nighter then go to sleep eight hours before the next time you need to wake up. 'Catching up' on sleep is a bad idea because you will make yourself more tired in the long run. If you can't fall asleep at the new time, I'd suggest a mild OTC sleeping pill that would ease you into sleep but allow you to wake up after 8 hours. Good luck

sleep alittle less as each day goes by till you reach the done and over deals, make points about it.''

The first poster is right, if you have 7-8 hours to devote to sleep, try a sleeping pill. There are a few safe over-the-counter options available.

A warm bath and a cup of chamomile tea are two good natural choices, too. And never underestimate the power of a turkey sandwich (tryptophan is a natural sedative).

Good luck :o)

How can I change my sleep cycle? During my undergraduate days I regularly woke up after 11.30am..?

2010-05-25T18:20:00.000-07:00

Now I'm a doctoral student, and find it impossible to get out of bed earlier than 11.30am. My work is suffering. Sometimes I get out of bed as late as 4pm. What can I do? I will never be able to hold down a job - I'll always be late, I just know it.
Answer:
Set an alarm clock that is loud and annoying, place it across the room from where you sleep, so that you have to get up to shut it off. Be realistic about getting proper sleep and nutrition. You will rarely be late if you make being on time a pattern of behaviour.

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You need to get to bed earlier, so try getting to bed at a reasonable hour, say 10pm or maybe 10.30pm is you really want to be punctual.

Why are you getting out of bed at 4 in the afternoon. Are you really that tired and rundown. Maybe you need to take some tonic to put some energy and life back into you.

Try seven seas orange tonic. I use that when im run down and it puts a spring in my step in no time.

Get that alarm on, leap out of bed, and get on with your life

You can try melatonin to help readjust your bio-clock, and it may require you to stay awake too (sleep deprivation), for an extra day, to "catch up" on a night's sleep, and help you return to a more normal cycle.

I think some people are just wired this way. I think I am. But, if you think you are going to fail, you will. Force yourself to get up and then when you get home from your job, take a nap. If you are anything like me, you love to take naps!

you have to go to bed half hour earlier every couple days and get up half hour early, you will soon get used to it, also don't have to dark curtains up and if all else fails pay someone to drag you out of bed

There is a sleep disorder (the name of which escapes me) that means your body clock doesn't respond in a normal way and no matter how many alarm clocks and people try to wake you you won't stay awake. There is medication you can take to help but the first thing you need to do is see your GP who will understand study and training difficulties. If all is well in that area, make sure you go to bed early no matter if you don't sleep at first. Have a warm bath, drink camomile tea and take a good book to bed. The more you try to sleep the harder it is to get off to sleep so try distracting your mind. Counting sheep to get to sleep is not as daft as it sounds as this will take your mind off trying to sleep. Use dark curtains to get to sleep and ask a friend or parent to draw them back at the appropriate time. You can try Melatonin but it doesn't work for everyone. It will take time for your body to readjust but it will happen and you will be able to regulate your sleep again. DON'T GIVE UP. Best wishes and good luck to you and someday I'm sure you will make a fine doctor.

How can i change my attitiude to food?

2010-05-25T18:19:00.003-07:00

I love to cook, to spend hours making meals for others but have no appetite myself. I now am deeply depressed (long time sufferer) and am seeking help again. My partner thinks the fact I dont eat is distorting my thoughts and feels starving myself is a possibly the only thing i feel i can control. I want to eat like a normal person but can't put most food in mouth, if i try i wretch.
Answer:
I suffer from depression and I don't eat, somtimes for days or weeks on end. Some people are effected in the opposite way and comfort eat, but it is just as likely to have either effect.

Someone once told me to try and view eating as you would putting petrol in a car..... without petrol the car doesn't run - without food the body doesn't cope.

That said, it doesn't always help me, but I thought it was worth mentioning.

I know that when I stop eating it does have an impact on my mental health, the same when I'm not sleeping well.. it is harder for the mind and body to deal with other symptoms if it hasn't got the basic things it needs to function.

I'm glad that you are seeking help again for your depression, as it sounds like you need some support.

Medication and or talking therapies may be the way to go, but also consider finding other sources of support as well.

I have had great help over the years from my local Mind association, and now count myself as priveleged to work for them.

They are easy to access, just give them a ring, they are informal but have lots of knowledge and information, and they offer all kinds of different services.

Try this link to see if you have one near you

http://www.mind.org.uk/mind+in+your+area...

It is also possible that they run or have information on Carers support groups that might be useful for your partner.

I have also given some links for information from the website, that might help you

http://www.mind.org.uk/information/bookl...

http://www.mind.org.uk/information/bookl...

http://www.mind.org.uk/information/bookl...

http://www.mind.org.uk/information/bookl...

Please try and get yourself as much help and support as you possibly can. It is out there, if you know where to look for it.

You need and deserve the best treatment you can get, and having support to go alongside any medical treatment really will prove enormously beneficial.

I know from personal experience!

you need to go to a support group. your not going to manage to change your attitude yourself.

You need psychological help. Anorexia sufferers for some bizarre reason like to think they can control hunger for food acting obssessively compulsive too.

Hi
I have depression too - but for me I have the opposite relationship with food
Just can't stop eating.
I have recently started an online Cognitive Behavioual Therapy course on line (I won't give you the details as I am not 100% happy with it) and although its not entirely right I can see that CBT will help me to start understanding my warped thoughts and hopefully move on. Maybe you should discuss a referral to a CBT counsellor with your GP.

well think you have to eat and some foods are helping your body in everyday life like fruits and rice bread meat .
i don't know why you may not have an appetite maybe your trying to lose weight pregnant go ask your doc for some advice maybe its a change of lifestyle something that you've experienced all sorts like those

These symptoms do sound typical of Anorexia Nervosa.

The 'accepted wisdom' seems to be that this MAY have to do with 'control', so maybe this has influenced you or your thinking too. Perhaps establishing the fact that you do have control over other areas of life would be useful. This may well require certain compliance and support and assistance from your partner.

Many cooks/chefs also eat poorly because of spending too much time working with foods they have no appetite when it comes to eating it (alternatively they may be just the opposite -- they just eat all the time and end up putting weight on!)

You should try eating things that take no time to prepare at all and also allow someone else to make meals for you -- perhaps this will help! In other words 'If you can't stand to eat, get out of the kitchen'! (to paraphrase an old saying!!)

Try adopting a a largely unprocessed, raw-food diet for a while. this will be easier in summer timne when it may not seem such an imposition to eat cold foods. Plenty of fruit, vegetables and try and get organic, local grown fresh-as-possible produce.

Try not to 'think' about the process of eating. Try and do it whilst doing something else (like watching a film or TV) so that you are not focussed on the actiual act of eating. If you have plenty of fruit, nuts (especially almonds, wallnuts, hazel nuts, brazils), and vegetables on hand that you can 'graze' on them through the day without making it 'a big deal' of great preparation, laying tables, sitting to eat a meal, etc, etc, maybe this will 'de-stress' your eating routine and make it easier for you to start eating again 'naturally'.

Above and beyond this, make sure you are properly hydarated by drinking a couple of litres of clean, pure (preferably mineral water) gradually through the day (a cup an hour is about right).

Some other useful lifestyle tips that might help at:

You could try taking a vitamin once a day, and reading that you said, most foods make you wretch, how about concentrating on those few foods that you do keep down, or can suffer to swallow...and allow yourself to eat a bit more each time.
If you really want to, you'll get where you want to be, if you are in two minds about it, you'll struggle against yourself. This may be because of an underlying belief, one which has been forgotten, to do with the 'unknown future' ie, we'll all be happy today if we / i do this or that, so I want to.but what if it goes wrong in a different way tomorrow? What's the point? It's not worth it, so I won't bother...
What do you think about what your partner said about control?
Do you have as much input as you want in everyday decisions etc,
We may not be able to 'control' tomorrow, but as today is built and rests on endless yesterdays, so does tomorrow, rest on each today, our efforts/decisions/achievements today, included.

There is a great book called 'Body Clutter' which is about our emotional relationships with food. You can read testimonials and order the book from www.flylady.com

Best wishes.

It's the depression honey.

Some binge, but some can't eat, like you.

Have you tried therapy? It really does help!!

Good Luck x x

it sounds like u could have an eatin disorder, bt not necessarily intentionaly. u say u are depressed. ur not eatin is the one thing that u feal u are in control of, bt its not always the best way to gain control. i'm glad to hear that u are seekin help this really will help and make a difference. i had an eatin disorder n slight depression. the way that i got through it all was by seein a phycartrist n basically sharin my thoughts with everyone i knew. by openin up they gave me insights i had never looked at before n it really did help. i agree with ur partner that by not eatin this is effectin your thoughts. although food gives us the basic nutrients of life they can also release endo-orphins which makes us happy. i can understand where your comin from, but dont let food control ur life, i did that and it was horrible, i couldn't b happy, i couldnt laugh with my friends i just felt so depressed. although in my case not eatin was a way of controllin my weight, now however with lots of help and support i can see that there is more important things in life. i'm only 15 now, i dont want to go down that road again, i've learnt to become more care free and have a positive view on life. i'm not sayin it was easy, even when i got over my eatin disorder i still suffered depression but seein a phycartrist does help and sharin ur fealings with others, as just by gettin the weight off ur chest can make i big difference. i no u can get through this. dont let food control ur life, there is so much more to life that just food, i no what ur goin through is hard and it will take time, bt just make u get help. hope at least some of this helps.

How can I change from effexor to prozac?

2010-05-25T18:19:00.002-07:00

I'm leaving the country and I finish my effexor pills I can't get more refill because I'll be out of the country for a while..I have a whole month of Prozac pills and I wonder if I can change from effexor to prozac ..I used to take prozac before with good result and my Dr change to Effexor because I was getting them for free.. now My question is Can I start taking prozac (20mg) which I was taking before since I finish Effexor (75mg)??
I don't want to go for a long time without medicine since I get panic attacks.. I need your help! I won't see a DR until probably a month from now when I get insurance there...
Answer:
In a case like this you need to talk to your doctor. You can't just switch them from one to the other without a doctor's approval anyway. If you have Prozac already, I wouldn't recommend stopping the Effexor and starting the Prozac again without at least talking to a doctor or pharmacist. Just call your local pharmacy and explain your situation. The pharmacist will be glad to give you some advice.

You should talk to your current doctor ASAP and see if you can get enough samples of Effexor to get you through until you get a new doctor. It's not safe to switch drugs on your own like that, especially that abruptly. Effexor can have wicked withdrawl symptoms.

HOW can i calm myself down?

2010-05-25T18:19:00.001-07:00

when i ride my horse i always think shes going to TRIP! when im galloping what can i do to not think about that! :%26#92;
Answer:
Well. You have many options as I see it. Firstly, stop riding - which you most likely do not want to do as you continue to ride even though you are afraid. Secondly, but faith in your horse as it is out of your control. Thirdly, use imaginary exercises before you ride - see the ride from beginning to the end. Fourthly, deep breathing exercises - great for any situation where you are afraid. Fifthly, find out the real reason you feel she is going to trip - has she done it before, if yes when - what was it caused by - has she done it again, are you afriad of yourself being hurt or her being hurt, have you seen someone else's horse tripping - did someone else get hurt and you are just assuming that you may get hurt??

Good Luck

Repeat this in your head: "I'm not going to trip, I'm not going to trip, I can do this!"

Try wearing head phone and listen to a song you really enjoy. This way you pay more attention on the song than her tripping.
Has she ever tripped before?

SORRY FOR NOT ANSWERING

Has your horse ever tripped before? If not why are you worried? It sounds like you have fear while riding, which can be a natural reaction to not being in total control. Let's face it they are big animals and strong.
You basically need to self talk yourself and remind yourself that it is ridiculous for you think this way. Horses sense fear in the rider and will react to it. So get a hold of your fears, it could make things worse for you.

How can I calm down when I have a panic attack?

2010-05-25T18:19:00.000-07:00

I shake, get a rapid heartbeat, feel detached from my body, and I cannot stop moving. This happens often.
Answer:
It might be a good idea to find out what's causing you to panic. Anxiety and panic are usually symptoms of a problem like anemia, thyroid problems, hypoglycemia, hormone imbalances, a high sugar/caffeine diet, to name a few. Has anyone tested you for these problems?

Get a prescription for xanax. I have one and whenever i take one when I'm freakin out, it helps A LOT. I have the pink ones. take one of those and you'll be good for a few hours. i have a pretty high tolerance though for them cuz i sometimes seem to flip out a lot when it comes to my anxiety disorder

concentration and staring at a light source help me .

there's a great book called "the anxiety and phobia workbook" it really gets in-depth about how to deal with panic attacks

Take deep breaths and convince yourself that everything is good. Imagine something calming. I'm not a psychologist, but this works for me! ;)

masterbate

I got these drops from the health food store. You put them on your tongue. They are called "calming remedy" or something but if you ask your pharmacist they should know. They are great when I have a pannic attack.

One way is deep breathing. Learn to breathe deeply during the time you are calm. It can be easier to remember to breathe when you are panicking, if you do some deep breathing every day just for practice.

Take a deep breath when you feel it coming on. Force yourself to breathe slowly and to exhale slowly for a minute or two. Inhale to the count of ten and exhale to the count of ten within 8 or 10 seconds. Sometimes breathing into a paperbag (NOT plastic) will help so that you don't hyperventilate. You'll slow down your heart's pace doing this and you will re-oxygenate your body doing this. This WILL calm you down so you can focus.

In the moment, try to mentally detach yourself from whatever is happening, slow down, and do this deep breathing exercise: breath in through your nose to a count of 4, hold for a count of 7, release through your mouth to a count of 8. If you can do this 4 times in a row, you will feel much better. Continue breathing like this until you feel much better - and THEN, make an appointment to see your doctor - he/she can better help you in the long-term. Take care.

I've been taught to breathe in slowly through the nose for two seconds counting like one one thousand, two one thousand. and then exhale through the mouth slowly for four seconds counting the same way. While you're doing this rate your panick attack from 1-10. Whatever it is, imagine it going down from like a 10 to a 9 then to an 8 then to a 7 and so on and so on until you feel yourself calm down to a 1 or a 0. I learned this from the Midwest Center for anxiety and depression. You might've seen it on paid advertising late at night. It may be a bit expensive but it really helped me a lot. You should check it out. Theres a lot more people out there that suffer from anxiety than you would think. I hope that my advice makes sense and helps you out.

The drops Bluegirl was talking about are called Bach Rescue Remedy and you can get this at the health food store.

How religious are you? I had or have anxiety disorder. If I get to flustered I cannot think. When things get me down, such as seeing a teacher for my children, or losing a house, It does not matter how big or small the problem. I have to lay down, because my body gets so tight, that I am in constant pain.

I have learned to lay down, and pray to G-d and trust in Him. The lesson that I got is: One has to learn to know a higher power than themselves.

You are on a baseball team and you are a good player. G-d is the manager and coach. No matter what, you are not allowed in the game. The team is severly losing and you cannot play. You bother Him, you say to Him, that you can help. All He says to you is sit down. You cannot do anything, so you might as well kick up your feet and sit down and have some popcorn, watch the show and take in the
concequences.

The other thing, if you know G-d or that G-d aready knows you. G-d and the Holy Spirit is warning you to follow what is right and not to go against your instincts. If you are having a problem, and you think you can do the wrong thing, do not do it. If you have to pay a bill and you are short of money, pay the bill anyway. Follow the right path. It is a natural instinct telling you to do the right thing.
For whatever sake;
Do Not Do What just is Not Wrong.
Do What is Right!

Talk to G-d. Ask G-d and Jesus (If you are Christian) and the Holy Spirit into your heart. Then listen to your heart. Not your brain, for it will cause you to do the wrong thing. Pray about it. If it overtakes you in the middle of the night, wake up, think about it, go back to sleep, and do what you have to do in the morning. If it is on a Friday, you might as well wait until Monday, because you cannot do a thing about it until Mon.

I have learned this through Temple, Church, the Bible and experience. I once used to dread each day, now I look forward to it. Do what you have to do. If you are with G-d you need not to have any fear, because he is with you. What I am telling you, is years of learning what I had to learn the hard way. No one, even in Religious studies took the time to tell me what I am telling you, and if they did, I was to stubborn and an I-Know-It-All to listen. I have only met a few relligious leaders who had hurt like me, and they could not tell me, what I am telling you.

I watched TV, not a religious station either, it was ABC and I heard once on the morning show, That the Lord's prayer automatically helps to relieve tension. And Psalm 23 relieves pain. I have used them both and it does work. Make your children repeat after you the Lord's prayer line by line. (Sometimes it has to be 3-4 times, before they can repeat it after you correctly.) When it is finally said, your children will be more loving. It is great, when a two year old child wakes up with nigihtmares.

All this stuff does work, and you will find yourself not bothered, your heartbeat will go down, and you will be able to function under all serious or not serious conditions. I have tried medications, but they just make me fat, and I am way to vain for that. G-d does work, and I stay slim with Him.

It will work, the more you follow G-d, the more confidence you will have, and before you know it, you will understand everything I am saying and you will be teaching this to someone else.

The one reason you panic so much is you want the power and you do not have it. Things happen and sometimes we are powerless. We have to trust in a higher power, and learn to realize that we will not always have things in our way and control . When we finally learn that lesson, and learn to deal with what we can do, and what we cannot do, we will finally be in power to handle ourselves. We will always have problems. Now they will be completely under control. The problem is G-d's and you will be able to handle yourself.

The Lord's Prayer:
Our Father who art in Heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom Come,
Thy Will be done
on Earth and up in Heaven.
Give us today our daily bread.
Forgive us of our Trespasses
as we forgive those who Trespass against us.
Lead us not into Temptaion
And Deliver us From Evil
For thine is the Power and Glory in the Kingdom Forever.
Amen

When life was very hard for me I used to say:
Life is like a rollercoaster.
We have the big hill and other hills to over come.
When the ride slows down and we think it is over,
It starts up again.
We cannot get off, until we die.
The difference is with G-d.
Without G-d, you get sick, your heart beats fast, you cannot eat, you are constantly nauses and throw-up all the time, and can never sleep.
With G-d he teaches you breathing exercises, how to feel the ride. To make the ride comfortable. How to eat on it, how to sleep on it, and how to enjoy it and even to be happy to be on it.

How can i calm down my anger?

2010-05-25T18:18:00.001-07:00

Answer:
when you realise it is up, take a walk. walk around the house, around the block or whatever it takes. meanwhile, do some soul-searching to see what is triggering your angry. solving the root is the cure, but it wont be easy.

take a shower.

i have anger management too.i have few ways of overcoming it...
1) Take your pillow,cover ur face and SCREAM as loud as u can
2) Take a paper write down all the bad things u wanted to say and burn it...watch it burn...
3) Dun hang out with peep, go somewhere quite and take very deep breath
4) Keep a diary ...(helps me alot) and keep it safe
5) Watch something funny.listen to your fave song
6) eat chocolate
7) If possiable sleep .. if nothing helps see a doc
hope that help ...good luck pal

just keep quit when you get anger and try to avoid takling with others and just recollect the things which makes you that may be your pet.

Try it you will find a good result.

==========ALL THE BEST FOR YOUR FUTURE========

there is a very effective way to calm down anger, which is also scientifically proven. if you are angry and u are standing, your body produces a hormone that goes into a fight or flight position, if you stay standing it triggers the fight aspect and makes you angrier. if you sit down, this hormone's activity gets imbalanced, and goes into the flight mode making you calmer. if you were already sitting down, lie down. this has been quoted centuries ago, by the Muslim Prophet Mohammed PBUH, that if you are angry and standing sit, and if you were already sitting, lie down. and amazingly scientists have just uncovered the science behind it. it really helps alot!

walk

Imagine yourself as a contestant on Jerry Springer. Imagine that if you did the thing in anger you wanted to do, people would laugh at you and call you nameslike they do the contestants on that show. Angry people are like circus freaks and people like to stop and stare and point and throw peanuts...well, maybe not throw peanuts, but you get the point. They like to talk about you and laugh at you behind your back. Do you REALLY want to be laughed at and subjected to ridicule? Those contestants truly look like idiots when they lose it and you DON'T want people to think that about you, do you?
This sounds crazy, but it's the ONLY thing that keeps me from running over people with my car on occasion...because I've got a certain image to uphold-lol.

See the section on anger management at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 4.

How can I become more self-motivated?

2010-05-25T18:18:00.000-07:00

Answer:
hullo
first,you should have a goal or target,that is to say,a positive stimulus in order to achieve a desired response.
lack of motivation in general may undermine depression.

Dr solo

There are different ways to increase motivation. Your question is too vague, I need more details to give you some suggestions.

How can I become more reliable?

2010-05-25T18:17:00.001-07:00

I don't know if it was the way I was raised, or my birth order, or what other occult influence in my life...but I seem to be very unreliable. I am a good person who wants to help others...but when I volunteer myself or my time to those who need me...I seem to always let them down. Perhaps there is a bit of depression and low self-esteem coloring this perception, but I am looking for just general common sense advice on how I can become a man true to his word...a man who is reliable and responsible.
Answer:
Decide in advance that you ARE a reliable man. Actually speak those words to yourself in front of the mirror when you get up in the morning, at midday, and before you go to bed.

Do NOT accept any requests that you have any inkling that you may not be able to fulfill.

Start small. Agree to something you KNOW you can accomplish, and FOLLOW THROUGH. Keep accumulating these small victories. When you feel you are ready, move on to accepting other requests which may require more of your time.

The key is to DECIDE IN ADVANCE that you are a reliable, trustworthy man. Do NOT accept a task/assignment/request unless you are 100% sure you can and will see it through to the end.

Best of luck,
~M~

write everything down in a checklist with a due time on them. i am def. a procrastinator and when i really need to get htings done this is what i do. prioritize your list and have all the things you need to do in front of you. maybe also make of the list of things you want to do instead and then you can have a system where if you check off one item of obligations then you can do one of the fun things. you will feel good about yourself when you check something off- guarunteed!

Be like me--conscientious--constantly alert and attentive to your inner conscience, which is God's searchlight of your soul.

It seems to be a very serious question you are asking. It does mean that you care and that you want to be of help but cannot due to various reasons which you are relating to other factors. Firstly, you have to stop thinking about any one having any effect on you, it is you and you who is wholely and solely responsible. No occult influences, birth orders or the way you were raised can be held responsible for any irresponsibility. It is all in the mind decide and do it, do not be afraid of people or consider there reactions to something you believe to be good. Intend good and do good and just do it, slowly you will gain confidence. It is just a step away, first time you will hesitate the next time you will feel better with more self esteem and self respect. Try it. All the best

Be connected with God and you will have esteem for yourself.
God can help you to be a reliable and good person you want to be.
God loves you and you are precious to Him. Jesus died on the Cross to save us from condemnation; we therefore have hope of Heaven as our eternal home.
Never miss Heaven for anything in this world.

Just do it. It is hard for everyone to follow through at least once in a while. Being un-reliable is not a disease it is a choice. You are responsible for every single choice you make. Just remember that. Also ,Do not agree to things you can't/don't want to do.You'll be alright!

Use better words and phrases that better fit all of the outcomes you can give. It will take practice maybe even prewriting the words down in a book.

How can I be more social or socially acceptable?

2010-05-25T18:17:00.000-07:00

How can I feel more social? When I am out there, people say I am social. But I just don't feel it, and I feel that I overdo my friendliness sometimes to a point that people get the wrong idea. How do I change to be more socially acceptable by not going overboard.
Answer:
Practice. Keep getting out there. Be sure to pay attention to other people's reactions (body language %26 what they say) and behave accordingly.

dont mind others
do waht u feel
let it flow
b liquid
let it go through you and just relax and dont overdo ur talking
dont talk when u dnt need to
go with it

There is a magic trick, that if you will embrace now, you will become the most popular person you know.

It takes 21 days to do it, and you need to make sure you do it with out let your fears and doubts to interfere:

Everyday before you go to sleep, close your eyes and feel greatful for how popular you are. If you don't think that you are popular now then imagine yourself becoming one, see yourself sorouneded by friends, see yourself loved and popular. And then, be greatful for that.

In the mornings, when you are waking up, remind yourself again of how popular you are. Look at the mirror, and tell your self " I'm popular, I have so many friends, I feel so great about it". Don't be emberaced, it may sounds weird, but what do you have to loose? trust me, I was a very popular guy all of my life.

Write on a piece of paper a paragraph that reminds you of how popular you are, and how importnat it is to keep on feeling it and saying it for 21 days. Read this paper a few times a day, especialy in those moments that you feel the other way.

If you will hear a voice in your head saying that it's not true, don't listen to it! tell yourself that you are doing it as an experiment, and that you will give yourself 21 days. After all, if I'm right, you will become to most popular person that you know, and if I'm wrong, then you just tried a new thing, nothing wrong had happend.

Keep a diary of the proccess, so after the magic will occur and you will feel very popular, you will know that it's because of the auto suggestion that you just did.

Good Luck, Oz.

Practice.if you ever find the answer let me know

How can I be more assertive without ticking people off?

2010-05-25T18:16:00.002-07:00

Answer:
You know, it's really common for people to think that "assertive" equates with "aggressive" (or pushy, etc.) But being assertive basically means that you are able to ask for what you need out of a situation--hopefully considering the feelings and needs of others as well and balancing it all out.

Probably the best trick to being assertive without ticking people off is to make strong "I-statements" about how you feel. For example, when someone has hurt your feelings by making a snarky comment: "You know, I feel very hurt when you make snide comments about me...If something that I do offends you, would you please let me know honestly rather than hurting my feelings this way?" All in all, another person is very unlikely to become offended when you state how you feel about what their behavior has done to you. It might even open up honest dialogue with them (or not, but at least you've taken care of yourself).

You are really on the right track when you ask how not to tick others off. Think about how YOU would like someone to be assertive with you when your behavior/speech, etc. offends someone else. And think "assertive" rather than "aggressive" or "pushy"...assertion involves consideration--of BOTH your feelings and those of other people.

Be assertive but polite not like SHUT UP be like please destroy the jabber please.

It is definitely a valuable skill. Try stating your wants and needs without disrespecting the wants and needs. I know that many people think "I" statements are cheesy, but they are very important when being assertive. Try to avoid being critical of the other person's viewpoint, just state what you need.

Human beings are very strange in their behaviour.if you are too assertive you are a *****, if you do not assert yourself..people will walk all over you..

I have yet to find the in-between...other than, treat people the way you would like to be treated, and, if someone does something that offends you tell them immediately...in a quiet, non-confronting way..and, if they do not like it...do not candy coat anything...dont bow down to someone who will not hear you or respect you..

best wishes

You have received some good advice on here. The only thing I can add is that you need to get over worrying about ticking people off. You won't if you are polite. So don't worry about that. AND...if someone is really wrong and you stand up for yourself, who cares if they get ticked off at you?

If you are in a situation where you need to assert yourself, stay calm. Your body posture should be calm and non-threatening as well; keep your shoulders up, don't lean in to the person you're dealing with. Your voice should also be calm but not subdued. And when you stop talking, listen. Don't just wait to talk again, really listen. And while you listen, breath. If it takes a few seconds to formulate a considered answer, then do so; don't rush the exchange. Be firm, be calm, be in control of yourself. People will respect your attitude and be more inclined to listen to you.

How can I avoid worrying about girls?

2010-05-25T18:16:00.001-07:00

it happens all the time!
Answer:
What's to worry about?
It's all good.
Smile and enjoy yourself.
Worrying is a waste of time.
What's gonna happen will happen.

Need more details, i dont fully understand your question about girls

play video games instead that happends all the time too and play sports and go fishing and hang out with the boys

First worry is not a good word. To be concerned is a good word. Please understand it is good to be concerned for girls but but mental health professionals know we should not obsess about anyone.
This can ruin your mental health and your physical body which both affects the way you think.
Try finding another outlet like music, friends or nature. Take a walk and enjoy nature. Read happy books or books with good endings. Count your blessings.
Thinking positive is the best answer. Stay away from negative people which is the only way to have a good, positive and healthy outlook on life.
Good luck to you.

You actually have several options.

First- change the way you look at girls. Yes, they are nice, but think of every single one of them as you would a sister. Treat them with respect, and don't undress them with your eyes.

If you're having problems with them gossiping to you with their problems, don't further their points. Don't agree with them about saying things that are negative- say something that defuses the situation like "I'm sorry that bothers you. Maybe we can talk about something more cheerful?" Nod and smile. Let them get whatever they wish to say out, then keep the conversation light and airy. Change the subject if you know it is wrong.

Take up some sort of hobby that takes up most of the free time you have. It sounds like a horrible thing, but if you have a sport or something physical to release your energy on, you won't have time, or the strength to deal with female company or furthering relationships outside of your hobby.

Take up something healthy-- don't claim video games or binge eating as a hobby! Make it something fun that you really wish to persue (like video game DESIGN or gourmet cooking).

How can I avoid paranoia when they're all out to get me?

2010-05-25T18:16:00.000-07:00

Answer:
not All are out to get you but a great many are. be alert be prepared for you know not from where it will come. REmember paranoia is perfect awareness.

Go hide in a cave.

Ignore them you have a force field around you and they can't touch you!

Accept the fact that even if they are all out to get you it isn't truly a "horrible" situation unless you repeatedly tell your self how "horrible" it is, plus, remind yourself that the greatest likelyhood is that they aren't really all out to get you.

A zen way to think of it is to tell yourself that adverse things are not happening "to you" they are happening "around you".

If they ARE all out to get you, there's not much you can do about it, so why worry about it?

There are medicine that can help that feeling...talk to your doctor

Stop doing drugs.

Drugs can induce paranoia, as well as schizophrenia, and even anxiety.

But if you're not on drugs, please forgive me for that. I would suggest seeing a therapist. Or since you can already convince yourself that everyone is out to get you, convince yourself that nobody can get you. Convince yourself that when you think someone's coming to kill you, that you are a stealthy ninja and you can hide behind 1 inch trees.

Get them first.

Who are all these people who are out to get you?
The world we live in, our society is very populous.
Who, then, particularly is out to get you?
I am no psychologist but I would try to find out if Paranoia is what you're suffering from.
May help bring you more peace, you know. Not Everyone could possibly be after you? You do know that, don't you?

As a child I was picked on and bullied everyday in school and went home crying everyday. (no exagerration!) and was jumped a few times for no apparent reason. I understand your frustration and I too was paranoid. Now, I'm older and it is over. I'm sure you can ignore verbal harassment, but the moment they put their hands on you or touch you with any part of their body, you knock them senseless. There are people out there saying, "Violence is not the answer, walk away!" That phrase is bull**** when they're trying to hurt you physically. When I started fighting back, (literally fighting) they stopped. Now I'm not saying beat up everybody who picks on you; hit them if they touch you or physically harm you. If you let them physically harm you, it could possibly escalate to them jumping you and beating the living daylights out of you; it happened to me. If you don't stick up for yourself, people will be walking on you as their doormat for the rest of your life. I usually went to the principal's office to report them, but they did it even more. When you grow up and end up in the real world, you can't go to your boss at work and say, "so and so is picking on me." See what I mean? Look, I know you want to go into the dark, but show them you're not somebody to be picked on. Bullies are weak inside, that's why they want to pick on you. It makes them feel better inside. I gotta go now. Remember, hit them if they harm you physically and DO NOT hit them if they are saying things. Attacking them when they are saying things will get you in lots of trouble and only fight them if it's up to the point where they've started jumping you, suckerpunching you, etc.

How can I ask for help I suffer with depression and am going through a rough patch at the moment?

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Please help me to get the help I need I constantly feel like killing myself and I regularly self harm I just want the bad thoughts and the voices that come out the tele, radio and computer to go away
Answer:
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! I really feel for you i have been in the same place as you, as have alot of other people. Just keep talking as long as you keep your voice you are on the path. Speak to family, friends, doctor, even your local church. You wont be turned away or looked down on. There are so many places you can go for help and support. Please vist or call mind they have been invaluable to myself and my family. We will listen no matter how daft or down you may feel. I found writing drawing scribberling and shouting in a pillow help full when it all became to much. All of my love and thoughts and wishes are with you.

There is help out there, it may be a long road to recovery but you will get there, I promise you. Go to your Doctor tomorrow and talk to him, he can refer you to a counsellor. You must talk to someone OK? Please don't go through this alone, I have been where you are now and I came through it, you can too.

Good luck

You know about three weeks ago I was asking the same type of question. Finaly I talked to my shrink and said "I need to be put on something, i can't go on like this I'm tired of feeling horrible." I was then put on 300mg Wellbutrin XL and Ambein CL so I could sleep. and It has and is working, I still have low moments but not as bad and drastic. so talk to any of your doctors, they are there to help.

it seems you've made the first step already by asking for help here. take the next and ask someone more qualified to deal with this. talk to family or friends and people you trust. theres loads of support available to you out there. dont stop now. hope it all goes well.

please get help from the psychiatrist, take medications to
be out of the agony .
Advice from my personal experience of 20 years battling
with bipolar depression .
seek help early , to get heal early .

See depression, self harm %26 suicidal thoughts at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 2, 4, %26 5.

Depression is often under valued. I guess you have to suffer with it to actually know how bad it can be. I have suffered and still do off and on. You need to try and stay focused and remember that you are not thinking properly, everything is kind of outside the normal box. I know how hard it is to break the cycle and to climb back up, but you can do it.
I also find that when I am feeling low if I force myself to do stuff like the gym or going out just for a walk it helps.
Talk with your Dr, your freinds people around you tell them how you really feel, people will help. You can always e-mail me if you feel you cant talk to so one you know.
Take care and hope you start to feel better soon.

poor you - i have been through suicidal feelings too. Apart from supporting you with a listening ear, we on here can't do much. Badger your GP to get you some help - tell him/her exactly how you feel. Meanwhile, be gentle with yourself, and try do do one small thing at a time. If the TV offends, turn it off, ditto the radio. Good luck

Awwwww please dont suffer alone talk to your doctor I know everyone says it but I didnt at first it took me 4 years to get there (17 now) im suffering with depression and know how it feels if you need any one to talk to just email me ok.. but till then go sit outside or go for a nice walk, or just sit in the tub for a while no razors etc and let your mind close down for a while it really can really help :0)

How can i adjust and deal with my parents ?

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I'm about to turn 18 yrs old in about two months. My relationship with my parents isn't so good. We argue way to freaking much. I have issues with watching and decreasing my tone with them during harsh arguments. I also have too much confusion, i have a thyroid gland problem which rises my adrenaline really quickly when i get upset so i can get angry really quickly, and i keep having thoughts of just giving up. My father is an "over achiever" aka he has too many expectations from me which i cannot seem to take on all at once and it builds too much pressure and stress into my mind and body. My mother is not as pressuring as my father, but she can really push me to my limits. She tends to act over sophisticated. Both folks won't give me my own personal space. I've hit depression this year and did some really foolish mistakes, and now both folks are tremendously making me feel confused and angry everytime i'm in the household. Why is it that parents pressuire teens to much ??
Answer:
If it weren't for your parents pushing you to achieve, you would still be in diapers eating with your fingers. Up until now, you've had a free ride, with your parents job being to prepare you for a productive and hopefully happy life. If that's not pressure for them, then I don't know what is. If you turn out to make poor decisions and end up miserable, they are the people you are going to lay it all back on. If you actually do manage to accomplish something, it's not likely you will give them much credit either. Perhaps it's not so much your parents pushing as it is a combination of their panic and your over-reaction. They realize that once you turn 18, it's all on your dime. There is nothing they can do to fish you out of a stinky problem, no matter what they might like to do. It's fish or cut bait time, and they happen to know where a good many sharks swim. You on the other hand, may not recognize the shark until after it's bitten off part of your posterior. Perhaps if you all could try talking this out like humans and resisting the urge to resort to a blaming screamfest, you could work this all out. All sides could see the valid points being made without somebody having to be wrong. At the very least, you might consider that for all the errors your parents are making, they at least err out of love for you. When you get out in the world, you are going to discover there are people out there who don't give two hoots about you or your thryroid problem, who will gladly push your buttons for fun. They won't care what happens to you, one way or the other. They will do nothing for you out of love, most will be in in only for what they can get from you. The boss only wants your labor, a good many guys will just want whats in your pants. The professors at college just want you to do the work, come to class and take the tests. They will happily flunk you, without a second thought. Your boss will fire you without worrying about the damage to your sensitive psychie. So I'd tone it down on the blame the parents line, and start thinking about acting like the adult you very nearly are.

first of all it might not be your parents. i have a thyroid disease and i go bananas at time. but i did get some meds from the dr. to control it. before the meds. i was confuse and really angry all the time. i hope it can work for u

I know you already know this, but they just want what's best for you.

You may have factors that contribute to your stress, but keep in mind that it's all a mental game you play on yourself. Stress just wears your mind down which can manifest itself physically. Basically, when you feel yourself reaching the boiling point, leave the room, take a walk, go do something else and calm down. It's only harming yourself.
You could also try talking calmly with your parents about how they make you feel. If you've tried this already and it doesn't work, you may just need to get out of that situation.
If you're going away to college, that may help. Otherwise save up and move out. If your parents simply won't stop treating you like that, I really can't think of another solution.

Good luck!

Meditate and pray for everything to be allright. Keep quiet when they fight. Ignore but do as much as you can that they want you to do.
Good luck outta your depression Consult a psychiatrist

yes they are too strict. get a job and get out but while your working up to that read the book The Secret by Rhonda Byrne it may help you! Goodluck!

Well in two months you can walk down the road and sleep wherever you end up. After you sleep outside and swat bugs all night for a time maybe you will see why they want you to get right. Sometimes you have to see what its like on the other side of that door. I got the boot at 18 and never let back in the door that was 22 years ago.I should have listened and stayed in school. The way I choose was a rough one. and its still rough.The reason they seem strict is because they really love you and dont want to see you screw up. Go to school get the degree, stay clean, dont drink , or smoke go to church and your life will be better than most.

You know I understand fully b/c I have a 17 yr old and I push sometimes b/c I really don't want to see him make bad decision in life.

Although my husband is Military and we do have structure in the home but not wear its over the top.

Sounds like your parents are just getting you ready for life and we as parents sometimes over do it b/c we care and LOVE y'all too much.

You know go to your parents and let them know that things are bothering you but be respectful with your mouth and tell them what you want and also let them know you have alot of confusion going on inside you.

Perhaps planned a dinner with your family and let them know what it is you want outta life. And let them know that what goals you have for yourself.

Another thing if you do something stupid MAN-UP to it and take responsibility for your action.

Good Luck and Happy Early BDay.

How can I achieve my goals?

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Answer:
taking it one step at a time

by doing them

By putting your faith in GOD and yourself.

work hard at them and never give up.

get organized and prioritize. motivate yourself somehow. finding stories about people achieving their goals helps me.

You need a REAL plan.
Make sure you develop discipline
(it could be little by little)
Enjoy the process

make a plan, time table and stick to it to the letter.

Put God first! Tell him your goals and work hard at them.there are going to be obsticles...but they are there to test your faith..you must not quit!! Write down your goals and ways you will achieve them and don't forget to pray. God will open doors for ya!! God bless!

break your major goals up into a list and make smaller more manageable goals so you don't get discouraged. if you want to run a mile in 8 min. and you are running it in 12. make a monthly goal of dropping 30 sec. etc until you reach your goal for example. it wont stress you out as much and you will be more likely to stick w/ your goals. good luck

Deception, subtrefuge and Guile, BS works too!

By believing in yourself and sticking to a plan. that plan may involve college or career school or other education. it may be a personal goal such as obtaing new friends or relationships. Whatever the case believe. visualization is realization. good luck donalore

By making your goals realistic to achieve.

How can I "learn" to feel happy?

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Answer:
Happiness is a bi-product of life, not something that you can force on yourself. In saying that, there are people who swear by the fact that you can make yourself feel more cheerful by forcing yourself to laugh everyday. Find a space where you will be alone and force yourself into a big loud belly laugh with a smile on your face. Often you get the giggles at yourself for what you are doing but even if you don't, your brain releases chemicals that make you feel good. You effectively trick your body into thinking you are happy and it responds by doing what it does when you are.

I don't know, but when you find out please write a book about it and give me a copy! People tell me all the time to just be positive, think differently...but I just stay stuck in negativity.

It all depends on your personality.

You might start by reading the Bible

happiness is not taught, it is not to be learned, although it does come with realization. You can't learn how to be happy, you must realize what it is to be happy.
But, here are some words of mine and others to help you understand a little bit more

Don't sweat things, it is only life, afterall.

"Remember that happiness is a way of travel - not a destination."
-Roy M. Goodman

you can't...it's a socially constructed ideology. Check out foucault. Saying that i'm pretty chipper most of the time

I really don't know.. I guess I haven't learned to feel happy I wish. :( if you do figure out please do tell

read up on 'cognitive therapy'.

it's your thoughts that affect your feelings, not the other way around.

it's your choice to think what you think - and this in turn, affects how you feel.

ie. if you find yourself thinking about the really crappy day you had - learn to catch yourself in that act and consciously decide to think about something else. a thought is only a thought. it can't hurt you or make you sad unless you let it.

cognitive therapy.

How can god help?

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I wanto die.
I hate life.
I'm dizzy.
I have SO MUCH HOMEWORK TO DO TONIGHT, DUE TOMMOROW!!

How can the lord help me?
Some people say, "let the lord inside of you, and he will juide you"

I have never been baptised.
My mom, and sisters have, but I chose not to, becuase I don't, personally, feel that I should be obligated to study a certian religon while there are many others.

But I do believe in a god.
How can he help? How can he guide me?
Answer:
Your posts including this one show signs of serious depression. The fact that you believe in God is a start but you have to be willing to let him help. Being baptized doesn't save you. The act of believing He is the way, the truth and the life, and turning over your conerns to Him is salvation. Sounds like you need to talk to someone though. Dawson McAllister is a great youth minister. try his website

until you accept him, he cant.

God helps in a phsycological way, working through you if you truely believe in him, this means you must change your lif to be more like god.

I don't know but you better get started on that homework.

Post the harder parts of your homework, some of the people here claim to be intelligent.

just ask him to help you,,,he already knows how you feel. He will give you peace,,just the fact that you are asking this question means that you do believe and you want him to help you

One thing I can tell you for sure is god isnt' going to do your homework for you.
Sounds like you have some good old fashioned teenaged or pre-teenaged angst. It's normal. Things will get better .
Do your homework.

first off...check out the unitarian church, they study all religions, and accept people from all of them who want to congregate together, and to reach out to each other. also, i believe your life is worth something. i thought the same things about myself, and i was told by a good friend that i had a purpose, and how everyone does some way. so just be open to others, and think before you do something you will regret. life is definitely worth living! no matter what you are dealing with now, it will get better

all you have to do is to trust in god and he will guide you to what you really need help. pray to him. i went to my church today and the pastor was talking about the people fishing in the boat. they too hated life because they had to fish every day. but god helped them and guided them. he gave them tons of fish. ask him for help. life has a purpose. never say there is no point of life. the point of life is to live.

Oh please. You petition the Lord out of homework issues? You want to die? Sorry, no offense, but you seem a trifle spoiled. If you do believe in a god, then gaze at his creation. From the majesty of the silent mountains to moonlight playing the ripples of an alpine lake. Surely your personal frustrations are not worthy of consideration in the biggeer picture.

First of all,
why the heck are all you people telling her to "go do your homework!" She is obvoisly upset and doesn't need that bs.

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I do alot to.
I have never been baptised either.
Just try to pray. Pray to him. He may not now,
but hopefully he will make things better.

Hun, YOU are stressed. Turn it all over to God. Pray to Him and ask Him to help you through this time in your life. You will have to turn it over every day; because you are human, you will want to take it back and try to control it. I don't know HOW He will choose to help you or guide you. Perhaps He will bring someone in your life to help you with the burdens of too much to do. Maybe He will provide you extra time in your day to get your school work done by eliminating another activity. I don't know, but I know if you want Him to help and you are sincere in your heart, you must ask Him, turn it over to Him and believe in your heart that He will grant you what you ask. You must have FAITH that He will provide what you need.

Baptism does not bind you to one religion; it is directed in the Bible.

AND, if you are serious about wanting to die, please get some counseling. If not, watch what you say because words like that hurt your loved ones and tear at your mental state. Ask God to help you with this, too.

As a marginally practicing Buddhist, I don't think God or anyone else can do it for you. You just have to be quiet and let the answers come to you. If you experience those answers as coming from "God", OK. But, that's more a matter of perception that anything else.

It seems to me you have a variety of problems here. If you hate life and want to die...well, your homework doesn't seem that important. (The fact that you're also dizzy is just confusing, but leaves me with the thought that maybe you need to eat...or stop drinking...or lay off the drugs.) In any event, you need more competent support than you're going to find here.

On the other hand, maybe you're just having a little emo moment looking for attention. If that's it...OK...you win, I promise to worry about you for a few minutes during my meditations tonight. Blessed be.

Basically keep praying every day for God to wipe the slate clean of all your sins. Pray for that in the church and pray for that at home. Long, long prayers. Then you will not feel like God is punishing you anymore for sinning. Try to be good at that point, with your clean slate, if you can. Insofar as your homework ask for a parent-teacher conference so your teachers do not load you down in this time of emotional crisis.

I think god might have tapped you on the shoulder and said to you... hey...you might want to tackle that homework right now.but you didn't listen until it was too late...

now look at you.suffering! (aaargh!)

Next time...try listening to the little voice in you that says do your work when its time too! He's always there for you.never forget!

You've gotten yourself into a downward spiral of thought. If you're not going to do your homework, just accept it and let it go. It's not the end of the world and not the deciding factor in whether you are going to choose to leave school or remain in the same grade. Save those decisions for the daytime when you are less stressed. I don't think any of your problems are worth killing yourself over. Life can be changed in an instant, so hang on and something good will happen. It always does, eventually. Thank God when it does. Grattitude brings more of the same. Good luck.

No matter what you do in your life always remember that you have God who loves you, so, so, so, so, much and he wants to be your friend. All you have to do is put your faith and trust in him and ask him into your heart through prayer that you could say like this

"Dear God, I am sorry for all of my sins, please forgive me and come into my life. Please be there to guide me in the hard times in my life. I thankyou for dying on the cross for me. Thankyou Lord Jesus, in your name Amen."

God is so powerful. He has the power to move mountains. Just trust in him and he has the power to change your life if you let him into your heart. He is so loving and really cares about you. Whenever you feel sad or lonely you can pray to him and he will always listen to your prayers. You will be able to feel his presence in your heart and it will comfort you to know he is there.

He is so amazing. You can talk to him about anything. You can even pray to Him that he can help you to complete your homework by tomorrow.

I live in Australia and my family and I will be praying for you.

Religion is trash dude. Religion doesn't save anyone.

Oh, in case you guys don't know, Christianity isn't a religion, its a faith.
A faith in Jesus, who died for your sins. Try looking for a song, Safe Haven by Project86. Listen to the lyrics, i think it fits you.

Baptism doesn't save either, its just an outward act of faith in Christ.

There are many ways believing in a god. But there is only ONE God (notice, capital G)

To recieve God's help,
First off, we've all got to admit we're sinners. We've blown many things in this life. So, we all know we're sinners.
Second, admit that to Jesus. He's always there for us, we just don't want to run to him.
Third, tell him you want him to save you. That's why he died on the cross, so that when this life ends, we'll be with him in Heaven!
Then, go out and tell your mom and sisters that you've accepted Christ!
Studying a religion is for those who want to be pastors or teachers.

How he can guide you? well, that's up to you how you want him to guide you. You can give him control of your life, or, you can choose to ask him for help.

About your homework, well, good luck bro. i've got mine too. harharharhar

You have to quite yourself, go somewhere wher you are alone and pray. he will do the rest.

How can Deperession hurt physically?

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Answer:
Depression, in fact, is a very inapt word. Depression incorporates a wide range of emotions and behaviors, from feeling sad to loss of pleasure to being anxious to being angry to acting aggressively. Throw in out of whack sleeping and eating, loss of energy, not being able to think straight, and unexplained pain, and a mental and physical hurricane.

The risk of heart disease is doubled in people with depression, and a previous depression is often the greatest risk factor for heart disease and other ills, over smoking, drinking, high blood sugar, and previous heart attacks. Depression has also been connected to diabetes, bone loss, stroke, irritable bowel syndrome, and possibly cancer. In addition, people with depression have much higher rates of alcohol and substance use than the general population.

Good link below with more symptoms.

Because depression is, in many cases, a by product type of symptom of joint pain and liver damage...

Try Sam-e.

eating wrong or not eating
not sleeping
stress

depression usually leads to over-eating or under-eating. if you over-eat, you can gain weight easily which will make you even more depressed, and the cycle goes on. if you under-eat you might lose some weight, which can make you possibly feel more attractive, but taken to an extreme will make you very weak. depressed people can also be prone to making destructive decisions, like cutting or drinking, both of which hurt you physically.

http://www.depression.com

I don't understand all the body chemistry, but true clinical depression is usually caused by a problem with neurotransmitters, typically serotonin.

Some pain, like stomach pain or headaches, can be attributed to anxiety which is frequently a component in depression.

However the deep down muscle/body "aches" I think are related to neurotransmitters or hormones. It is hard for someone who has never personally experienced this pain to understand.

If you are suffering from depression, please see your doctor to get it evaluated. Depression may not always be "curable", but it can be treated with great results.

I suffer from "Chronic Tension-Type Headaches", and I find they occur most often when I am afraid, angry or depressed. So in this case, depression manifests as physical pain, i.e., the headache.

I'm not sure the exact reasons, but the physical/emotional pain can literally be unbearable.

It may be to do with the build up of lactic acid or cortisol. It would be interesting to know.

HTH : )

Absolutely.

over tensing muscles in the body causing the person pain and some times may even cause damage to the muscle. Also lack of sleep giving the body less time to repair and other important things. too much sleep deprives the body of movement and exercise so muscles weaken. those are some guesses I have. most I experienced first hand.

How can complete sleep 8hrs?im only sleep 5-6hrs?

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Answer:
If you feel well-rested with 5-6 hrs that might just be your circadian rhythm (google for some defintions). An average of 8 hrs of sleep is probably from clinical studies and people can vary from the mean of 8 hrs so if 5-6 works for you that's fine. If it's not, I think it is easiest to put yourself on a schedule. If you go to bed at 8pm one night, then 9pm, 1am, etc. other nights your body can't really time when you should go to sleep and when to wake up. Try and choose a consistent time to go to bed and make sure it around a time when you are tired on average.

How can a woman with no viable options stop the ongoing mental abuse intitiated by an ex and many others?!?

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Answer:
You have options if he is an ex. Get a restraining order. It has been my experience that people who tolerate abuse with themselves, get something out of the relationship. Find out what you are benefiting from the abusive relationship sympathy, victim whatever. Stop feeding it and you will find a way to stop the abuse

You could start by being more specific about what you perceive to be the problems.

Write Dr. Phil or go on his website. Or, Dr. Keith Ablow.

1) Restraining Order for him. 2) See http://www.livinglifetothefull.com... on assertiveness %26 http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... and read page 2. Practise one of the relaxation methods and note the tips at the mental-health-abc %26 conquering stress websites %26 view http://www.coolnurse.com/self_ (.com/self_esteem3.htm).

Sticks and stones can break your bones
but, mental abuse can never hurt you

You have a viable option.....Ignore!

How can a person with alzheimers drive a car or wonder from home and not get in a car wreck,or hit by a car.?

2009-10-31T07:16:00.001-07:00

I've heard that some end up in another city. I'm only 47 and I forget things a lot and it scares me.
Answer:
You bring up a great question. Someone with Alzheimer’s should not be out wandering the streets, but it does happen—and it generally ends badly. Many nursing homes that serve the dementia population have monitoring systems in place, such as Wanderguard. These systems can also be used in the home environment. It may seem cruel to put a tracking bracelet on someone who isn’t a criminal, but it goes a long way in assuring safety.

If you think your memory is weakening, there’s a lot you can do to strengthen it. While it is unlikely you are currently experience early onset dementia, it wouldn’t hurt to keep your mind limber. I recommend a video game called Brain Age. I actually wrote a blog on this a while back for Gilbert Guide, a resource for long-term care. Here’s an excerpt:

“In addition to detecting and improving the effects of Alzheimer’s, computerized games can also help keep middle-aged minds agile. Nintendo, a staple of my youth, has come up with a game called Brain Age. The company contends that using the game for only minutes a day and engaging in “cerebral workouts” can stimulate the mind enough to actually decrease one’s “brain age.” All you need is a Nintendo DS to jump right in and start reading literary classics aloud, solving math problems and drawing from memory, just to name a few tasks. The game was founded in Japan, released as “Dr. Kawashima’s Brain Training: How Old Is Your Brain?” in Europe and released in the US as “Brain Age” in April of 2006. Some skeptics have asserted that improvement in Sudoku is hardly an indication of one’s capacity to better conduct activities of daily living. One thing is certain—marketing to baby boomers and seniors is a smart move for a company with vast competition in targeting the teen market.”

Click here to read the rest of the post:

http://www.gilbertguide.com/blog/2007/01...

If you don’t see yourself playing video games to strengthen your memory, try sudoku. A little mental challenge goes a long way!

I hope this information helps,
Lori

They can't. Once you are diagnosed with Alzheimer's you can no longer drive. And you shouldn't go out of the house alone.
Don't worry about your forgetfulness. My mother always said, "Oh no...I forgot_____. I must have Alzheimer's!" And I would tell her, "Mom, as long as you can say you "must" have Alzheimer's.you don't. It's when you think you are perfectly normal walking down the street in your nightgown going to teach a class on bubblegum wrappers (or whatever) that you have a problem." My grandfather had it. It was horrible. He never knew he was deteriorating. He didn't think he was forgetful or doing anything weird. If you took him in the car (this was early in the disease) he would spit all over the car because his brain forgot how to swallow. He finally had to go into a nursing home (my grandmother could no longer take care of him herself and he no longer knew her) and he would walk down the halls and take his pants off and pee in the potted plants. They had to put his pants on him backwards. Very sad. Broke our hearts. He was a WWII hero.

there are different stages of Alzheimer's. In the early stages one can still function relatively normally. As the disease progresses symptoms increase and one will lose more and more of their memory which will in fact diminish capabilities

How can a person tell the difference between very dumb and slightly mental retard?

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Answer:
take an IQ test

I dont think you can because if one is so dumb he is definitely retarded.

you can get tested for being mentally retarded. there is definaly a difference.

How can a person recover from a mental disorder?

2009-10-31T07:15:00.002-07:00

i wonder is just a trivial thing you know...
Answer:
Depends on the disorder and if it is an organic disorder or situational (life). One can recovery from Depression, anxiety, and many other disorders. One's like Bipolar and Schizophrenia are organic disorders or chemical imbalances, and require long-term medication therapy as well as counseling.

I am a survivor from mental sickness=At first I tried to do it all on my own==after a few years I met a Christian councillor
I put my trust in Jesus and let him help me and have now been away from the mental health clinic for over 2 years after fighting it since 1989=It took me 1 year with Gods help=This is 2007=2 years away =1 year with Gods help SO 2007 take away 1990=17 years on my own 1 year with God=18 in total
my mental problems started as a teen so i am just starting really to enjoy life and I am 60=this is real

People say you can't get over bipolar disorder, but I was diagnosed with it and was put on medication (Lamictal) and I was on that medication for about half a year until I decided I wanted to join the army. Can't join on meds though! So I stopped my medication on my own, and honestly I feel fine. I know the symptoms to look for if I start feeling like I used too, but I've been off of it for atleast 3 months now and I've been doing great, so currently I think it is indeed possible to recover from some things.

I believe if he does really commit. Constant and consistent prayer and meditation can help.

unfortunately there is no fine sure cure and medication can only help control symptoms and treat it but doesnt cure it and therapy can help but once mentally ill always mentally ill can go in remission and then relapse like any other condition

How can a person not worry so much about everything?

2009-10-31T07:15:00.001-07:00

Answer:
I knew a person once that said her solution was to only worry after 3:00 AM and then allow only one hour..If it is so important that she needed to spend time on the problem that was the only time she allowed herself the luxury of worrying.

lots and lots of drugs

There is no cure to help you stop worrying, you worry wart! LOL just like myself, you have to put everything into order, know how to manage your problems/worries and then take it one day at a time. I wish i didnt worry so much either but i guess that is just our nature. I ended up talking to someone about this.

i used to have this same problem. first think about all the things that you have no control over and let all of that go. this probably sounds funny but when i was little i had the worst fear of spontaneous combustion. whether that can really happen or not (i saw shows that said it did happen thats why i was scared) my parents sat me down like "you cant stop it from happening so why worry about it?" and thats how i look at all situations. then the things you can control, well just do the best you can to maintain them and you should be ok.

I used to be a worrier but I realized how it effected me and everyone around me so I stopped worrying about ever little detail and since then my life has been so much better I'm happy 99% of the time. you have to get it in your head it's not worth it and stop your self. .

well i used to worry bout everything until one day i got so worn out i had to stop. just think to yourself"how important is this" "who comes first my health or my work" and "i am here for me i need to take good care of myself, no one else will" those sayings help me :)

How can a person deal with ptsd?

2009-10-31T07:15:00.000-07:00

as a child i had lots of abuse in my life, now as a adult i find it alot harder to deal with it than i did as a child.
Answer:
Violet P is right. NLP works well on PTSD. I have used it to help clear out old memories.

But, for me, the bad memories were not the worst part of PTSD. For me it was all the emotion and bad feelings it would bring up. Once triggered the memories would flood in and I would be caught up in them for hours or days, until I learned about EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique or Emotional Tapping). From EFT I learned that Emotions are just ENERGIES IN MOTION in our bodies.

Every time you don't allow yourself or you aren't allowed to fully experience an emotion, to feel it, and to move through it, the energy of that emotion becomes stopped and blocked in your body. It remains blocked until you go back and re-experience that emotion. Then the energetic block is freed and cleared. Virtually all of our physical ailments come from energetic blocks in our bodies, energetic patterns that are connected to our emotional patterns.

One good way to release yourself from the emotional blocks of PTSD is by using EFT daily. In EFT you apply gentle acupressure tapping to specific body points to release blocked emotions. EFT is easy to learn (you can learn the basics in 15-30 minutes). You can use EFT anytime, anywhere for any emotional or physical issue. One basic round of EFT takes about one minute to complete. Also, EFT works quickly and painlessly - you do not have to feel the old emotions to release them. And, once the emotional blocks are released the bad memories won't keep coming up (won't keep getting triggered).

Please download the FREE EFT Instructional manual from the EFT website (www.emofree.com).

I learned how to use EFT last year and now use it everyday. EFT really works

try NLP

find a support group in your area. if it is really serious, talk to a dr.

First off, I am so sorry to hear that you went through this. You deserve help and support. You CAN heal from past trauma and you don't deserve to suffer.

I hope that you have a good therapist that specializes in the treatment of trauma and PTSD. There is a technique called EMDR that is wonderful for treating trauma. EMDR is a method of psychotherapy that has been extensively researched and proven effective for the treatment of trauma. To find out more about it, or to find an EMDR therapist, click here:
http://www.emdria.org

If EMDR does not feel like the thing for you, you might also consider Somatic Experiencing, another trauma technique that is more body based. To find a therapist, click here:
http://web.memberclicks.com/mc/page.do?o...

Explore, and find a therapist that you feel safe with. Good luck to you.

How can a lack of sleep affect memory?

2009-10-31T07:14:00.003-07:00

How can a lack of sleep affect your reaction time and memory?
Answer:
The lack of sleep has an outrageous effect across the board-it increases hunger, it increases pain, it leaves you with brain fog, etc. etc. etc.
Yes, and thanks for reminding me-good night!

Sleep gives your brain a rest. If you don't sleep, your brain will be so jammed and that's how it affects your memory.

sleep has a restorative function on our mind and body so it will definitely affect memory in so may ways but the two obvious ones are 1.since you'll probably feel drowsy during the day none of the days events will get your full attention, you can't remember what you don't n0tice . 2. During sleep itself encoding and memory retention occurs in the biomolecular level

When you sleep that's the only time where your brain is able to organize the things you stored during the day. So if you lack of sleep the thoughts, knowledge, memories, etc. are not stored well and some of it might even be erased or forgotten. So i suggest get enough sleep for healthy brain and body. (I feel like a hypocrit coz i sleep late at night...heheheh

Sleep deprivation slows reaction time in your cells - bottom line.(That's sort of the short answer wording, by the way-not the 'technical jargon.')

Cells which go unrepaired (from lack of time to rejuvenate and repair while the body is resting) are impaired (Their functioning is down). So, when you don't get enough sleep, your body has multiple reactions; the reaction time slows because your body generally isn't working efficiently; your immune system weakens; you may be slower to activate the neurotransmitters which help process thought/memory; and more. The types of symptoms are broad.

Pardon me but I've gotta cut this short; my bed's waiting (if it isn't, my alarm clock will be).

Best wishes getting some Zzzz's. Too much sleep deprivation can stunt growth and health and shorten one's life, so it's really NOT a joke. (There are some good books about it, too - see below as one example).

When you have used your computer for a period of time and have run a number of applications on it.

You somehow find the your applications will run slower than normal. Even if you only have 1 program running.

Most users have to reset the computer in order that the computer can work again.

Reason: Reseting the computer also clears the stack memory in the computer.

This is the same case as in a human being, sleeping is like the human RESET button. Although it's a bit more complex, Sleep not only allows the body to free up other functions and the mind automatically "arranges" memories and images.

Thus, does it affect your memory, YES.

How can a "recovered" BP be recovered and still have the black/white disfunctional thinking patterns?

2009-10-31T07:14:00.002-07:00

Answer:
By "BP" do you mean bipolar? Bipolar disorder is a mood disorder. Cognitive/behavioral therapy to improve cognitive distortions like black and white thinking helps bipolar disorder because without cognitive distortions we have fewer problems to trigger moods, but the two things are not directly related.

It's human nature to have some degree of cognitive distortions such as black and white thinking. If your mood disorder quiets down, you're still human, and therefore still think like a human, so you're liable to notice black and white thinking. At least you can notice that. So many people just think they're totally right about everything while someone else is totally wrong and have no clue that's dysfunctional.

I would like to help but I don't know what a "recovered BP" is.

He means borderline personality disorder.

I don't know the answer to that other than you yourself should know from dbt to watch for the black/white thinking and you can try and reframe the thoughts to make better choices. I think it is about skills.

Go back to counselor and ask them that question. It is a good one.

well are you asking for a bi-polar person or a borderline personaliy. i guess both the answer is it is nature. if you snore can you force yourself to stop?

How bad is it to stop taking an anti-depressant cold turkey?

2009-10-31T07:14:00.001-07:00

I ran out of prozac and didn't have anymore refills left and I called my doctor probably 20 times about getting a new prescription, but he won't return my calls or emails. I'm really pissed that he would just leave me out to dry like that. So I've just stopped taking it without having any to gradually decrease my dose. I don't feel suicidal, but I'm pretty upset. Is that malpractice?
Answer:
Depending on the number of times you can document contacting your doc, there is the possibility of him/her being charged with patient abandonment. This isn't exactly malpractice, but depending on the credentials of your doc (GP, Psych) and boards governing licensure in your state, this is still a charge that can hurt.

As a previous poster stated, Prozac isn't one of the "terrible" drugs to withdraw from due to it's long half-life. I personally experienced withdrawl from Effexor XR once and it was a living hell. However, you don't want to let this affect your mood stability so even if you can't reach your regular doc try to call another doc, even if it means going to an emergency walk-in clinic. Take your old prescription bottle, explain your situation, and as long as Prozac is the only psych med they you need they shouldn't view you as a "med seeker" and give you enough to get by til you can get a hold of your doc.

Best of luck, hang in there!!
(p.s. If you have a therapist, enlist the help of him/her. The doc is, unfortunatly more likely to return his/her call).

you shouldnt stop just like that u need to go and see your doctor to get some more asap

prozac in particular is a drug with a long half life, so going without it shouldn't be as bad as going without, say, paxil or a drug with a shorter half life.

as for malpractice, it is very irresponsible. i don't know if it crosses into malpractice, but you should get a new doctor right away. that doctor doesn't know his/her butt from a hole in the ground.

call your doctor until you get a hold of him/her. you ought to get back on it as soon as possible. when you and your doctor decide it is time to get off of medications, you should wean yourself off of them slowly. until then, keep taking the meds/

SSRI meds stay in your system for 2 weeks after you stop taking them.(prozaC is ssri right?).you should be fine until you can get ahold of him tomorrow/fri....yo... might feel slightly depressed today/tomorrow but not as much as before you started taking them....(ive done this too)
i dont think you can sue him for malpractice because i think you're supposed to keep an eye on the levels and schedule an appt in time....its funny you ask ..i just ran out and i need to get downtown to get a refill but im too busy..oh dear...

If your doctor will not return calls or emails, it may be that he is on vacation or something of that nature. If you cannot get ahold of someone at his office, call another doctor, explain your problem and see if they can help you get your meds.

I stopped my meds for two months one time just because I didn't want to take the drugs anymore, it was all good for about a week, must have had the meds built up in my system or something. Anyway, after that everyone that came in contact with me KNEW I wasn't taking them anymore, it is extremely important to take your medicine.

As for Malpractice...check this site out and decide if you have a case to pursue or not, if so, contact an attorney. But again, your doctor may have something going on that is out of his control (My Dr. had a heart attack and was gone for 6 weeks, but had another doctor that the patients were referred to)

it's not a good idea to stop cold turkey and the Dr. office should have called you. i don't know if you would call it malpractice but it is defiantly bad business and neglectful. please go to another Dr. tomorrow and get your Prozac and make sure you don't run out next time.

I would HIGHLY suggest you NOT doing it cold turkey, as
you most likely will suffer for months from "withdrawal" bad feelings,headaches, body shakes, you could gain massive weight, or lose, you might not sleep well etc. BUT the main problem with do it this way is that if there is a next time you need to be on meds, the chances are slim this one will work for you and you may have to try a bunch before you find one that will!!
Just because your pissed at your doc-don't take it out on him by undermining your health and well-being. Could you go to a clinic or seek a new doctor that will listen to you, sometimes even the pharmacists will and can help you out, what about a counselor or pychiatrist, or even an ombudsman of sorts to help you sort through this?
It's your health here not his find a new doc, this one sounds like an overworked jack@ss! I don't know about malpractice but I'd say definitely mistreatment

Best of Luck

I was 20 or 21 when I was taking them and I thought to myself that I didnt want to be on some med for the rest of my life and I just quit cold turkey one day. I was taking 60mg of Celexa a day and I had absolutley no withdrawel effects and was amazed after hearing horror storied. I just started Celexa again after going through a lot of stress this year. My dad having a heart attack, quadruple bypass surgery, gf pregnant then miscarried, dumped me twice, relationship now on a single thread, found out she had twins and only miscarried one. So yea I am suffering insomnia, depression, and anxiety.

Potential seizures. See someone else and get some ASAP! See the depression treatments at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2 for more info.

How are you today?

2009-10-31T07:14:00.000-07:00

Answer:
You are the only person that has asked me this today. I think more people should take the time to ask people this question. It makes you think about how you really feel. By the way, I'm doing OK today. How are you?

Fine thank u
simple answer but great question.

im fine thank you for asking, hope that you are having a nice day xx

ok but a family friend found out she only has one week to live(she has cancer)=(=(=(=(

Not too good, depressed and on here to try and get ANSWERS.

bored n depressed.i need my therapist,,but not botherin them.on here to pass time,n see i ain't the only 1 'lost'.and how are you?

How are you today?

2009-10-31T07:13:00.003-07:00

I really want to know. With all the terrible things that are happening...how are you?
Answer:
Fine.

feeling really down n worried . . my husband is not back home yet . .

i dont really have any terrible things happining right now, exept that i miss my bf (we are on spring break)
otherwise im pretty good ;0)

homesick

i'm doing good.. yes i know that there are alot of bad things happening, and that makes my heart sad. But i have the Love of Jesus in my heart and I am praying for the families of the VT victims... that's all i can do. I don't know anyone from there... so I am doing what I can.
Other than that... I have lots of homework to do, i'd like to be done with it, but instead i am on YA answering strange questions.
how are you doing. ??

Im good dont whant 2 go to track practice because were going to State but other than that im good

I am STELLAR!

I am GREAT!! I use to worry about all the terrible things that are happening but I leave it all in Gods hands!! We are just part of the bigger picture of our Souls evolution and I feel we are all at the right place at the right time to learn and achieve what we are here to in what I like to call the Earth - School of Learning... Have a Great Day and don't Worry, Be Happy!

I am doing wonderful! I get to pick my hubby up at the airport..I Can't wait to see him again. I miss him so much. Also I feeling like I don't want to go to work for a few hours buit I know I have too.

I'm in one of those hate the world and everything in it kind of mood. I mean, what exactly are we put on earth to do? We're born, go to school, get a job if we're lucky,grow old and die. What's the point? Yes, I know we have loved ones and friends but is it really worth having them to live in a world like this?

I'm ok, how are you? People will always say, they are ok or fine if you ask them that question.
To be honest, i feel as though i have no self-motivation, i want to do well in my studies but i cant bring myself to revise when i get home, i want to get physically fit but am unable to get enough confidence to sign up for a gym, im not the athletic type, not fat, just thin. also i have to go to Karate senior class in an hour and my mind seems to drift during class and i try not to let it, i want to go to my next belt, but my Sensai feels that i am to tense, i need to relax, its the same thing my gf said to me a week ago.

the terrible things that are happening dont seem to bother me, but the Virginia tech shooting has made me think about the type of world we live in where one person, through mental torment can kill so many people.

glad i got it off my chest, how are you?

I'm doing much better. I'm working on giving my problems to God and work on the things I can. Things are getting easier and I know I will get through this.

Handing things over to God, for the tragedy. Praying extra for the people there and everywhere as we never know. A little concerned for myself as I may have Lupus or something else but not life threatening so all %26 all I'm ok and have a loving healthy family Let's all be grateful for what we have.

Well... I have been dealing with anxiety for about 3 weeks now so haven't been sleeping often. Last night I fell asleep after 2am and wake up for work at 5am... So, today I am pretty tired and worried that I won't sleep tonight.

I'm doing great! I'm glad I'm able to say that with all the problems I'm going through because problems make you stronger %26 in everything I go through God is always there %26 He always gets me through!So whenever you feel down just think:I am so lucky to be alive today!I've got a roof over my head,family/friends,food %26 drink %26 I've gone through difficult things in the past %26 I've always made it through so I'll get through this too!So count your blessings every day you'll be surprised how your perspective %26 mood change.Life will never be easy noone ever said it would be %26 it seems that things are only getting worse so that means we need to become stronger!!
I'm not about to let the things of this world get me down.I hope you agree.

How am I supposed To get what I want?

2009-10-31T07:13:00.002-07:00

Answer:
Sometimes the hard part is figuring out exactly what you want. Then you have to make a plan for how to get there from where you are now. A career counselor or guidance counselor might be able to help.
-w-

Psalm 23:1 the only way to get what you want-is give your wanter to Jesus and he will put his wants into it and fulfill what is the best and most fun for you
otherwise learn this "How does it feel to want?" think about it from the hell point too weeping forever-is it worth it

i tried both ways now Jesus is my savior and best friend -when u got a friend like him -he owns everything so its a good deal! He knows what we need and also what we want-can be 2 very different things
many get what they want but dont want what they get

yell

lyf is extremely complicated and if u want somethin u have to demand for it .... u have to work for it .. nuthin is easy in this world u have to bust your *** out to get something worthwile or something which u desparately lyk......... the end one piece of advice just dont expect for things (nethin in generaly dat u want) because once you stop expecting automatically ull stop gettin hurt .....and lyf will be a cake walk.. one more thg be satisfied withwat u have and if you are not then youll have to work!

Have you just tried to ask ?

You need to ask the right questions!

We can't always get what we want. If you keep running into frustrations, maybe you should re-examine your goals and adjust them to a more realistic level.

Sometimes we have to proceed step by step. First get from A to B before we can get from A to Z.

If your goal is really important to you and you persevere you will get there eventually.

How am i supposed to act when i see this....?

2009-10-31T07:13:00.001-07:00

When i was buying something days ago, I saw the very young sales girl ingesting some tablets , I asked her for curosity what for? and she replied that they were for indigestion though they didn't seem like that for me, then when she saw her boss , she hid from him which made me suspect her, so i asked her again what r those tablets , she replied that those were drugs
they looked like "parkinol" for me
Now this girl is very young about 15 ys and she spends the few pounds she earns for those Goddamn drugs instead of helping her family with.
She is destroying herself .. what am i supposed to do when i see this? just stand and watch?
Answer:
what can you do its a very difficult situation to be in.do you say some thing to her boss ,do you try and talk to the girl again.
I'm not sure what i would do it is hard when you see someone taking drugs,and you do feel helpless as they are destroying there lives.maybe talking to her boss,if she wont listen to you,might help in some ways,but could lose her ,her job.its a difficult one but well done for caring

I think there are no accidents in life %26 perhaps u were meant to see her take the tablets?? or maybe she subconsciusly wanted u 2 see her take them for help or maybe she was playing?...u didn't mention what her boss said (if he/she saw what happened).I'd try %26 help her, tell her whichever way u can but that's just me, getting in trouble trying 2 help others...

a sales girl at 15 ? you could try talk to her . her age leave jail bait alone talk and keep steping real fast like

there is really nothing you can do... except by telling a manager or a boss if you see one and all you will do is proably get her fired or in jail... just depends

Maybe she has Parkinson's and dose not want her boss to know. I cant think of any reason anyone would take parkinol what kind of buzz would they get from this drug as a 3rd year med student you know this if you could tell what it was then you should know its affects.

this is happenning more frequently ,drugs are a real scourge of our society it will create more youngsters using knives to get what they want as you can see in the recent ammount of stabbings more stealing and burglaries,it is about time the law abbiding people started to stand up against this ,instead of the police sitting in the office doing all the paper work or sitting in there cars chasing motorists why not get them to walk the streets and yes i know we need them on the roads to stop car crime .Hell i do not know the answer but we must try to help our youngsters to find a better way of life than drugs ,more discipline from parents could be a good start they seem to let them do what ever they like

i,ve seen this an aweful lot ,with the careers i,ve had,i,ve acted in many ways,to no avail sadly,i,ve reported it to the authorities, and had bricks put through my windows,and threatened,the only thing i would say is do not get involved,when the government ca,nt stop it you certainly can,t.

I have never heard of those so maybe you are in another country but first off you shouldn't use the Lords name in Vain as you so freely did and second you should probably just mind your own business and not worry what she spends her money on, You don't know for sure why she was taking them, I'm sure you have enough of your own problems why create a strangers.

It's her business, stay out of it. If it's really drugs, she'll get help. But if it's bothering you that bad, tell the boss.

You can't do anything for her specially. You can just research and study now about these cases. To do something you should be equipped to do it.
It's the same if you saw someone has a gun and going to shoot himself. Not everyone can handle this situation, so please only try to handle what you are equipped to handle.

You can offer her help! Convince her of quitting through a detox. and rehab. clinic. If you're a doctor and can't help, then nobody can i guess.

Give her Cyanide, Tell her it's High quality cocaine.

How am i going to die??

2009-10-31T07:13:00.000-07:00

i am 29
Answer:
Chances are that at some point, towards the end, your heart will stop beating. That's how most of us die.

IT Depends !mainly on where you are born!! See man is a product of heredity and environment ! When i dont know your heredity and environment how can i satisfy you best way ?But still here is answer !If you want to die peacefully and great fully than live a life without hurting any god created living culture so that in next birth you will have a human life again ! This is if you are believing !Otherwise one should live a life that way that at the terminal stage they pass with great satisfaction towards the thing they did !There should be appreciating and not anything else!Sooner or later every one has to go ! LIFE IS GAME OF CHANCE AND CHOICE ! You got a Chance to live HUMAN life so enjoy it but as i told you without hurt to any creature !Always YouRsmE

No one can say how you are going to die!! Especially if you have nothing wrong with you!! Hopefully you will live to a ripe old age and die peacefully!!

Dear, I do not think that u mean the way u want to die. However, if you mean how you will one day die please see those who died before u. None of them wanted to die but they all had died. But what is common is that every human will one day die, after the death from this world there will be an other life. The most successful person is the one who gets the pleasing of Allah. the way to get that to obey the rules of Allah.

If you fellow the rules of Allah you will not worry of this worldly death.

we're not psychics! .who knows you might even die tomorrow or you might live to be 101 years old!

i actually recommend you don't go to a psychic asking how you're gonna die cause once you know its just gonna stay in your mind till the day you die!! what if they say you'll die in a plane crash...then everytime you're on a plane you'll be freaked out!.. so for your own good DO NOT GO TO A PSYCHIC!!...those people are witches!!

calll 1800 suicide

How a person becomes mad?

2009-10-31T07:12:00.003-07:00

Any symptoms he could not become mad?
Answer:
Nearly all human beings are susceptible to madness. Although there are probably a few traits that increase these risks one is genetic risk. Having first degree relatives who suffer from mental illness can increase ones risk, but so can temperament, personality, resilience or ability to cope and a healthy enviroment as opposed to an unhealthy enviroment. No one is safe from mental illness, but taking care of your body and your mind are great ways of preventing mental illness. Be sure to eat right, exercise, sleep enough and engage in healthy de-stressing activities for example yoga, art, writing and so on.

How ..or is it possible, to know if you are having a breakdown??

2009-10-31T07:12:00.002-07:00

Just recently I have been feeling really anxious and know that I am not 'myself'...Have just about been able to keep going but..am seriously wondering if this is it..what is called a breakdown...
I feel worried all the time bout what people think of me,,,really find it hard to think straight %26 often fear the worst...usually very optimistic bout stuff...feel really down in general and find it really hard to find the momentum to do anything.have lost the lust for life...
Does this sound familair to anyone? What did you do if you felt like this?
Answer:
The new diagnostic term is 'major depressive episode'. Typically having a distinctive onset, like a 'break' this period of extreme and life disturbing psychological pain typically lifts after 9-15 months. Major depressive episodes are different than severe depression in that the primary feeling is not of hopelessness or lackluster about life, but a profound sense of pain, of hurt feelings. This sense of hurt is paramont in the mind continuously around the clock and does not lift for periods, as may happen within a depression. The person having a major depressive episode eventually finds the fog of pain lifting and a recovering taking place that is outside the force of a decision making process. Although the person can fully recover, and never have another major depression the vulnerableness towards another one is always present and care must be taken to not allow great stresses to develop
.
It is important to get a real understanding of what your diagnosis is. Having the correct diagnosis will enable you to receive good care toward healing. I strongly, strongly recommend you be evaluated by a psychiatrist rather than a psychologist or counselor. This is because psychiatrists are educated in the physiology of brain functioning and mental health and they can prescribe drugs for mental health problems, which psychologist cannot do. At the same time they can evaluate your counseling session information and work with you to conclude the root causes of what has made you have a break. This is important.

For diagnosis information and symptom recognition info, try going onto the National Alliance for Mental Health (NAMH).
btw, I would recommend you take some of the above answers from posters with a grain of salt, as they are inaccurate.

This sounds like dysthymia or possibly depression to me.

You would be well-advised to set an appointment with a psychologist for a thorough evaluation.

Medication may or may not be indicated.

Hang in there,
~M~

ya this sounds familiar... umm just do things that make you feel good such as listening to ur favorite song or hang out with ur friends and talk to them about this.

For some reason you are experiencing anxiety. This happens to most everyone at some time in their lives. See your doctor and explain what you are felling. He/she may suggest seeing a councilor to figure out where it is stemming from. And/or medication such as paxil, zoloft etc. Don't try and figure it on your own. We all need a helping hand from time to time.

A nervous breakdown is not a clinical term, but can apply to many different situations in which someone begins to exhibit symptoms of different mental illnesses, or heavy emotional stress. The term nervous breakdown dates from a much older diagnosis of particularly women who suddenly became unable to function in their lives. Usually first symptoms are or were ignored, prompting what is now known as a psychotic break from reality, or a psychotic episode. This may show up in the form of an attempted suicide, or extreme behavior that requires hospitalization.

Since many different illnesses can cause what many term a “nervous breakdown,” it is difficult to describe symptoms. Perhaps the greatest predictor of nervous breakdown is familial history of mental instability. Those who have family members with major depression, bipolar, anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, or schizophrenia are more likely to be at risk for these mental illnesses. Undiagnosed illnesses in family members from the past may manifest in alcoholism or abusive behavior.

Those undergoing high levels of stress, for example after the death of a parent, spouse, or child, or who have been through a messy divorce are more likely to have a “nervous breakdown” if they are predisposed toward certain mental illnesses. As well, even those who do not have a predisposition toward mental illness can have a nervous breakdown if they suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). PTSD can manifest years after a single traumatic event, and may be triggered by a situation that seems similar. With those who have undergone trauma, early counseling can help prevent a nervous breakdown.

Thus symptoms may differ for describing a nervous breakdown, but one can look for the following behaviors as possible symptoms that might precipitate a psychotic episode:

Disinterest in work or family life
Disinterest in social life or alienation from previously close friends and family
Sleep disruption or much longer periods of sleep
Significant changes in appetite, such as eating too little or too much
Paranoid thoughts, such as the thought people are trying to harm you
Thoughts of grandeur or invincibility
Feelings of persistent anxiety or panic attacks
Hearing voices
Seeing people who are not there
Thoughts of dying or wish to die
Exhibiting strong or violent anger
Having flashbacks to a prior traumatic event
Increasing dependence on alcohol or drugs
Inability to pursue a normal life, normal activities or normal relationships
The above list is only a few of the possible symptoms associated with what might become a nervous breakdown or psychotic break. Any and all of these symptoms suggest seeing a psychiatrist for diagnosis, and also possibly a therapist to talk over difficult feelings. All people, at one point or another, may experience extreme emotional changes due to grief or to life changes like losing a job. These are good times to get the assistance of a therapist, as talk therapy can be tremendously helpful in dealing with significant emotional overload.

The best thing to do if you are feeling depressed and/or anxious is to exercise. Just get out and take a walk. Walking and exercising helps release endorphins that promote well being. Below is an article that might help :)

I totally went through what you're going through now. I got diagnosed with clinical depression in my junior year. I saw a physcologist and got some antidepressants. Now I'm back to my old self again.

Sounds like you may have generalized anxiety disorder and you should probably see your doctor. I suffered from this ten years ago and like you, I was normally optimistic and happy. It started out with feeling anxious for no reason, paranoid about what other people thought and it then manifested itself with rapid heartbeat and dizziness. My doctor diagnosed the anxiety but also wanted to put me on antidepressants. I decided to forgo the meds and deal with the anxiety myself. Now I only have the occasional anxiety attack, but since I know what it is I am able to deal with it.

Yes after your first one if you study it and discuss the symptoms as on ByeDr.com you can become very accurate in your own analysis and even to some extent other people's mental health. Because this is not discussed in school or church or home there is a mystery involved. The true breakdown is a loss of reality . That only occurs when a psychotic event occurs . To get to the psychotic level of disorders requires severe depression . You cant be severely depressed until your belief system is overturned. Then the brain has so much waste chemical in the fluid a psychotic event will occur for sure. Since the auto brain can take over strange things will occur. Some of the auto brain actions are ended. First vision is limited to a tunnel, the upper brains are blocked from thinking out answers and solving problems. Language almost always deteriorates. I don't like to teach those studying this illness but for those in the pain of severe depression I am willing to devote my life. You will find some who have recovered willing to help. Any others don't know what is going on and can not understand. Oh yes the pills are to reduce you ability to think, feel and react.

i feel like this often... and i've worried that i'm finally losing it.

someone told me (someone that i trust with my life) that if you're worried you're losing it, you probably aren't... you're still that much in touch and that means there is hope.

find someone to talk to. seriously. it may seem impossibly difficult, but very few things that are worth doing are easy the first time we do them (learning to walk, learning a musical instrument...)

How do most people cope with say loss of loved one?

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example close friend passes or family member passes away?
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Coping is a hard thing everyone deals with grief differntly, Sometimes it is easier if you try to think of all the positive things that you remember from this person. dont rush the grief it takes its own time to heal

crying at night. Depression. Over eating, not eating properly. Over sleeping.

Grief counseling or support groups.

My wife passed away 17 years ago, and it took me 2 years to come out of a very deep depression .I was fortunate that I had a great therapist. It is very difficult, and I don't know how I managed to survive this long with out her.

I had the opportunity to say all the things I needed to and to be there when the passing occured. I felt lucky that she would let me there at such a personal time. I did my mourning with her before she died and she was ok with it. I have'nt broke down because of her passing because I believe in spirits and I know she's there and I say hi often. All I can think of is all the funny times there was. I hope I never get boo hooey about it. Maybe being on meds helps me for depression. However I wish you a speedy recovery so you can remember good times.

Hot-headed?

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Does anyone have some techniques for that Donald Duck-type hotheadedness? Counting to 10 doesn't work because I can't even remember to do it when I am in the destructive kill-everyone mode. Is there something I can do to remind myself to calm the heck down when I am upset? It only lasts a short time when it happens, but when I am triggered, it seems like I can't even slow down to remember to stop and breathe.
I am going to try to hash this out with my councelor tommorrow - but do any of you have any techniques to help you calm down when you are about to make a scene? I feel it is a childish reaction and I am sick of it.
Answer:
How violent can a pandabunny get?

well, the most thin i use, i just bite my lip, so my attention diverts to the place where pain is, and i 4get bout the anger, or pinch myself, anything that would cause a little pain. Other than that counting till 10 is good!

Feel sorry for you maybe you should get some sleep so you are not over tired and then grouchy, LOL

I would just say to yourself that you are going to wait 15 minutes before you take any action and when that 15 minutes is up the actions you had thought about commiting will seem silly...

I know what you mean.. I even bought a self-help book guide to handerling stress... To be honest i aint found no techniques that have worked so far... You think somethings gonna work and you say you'll try it when you feel like your gonna blow but soon as you get to that point you dont remember the technique..

Hospital visit not much of a help.?

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When I was at school yesterday, I cut myself all over my arms and someone found me and called the cops, and I had to go to the hospital. I came back, my boyfriend made me promise him I wouldn't cut myself. I'm home alone right now for the rest of the night and I'm extremely depressed. I want to cut myself so bad but I promised I wouldn't. What do I do...
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Its so hard not to do these thing as I myself know all to well, try and do something clean the house anything that could take your mind away from the cutting. also if you have an elastic band or hair bobble put it around your wrist and pull on that instead of cutting your self. depending how bad you are feeling it might help. Its not a promise you can always keep and very hard not to do. If you have someone you can phone then phone them tell them how you are feeling and that you can't stop the thoughts of cutting yourself. I know its hard and that you feel as if they will think things of you but really its for the best. get help now.
take care
Lisa

girl are you emo or something ? dont cut yourself it does not solve depression what you need is someone to talk to cutting yourself or suicide doesn't work

You talk with a therapist and learn to take care of yourself.

You need to not do things that will both scar you and bring you the wrong kind of attention. Then you need to do whatever is necessary to get yourself living a life you're proud of.

I know how your feeling.I've felt the same and cut myself for 4 years.Please stop cutting,i know it easier said than done but i have scars on my arms now that i regret SO much.At the time i dind't care but now i do.You will be the same.You will move on and feel better and if you keep cutting you will have some terrible scars.
Here's some tips to help you i done them and they helped me.

Put a thick elastic band round your wrist,when you want to cut ping it on your arm until you feel a bit of relief.(it hurts really bad but leave's not permanent marks and give's you the same relief)

Hold ice cube's on where you want to cut(it hurts really bad)

Put red food colouring in the ice cube and when you hold them against your skin the red looks like blood.(if that give's you a release)

Hope i've helped you a little bit.I know how hard it is to not cut.They thing's should hopefully help you get through this without scars like me.GOOD LUCK!

Don't cut yourself. When you went to the hospital they should have given you a crisis number to call it you were thinking about hurting yourself. If you have that number call it! If not call the hospital and as the receptionist for a crisis number, you don't have to tell them who you are. I would suggest you get into counseling before this gets to far out of hand. Talk to you parents and ask them if they would make an appointment for you, go to the school nurse or the school councilor. You will be sorry someday if you don't get help now! Do no be ashamed or embarassed, everyone at so point in their lives goes through a tough time that they need a little help with. I am not sure your age, but adolescent years are tough, I wouldn't want to do it again, I am glad I served my tour. You can get through anything, you have to want it and remember you are a bright star in our future. You may not see it now, but you have so much to offer. Don't take that away from yourself our anyone else. Smile, and make that phone call.

The hospital visit should have only been to make sure you were not a danger to yourself in the way of being suicidal. They should have referred you to a ounselor for follow up in dealing with the cutting. There are many people who resort to cutting to help them deal with stress. If you get a counselor who you feel comfortable with they can help you find other more healthy ways of coping. it is good you were able to promise your boyfriend you wouldn't cut but you are going to need more professional help to see you through. If you have insurance or your parents have insurance for you you should call the number on your insurance card for referrals to therapy. otherwise if you dont have insurance I would call one of the crisis centers or a suicide hotline (it is okay to call even if you are not suicidal) for referrals to counselors. Also the United Way has a referral Hotline where they can help you with referrals. You can find the United way near you at Unitedway.org.

Good luck you are not alone in this.

Cutting,for me anyway is temporairly swapping mental pain for physical pain. It also expresses a lot of anger. You need to go to your school counselor or school nurse and stress (in no uncertain terms) that youo need help. Hopitalization is only meant yo stabilize someone. You do not get counseling there. Get some help...the sooner the better.
Good luck.

below is a link that u might find helpfull. you can get over this problem, just hang in there . seeing a counsellor will help. good luck

Holding things in...?

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Could you please help me by giving me a list of emotions and a list of things that people hold inside and dont tell anyone. My project is holding things in. So I need some words and things that go with that title. THANKS!
Answer:
1. Jealousy
- obviously, many people DON'T hold this in, but there are those that do...

2. Worried/Stress
- many people, myself included, tend to keep these issues bottled up. I don't usually want to unload my stress on someone else...

3. Happiness
- oddly enough, I think this is a big one. Imagine being in a fight with your boyfriend/girlfriend. The two of you are obviously upset with each other, and neither wants to give in. Now, the other one says something that you find funny, it makes you briefly happy, but you avoid letting it out because you know that that would give your B/GF the upper hand. That's just one example.

4. Nervousness
- it's not easy to hold this in, because it's usually apparent (when speaking in front of groups, etc.). But many people (actors, politicians, etc.) can be nervous and you'd never know it.

5. Desire
- probably one of the biggest for many people. There are people who let you know right away that they want something. But there are also many more that want something and you'd never know it. For example, I really, really, really want another tattoo, but no one knows that. Or, I really, really want to ask that girl out, but I'm afraid of rejection so I won't do it.

I could probably come up with more, but then I'd be doing your assignment for you! Haha, good luck Ash.

ok?well:scared,anxious,jealous... to new people,overwhelmed,untrusting ...etc
?

Fear, shame, guilt, jealousy

anger

Here goes a list of emotions people usually hold in: aggressive, when they feel alienated. angry, annoyed and big one for me is being anxious,depressed. other emotions are bashful envious guilty humiliated hurt jealous lonely helpless suspicious puzzled miserable paranoid regretful discouraged disgusted embarrassed miserable. These are the emotions I would hide if I were feeling them which isn't good for anyone. Good luck with your project. Hope these words help some.

HIV Paranoia worries?

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I wondered if other people have thought that they have felt something like a pin prick (e.g. on their lips) after thinking someone they walked past did something to harm them?
Answer:
no soz I have not and I dont think I ever will

i think u are paranoid, this isnt good, if you carry on feeling like that and getting those thoughts you should see a doctor, best of luck

the chances of you contracting HIV on the street just walking around is so minute...(small)...Actually you should be more worried about HepC...But seriously, you are paranoid. Maybe you should see someome before you start refusing to go outside?

This is an irrational fear. I think you need to talk to your GP about this for reassurance and advice. See your doc.

I have suffered from the same sort of thing. It's part of my anxiety disorder. Every single human sometimes has these irrational thoughts but they just brush them aside. Some of us however for some reason can't let them go...kind of having the mind set that...'if I've thought it then it is a valid thought that I must pay attention to' then once you do pay attention to it the more you think about it the more valid and real it seems. I ended up very distressed by these thoughts and they began to make me constantly anxious and took over my life.
Strangely enough HIV was the main souce of my worries too!( I believe now that the reason for that was that it was my worst case scenario. For me it would've meant I was going to die AND I could have given it to someone I love therefore they were going to die. The guilt was horrendous) I REALLY thought I had it (although I never had an answer as to where I may have got it from?!) and that I'd given it to other people. It was a horrible time, the panic was too awful to describe. I was convinced I had it but wouldn't go and get tested cos I was too scared. I then sought help and began taking a low dose of Escitalopram (Antidepressant) whilst having Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. This treatment has really helped me. I can now let go of these thoughts much more easily, or challenge them rationally. I discovered that I did this 'worst case scenario thing in other area's of my life too. E.G. I'd think my boyfriend was going to leave me, I thought I was infertile....the list went on!
I really do sympathise with you, it's horrible problem and very difficult for other people to understand. You definitely need to see your GP though, the treatment I had has really worked...it's also helped me in other areas of my life. I'm off the medication now too (I was on it for a year)
Hope this helps a bit.at least you know you're not alone :)

History of the serious emotional disorder?

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Answer:
Abuse is the gift that keeps on giving. Generation after generation of passing on both abuse and the resulting mental disorders.

http://discoveries.typepad.com/my_weblog...
As I wrote... the five minute movie has a link to get the DVD on the serious emotional disorder.

Are you being asked this question on an employment or other form?

If so, they are asking if you have ever been diagnosed with a mental illness (e.g., bipolar, schizophrenia, major depression, PTSD).

Highway phobia.?

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have you ever heard of someone who canot cross a 4 or 6 lane highway.i nearly lost my life i watch the lights but when the arrow turns for people making a left hand turn i almost lost my life. iguess im slow, any suggestions on how to cross a busy highway? this is secrious. can you save my life?
Answer:
You are not alone I am the same way, I try to avoid it at all costs

Stay on the # 1 lane.

you basically just do it, and give yourself plently of time to get where you are going so you don't have to be in a rush and make more mistakes. plus, if you have a traffic light, there should be no problem. if you still find that you can't do it, just find an alternate route via back roads.

Hi.Sometimes I feel shy and have anxiety for absolutely no reason.any tips/advice/or exercises I can do?

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that will help me deal with sudden shyness,to help in the short and long term?any advice would be greatly appreciated,thankyou!
Answer:
be confident about yourself.i know this sounds silly but get a friend or family to do role plays with let them pretent to be someone you are shy with.there's nothing to look down at but your feet so look up and tell yourself i'm ok..gl

smoke a dubie, it will help you relax.

Hi. I have a friend who was told by someone I know that they think I have a multiple personality disorder...?

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I don鈥檛, just because I鈥檓 very curious and my mind moves fast鈥?what should I do? I really want to confront them. They also said they think my friend, whom they told this all to, has a mpd too.
Answer:
Stand up for yourself. Likely, the person who told your friend this didn't plan on you knowing, but even so, tell them how you feel anyways. I know this will be hard, as I know some history here, but good luck and it will be ok. Just, be nice and no accusing and leave your friend out of it as much as possible.

sound like that person has too much free time on their hands if they are trying to diagnose their friends and believe you both have that, id ignore it and go on, everyones entitled to their opinion.

Sounds like this person has a muli-face disorder. Only "two-faced" people do crap like that. Confront her and ask her from where she earned her medical degree.

Simply tell them that MPD is a very rare disorder and, unless they're a medical professional, they have no business going around diagnosing it. The more important thing is probably to let them know this bothered you, so they'll know not to do it again.

There is one thing I remember from my Psychology class.
That is when someone acts a certain way and someone else doesn't understand why they act that way, the person will normally make something up to try to explain why that person acts that way.

Try to explain that you are just a curious person and an intelligent person, and there is no reason for him/her to makes things up. Have them get to know you (how you are) and they shall change their minds.

I agree with "Just Me". That person must have watched Sybil and wants to diagnose everyone now.

the only person who would know if you had multiple personalities is you its your head and you would hear the "others" talking also you would be losing time no one has the right to diagnose you with this disorder other than a qualified mental health professionall that you trust to talk to about the voices and what they are saying

You can always make an appointment with you cities version of Mental Health Mental Retardation office Contact the national chapter of Mental Health Sosciety call the nearest County hospital they'll put you in contact with a good Dr

Hi,this is my problem. i want to check out if my family dr. is a good one or not.?

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i'm having a lot of problems with my family dr. i have many health issues and he is not doing much to help me. i live in london ontario and it's very hard to find a dr. to start with or i would change mine.to do anything here for med. you need a family dr. please help me to get to the bottom of this. thankyou for any help i can get.
Answer:
Here's the link to the College of Physicians and Surgeons of Ontario. You can check to see if your doctor is registered with them. You can call the number they list on the website to check and make sure that your doctor is in good standing with them and is fully accredited. If you have questions or concerns about your doctor, you might discuss them with these people. Or, you might just look for another family practitioner.

http://www.cpso.on.ca/

if you're looking for a new dr. contact your health insurance for a list of dr's

First check the history of the doctor and how many years that he study.

check if he does not have any mistake like my doctor did to me.

Hi, It is hard for me to sleep at night is this a form of depression.?

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Answer:
if yr worried that u are suffering from depression why don't u go to abc.com, pick the view and answer the quiz they have on depression.
If the only thing u r complaining of is not being able to sleep at night, then that's easy there are a lot of things u can do to help u sleep better like:
1. Reduce yr caffeine intake.
2. Try to have a good workout or even go for long walks during the day.
3. Eat very lightly for dinner.
4. Have a long nice bath.
5. Have a warm glass of milk before bed time (What our mum's used to do).

The most important thing is to stop thinking of everything that annoys u before going to sleep.

no, it's called insomnia.

Could be. you may just be thinking about a lot/stessed out. you may have insomnia which can be treated.

it can be a side effect of depression but is generally called insomnia. if you aren't feeling any symptoms of depression during the day chances are you just need to get more exercise to make sure you're tired enough to go to bed at night. i know i personally can't sleep unless i've exercised.

yes, it is a symtom!

oh my yes, ive been up for going on 6 days, u think,look for help quick.nice rub around neck and shoulders ,shpuld do the trick .

There are many reasons for not sleeping at night;

1) You might drink or eat something which is mind waking such as choclate or cofee.

2) You are maybe thinking about something spacific.

3) You might sleep at noon which affect your night sleeping.

Solution: avoid those things and try to exersize one hour before sleeping. Trust me you will sleep as a child ;)

no it is not anyway i know how you could go to sleep take a rock are a hammer and hit your self really really hard with it and you will be able to go to sleep

Hi, I just got back from Iraq. My doctor has prescribed me wellbutrin 300mgs a day and zoloft 100mgs a day and

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15 miligrams of valium a day. Is this safe? It seems a lot to me, I dont believe i have ptsd, just some readjusting/anger issues.
Answer:
It's not a lot to take, it might be if you're just starting to take them (referring to the antidepressants). You're supposed to start w/ small doses and increase as needed. I also take 300mg of Wellbutrin %26 100mg of Zoloft. Not a big deal. I also take Klonopin, anywhere from 1-2mg when needed, which is stronger than Valium. For anxiety, 15-30mg of Valium is normal. Dosages for adults can range from 2-10mg taken 2-4 times a day or 15-30mg once a day. So 15 isn't a lot. As long as you feel fine, I wouldn't worry about it. If you're worried it's too much, decrease the dosage on your own or talk w/ your doctor.

That IS an awful lot, but I'm no doctor. The 15 mg. of Valium alone would knock me out for most of a day! I'm surprised he put you on that anyway, it's extremely addicting.

well if you say you have anger issues from iraq he may not say you have pts but he may thinking you may not adjust quickly in a given situation sense you said you have some anger issues so he may trying keep you calm and the valium is addictive and that's a pretty strong dose the zoloft treats depression and the wellbutrin may be a antipsychotic I am not a doctor so you may ask about all of it and people also use wellbutrin to stop smoking cigarettes take care and take it easy don't push yourself to hard, and thanks for being a servant for our nation, GOD bless

wow I would say thats alot to be on I was on Wellbutrin and wow i wasn't on that much and then I still thought just the Wellbutrin was a lot

Welcome Home! You people are doing a great job.

I am on 200 mg of Zoloft and 300 mg of Wellbutrin XL. They are both anti-depressants but they work differently and they enhance each other. The amount of valium I would question. It sounds a little heavy. Try anger management classes; you don't want to hurt yourself or anyone else.

Good luck.

that is a lot. I would consult your doctor about your concerns and if that doesn't help get a second opinion from a qualified expert.

I wish you luck, also thank you for serving in the military.

Each medication is aimed at separate aspects of your condition.
valiulm - works to calm you for a few hours
Wellbutrin - elevates your mood on the day you take it
Zoloft - is to bring-up your brain chemistry to sustain it at a normal level -elevates your mood - this works on a delay of 2 to 3 weeks

If you have further questions about the appropriateness of taking all 3 together, ask your pharmacist.

Taking two antidepressants is unwise unless there were serious clinical reasons for doing so. There is an increased risk of side effects both in the short immediate term and in the long term. There have been few if any clinical studies on combining two antidepressants. Diazepam is very addictive. I recommend that you read this resource http://www.benzo.org.uk/manual/...
If you have just come from a war zone it is not abnormal to have problems readjustment and anger problems. That is not a chemical imbalance but a natural mindset. It is normal to have such feelings just like it is normal to grieve after a parent dies or be devastated when a wife walks out on a husband. I am not sure if you have a genuine mental illness and am not sure on the logic of prescribing powerful psychotropic drugs for normal feelings. Although obviously I don't know your degree of suffering from 1 paragraph only you know. I think counselling would be better. You may be able to get talk therapy from your loved ones or friends without going to a professional but if your feelings are severe then maybe talking to a professional would help. I would suggest you research the pills you are taking. They are not smarties like some doctors prescribe them as especially when taken long term.If you do not have serious mental health problems then don't use powerful psychiatric drugs. If I were you I would take them for the shortest time possible. If you have been taking them longer than a few weeks I would not stop them abruptly as you can have withdrawal symptoms or as they are sometimes called by doctors "discontinuation syndrome/symptoms".
Sedatives such as diazepam can especially make you go nuts coming off it and can wreck your emotions and memory with long term use. I know people who didn't abuse benzodiazepines such as diazepam who are more messed up from those type of pills than meth addicts.

Hi, I am scared to talk in groups, my thought process is ok..but still not sure why i don't express myself?

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Answer:
No don't listen to that person. You don't have to drink to be more talkitive. Will unless you want to, but you don't have to get drunk. Coming from a shy person believe me it can be hard. However you can get over this not talking in groups things. First of all you got to relax and clam down. It's not totally a bad thing that you don't like to be so chatty to a group. You don't have to be and no one can make you. Do whatever you feel comfortable with. When it comes to trying to be more outgoing or talking answer questions with more than a yes or no asnwer. It seems hard, but once you just let what you have to say out then you'll feel more confident. Laughing, smiling, relaxing (sitting, leaning, etc) helps too and peoples might not care about the not talking so much. If comments are said then don't worry. Not everyone has to be the "life of the party" and hey if your able to help friends or cheer people up does a chatty group really mater? (you'll be the one in the end friends and family will come to for comfort)... Ok it's nice to be in convos yes thats true. Maybe you could stick closer to the ones you feel comfortable being chatty and joking with and then you'll be able to talk better with the others. Good luck and hang in there.
gs

yes i know the feeling it's the whole tongue tied feeling like you wanna say something but something inside you just holds you back. You may think that if you do speak and say something no one will appreciate or understand what you are talking about so it's better to stay silent . Then when you work up the courage to say something the moment has passed. It's quite an annoying thing to be stuck with. You need to boost your confidence somehow maybe take drama classes or something.

It's ok everyone has varying degrees of the same problem. Just start by focusing your attention to one friend and express yourself to that person, at first just ignore that other people are present. After a while you will find that you can express yourself in any group setting.

i had the same problem...you need to push yourself to do it! i have low self confidence (for personal reasons) and being able to function in a social scene was very hard for me...i was good with one maybe two or three people but when there was a crowd i got anxiety. sometimes so bad i had to leave.
my boyfriend now helped me gain confidence by supporting me to push myself in social scenes. practice in front of a mirror if you feel it would work for you (it did for me as gay as it sounds...)
you could just have social anxiety in which then you may want to see your doctor. but best to stay off any drugs that would make you different from who you really are. this is how God made you...work with it and you will be great!

u might not fill comfortable talking to strangers that u dont know, even though they dont know who u really or u dont know them. There might be that uneasy feeling u get,maybe it wont live up to ur expectations or just not knowing what is goin to happen makes things weird

There is a thing called gradients - but the major trouble with people having this as a problem is that they trying to speak to the 'crowd' instead of individuals.

If you pick individuals to speak to, but ensure your voice goes out to all people present, you'll find that you will improve your ability to talk to a group of individuals.

But the major practise is to get more practise time in than worry time on it.

It just needs to be in a gradient, just be sure what you want to express and then talk to 2 people and then 4 and then increase the number of people you talk to. And only continue to increase the number if you see you are okay with doing it and then talk to more people.

What about just picking out someone in that group you feel comfortable talking to and let them know that you are going to share but you are only going to look at that person and pretend you are only talking to that one person instead of the whole group. You might be having a bit of anxiety and thats why you are to scared to talk.
I know I have anxiety in a group of people and I dont say anything but when I have to I look at the person that I feel comfortable with and start talking.

See the section on social anxiety at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 9.

Hi, I always feel sad and dull.I don't know my probs. I don't have a job.I am not able to prepare for my job.

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I am doing exercise daily but still I feel so dull and depressed.Some one pls help me. I am always in tension and I don't know what's my tension.
Answer:
I'd say you have depression and probably comorbid anxiety as well. I'd suggest seeing a psychologist since I don't believe medicines are the answer to everything. A psychologist may be able to help you explore your thoughts further and you may be able to understand what it is that is making you tense and worried. Make sure that you see a psychologist who employs cognitive-behaviour therapy since that has been supported by research as being effective. The psychologist can help you challenge the thoughts you are having which are most probably making you feel that way you are since our thoughts lead to our feelings which in turn lead to behaviours. Targetting these thoughts would be the key in the intervention.
Good luck!!

you could be sufffering panic/anxiety and or deppression the only thing to get you out of these are medication see your doctor to put you on some tranqulizers they dont make you sleep they just help you relax

You should definitely see a doctor! You could have something like Generalized Anxiety Disorder. It makes you feel anxious and tense and then you can become depressed because of your anxiety. It could be tons of other things too though. I know it can be hard when you are feeling so down to do something about it, but try to get in to see your primary care physician or a psychologist.

it sounds to me like depression with anxiety see a doc

with the execrcise do meditation, %26 do the hobby with which you can sharpen your power %26 get relaxtation.

u must see a psychiatrist. depression needs treatment.

Take Bach Flower Remedies' - Rescue Remedy mother tincture - 2 drops on the tongue twice a day for a month. You will be fine.

have you seen the roses.how beautiful it is.but just below it there are thorns,but rose doesn,t worry for it.just it keep on beautifing the world.
Wory drains the mind much of its power and sooner or later it injures the soul.donot worry think positive, act positive,live positive and keep smiling.try to look your life differently.you are here to do something new..

Hi, everyone. I have a question about my depression?

2009-10-31T07:07:00.001-07:00

I've been on Welbutrin since late December and it's done squat for me. I'm thinking that if it hasn't worked yet, it's not going to work because I started out taking it once a day. Now, I'm supposed to take it 3 times a day which I don't because in the morning, I'm groggy enough and I don't think about it. Anyway, even if I did take it 3 times a day, I highly, HIGHLY doubt it would kick in.
The next time I meet up with my doctor is on May 20th. I'm going to tell her that I need something else.

What do you guys think?
P.S. When I was on Lexapro for a couple of days in 2005, that stuff kicked in within a week. I remember it well. I was happier then. Maybe I'll mention that too because I really need something...
Answer:
I was also on Wellbutrin with no success. I am now on Cymbalta and doing fine. I still get a bit down at times, but that's okay with me as I find that to be more normal than not. I don't want to be the happy village idiot. I want to feel lifes ups and its downs. Good luck. Depression is very painful and no one really knows unless they have it.

Just need to try a different antidepressant.
Studies show some work better on some people, and often the second one you try works best.

Man I hope it works out. Just talk to your dr its the best way to go, or maybe 3 or 4, but dont ask here half these twits wouldnt know if there **** was on backwards.

I do not understand why you are still no this med if its not helping you the doctor should change it. you are right there is no point taking something that is not helping you feel any better. Try a different one there is many out there so lots of choice to help you. good luck and hope it goes well with your doctor.

i am not very experienced with this, but ur idea seems like a good one... ur docs will know the best coarse of action that should be taken.

See http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2.

You need to find one that works as soon as possible. The first question is do you have chronic depression or is this the first time you have had it. The time i had it i brought it on myself and i made a few life changes and have not suffered since. If yours is chronic see someone fast. Good Luck Buddy hope you get better.

Years ago I was on effexor for 6 months and it worked wonders. But every med works differently on people so you really need to find one that works for you.
I really hope you are having counselling as well, without dealing with the issues, the tablets will to squat other than numb you for a while or give you a high. Work through what it is that's causing the depression, use the meds as help. I'm sure you are aware that many meds can be addictive and you need to wean yourself off them slowly, otherwise the symptoms can return quickly.
Good luck..

Some anti-depressants take weeks, even a couple of months to start working. The fact that you aren't taking it as prescribed isn't helping at all. Since you are not happy with the drug regimen (taking it 3 times a day and all that), you should definitely talk to your doctor about it. Its not going to work if you don't take it properly.

Ask about Zoloft. You can start on 50mg then go up to 100mg %26 then 150mg if you need to but, you only take it once a day with minimal side effects, if any. You WONT feel groggy!

I take Lexapro also. It works the best with me and un like some anti-depresents if you forget to take your Lexapro it doesn't bother you. You do need to mention to your doctor that you took Lexapro in the past and that it helped. Because I took Effexor and it didn't work any and I told me doctor so he put me on Lexapro. So don't be afraid to tell your doctor. Because if the Welbutrin isn't working you need another medicine then.

Hi guys Im just another 18 year old thats going threw depression any one know how to get rid of it?

2009-10-31T07:06:00.003-07:00

Like I said before im depressed and im sick of it im a senior in high school and I just dont know what to do with my self what career to chose and its just hard to choose something when your in depression you feel like crap dont want to do anything you have thoughts that make you not worth living. Deep down inside me depression is tough hits you hard it drains every happieness you have inside, you just want to sit on a sofa untill you just slowly slip away from life, I hate it its like draining your soul out of you enough about how I feel dont worry im not the type of person that would go out and do something crazy so no comments please about that. Now Im really good in computers I was thinking Network Systems Administrator but my mom isnt too happy about that decision now I know its my decision not hers but also I wanted to go for Doctor of Physical Therapy with my brain and stupid depression I dont know if thats going to happen If you have an answer plz tell me on what I should do
Answer:
What's wrong with Network Systems Administrator? They can make a ton of money. The government pays contractors 100k plus. In private industry even more. That profession is booming and gonna continue for years to come as our society grows more and more dependent on computers.

Start getting out with friends, visit family. Don't withdrawal worrying about your ills. Get a hobby, offer to help at a local network provider. Depending on your resources try to visit a psychologist or psychiatrist or school counseling. Just keep up the battle.

I think that you should talk to a therapist. Maybe get on anti depressants, also. But if you don't want to take medicine, at least go talk to someone. It will make you feel better. And you don't have to decide what you want to do with the rest of your life right now. You can go to college and take general classes until you figure out what will make you happy. Good luck :)

HEY=get out of that slump you are in=it's your life and you can become whatever you want to be=as long as it provides enough cash to meet your needs and it makes YOU happy=go for it

I've been there and can sympathize. I'm in my twenties now and my depression comes and goes. I did take Zoloft for a while and it helped - but I'd rather deal on my own. Now, if you feel like your depression is situational, meds might not be a good choice. Either way - talk to someone, preferably a professional. The other thing that helps me is to write. Get it off your chest. Healthy foods and exercise can also make a big difference, but I know how impossible it feels to exercise when you can hardly get out of bed and drag your limbs through another day. You're not alone! Good luck to you...

(and as for a career - choose a general field that interests you and don't commit to one thing yet. Take a variety of classes in college and see what works the best for you)

you poor thing, wish i could help out, i think you need to talk to a professional, i kinda of know what you mean, suffering from depression like that feels like a downward spiral, try to not let it get out of control, i was feeling really low and so bored i was always feeling tearful, i know it sounds mad but ANSWERS has given me something to do in the evenings. may be you should see a doctor for anti depressants.
you follow what ever carer you want, you have got to do what makes you happy, your mum should wish the same for you.
take care xx

I felt like that once, then I joined a gang, got covered in tattoos, got stabbed twice and shot once, and finally learned my lesson. I cant go anywhere anymore, I had to move and start a new life, and it sucked. Now I go to university for BSc and work as a draftsman on the side, and life is alright. I say get a bacholor degree, in anything! IT doesnt matter, because once you get one, its easy to get another and you can pretty much do whatever you want. But dont be depressed, be happy you have a home to live in, and be happy your getting an education. Upgrading isnt cheap.

To help with your depression volunteer your time at your local Senior Citizen Center. Once you start getting involved with people who are much older than you and see how they are coping with
what life has thrown at them you will start feeling better about yourself. If you are interested in
physical therapy then you might want to consider
geriatric therapy. You could talk with any P.T.'s
working at the center. Stop focusing on yourself all the time and try and see the bigger picture.
Begin each day with," Hey, I'm alive!"

It is common for guys your age to go through a period of depression. I, myself have an 18 yr old who's going through the same thing. I mean,look, you're still at the period where you're trying to define who you are and I'm sure you're having thoughts and thinking that you're perverse or something.You should talk with your mom to set up an appointment to see a counselor. It's important to have someone to talk to to figure out why you're going through this depression.

Hi All. Does Wellbutrin slow down your metabolism?

2009-10-31T07:06:00.002-07:00

I started Wellbutrin almost four months ago, to quit smoking, a multi vitamin and a calcium supplement. Almost three months ago I started this low carb diet and doing pilates. I have not lost a pound, and I usually lose weight pretty quickly.
Answer:
Hi. I take it for AHDH. I found that initially I dropped 5 lbs real quick and then just stayed there.
My doctor told me that in most cases, people will lose weight or stay the same.
Every body is different, maybe your body is just busy adjusting to medicine and exercise and a new diet all at once?
It sounds like you're taking good care of yourself, good luck!

nope. it made me lose weight. i took it for depression but it made me lose weight.

Like Zoloft, Paxil, and other antidepressants, Wellbutrin absolutely does slow your metabolism. I took Zoloft and gained about 25 pounds in a month! I wasn't eating more and I continued to exercise. It was extremely frustrating. My doctor insisted that it wasn't from the Zoloft. It took me a few years after I stopped the Zoloft to lose the weight, and I had always been thin with a fast metabolism.

Hi ...please only answer if you.?

2009-10-31T07:06:00.001-07:00

have something honest and sensible to say and if you have any idea what im talking about. Right Im a teacher , and a counsellor I will be taking on intense training to become an aged care nurse as i will give up teaching now. anyway my question is how come everything in my life right now is perfect going exactly in all the right directions I am happy on top of the world . just got engaged and bought a house.. but why is it that sometimes I can not in my times of confusion I can not answer my own questions. and i start to feel down myself,,,,,,,,,, i know i can ask collegues for proffessional advice but im sort of looking for thoughts from people who are not trained to give out advice coz im one of them... get my idea.... errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!
Answer:
First of all you are right not going to your colleagues as it can be very hard for a professional to go to another professional and admit they are human and need help. We all try to show our colleagues, in whatever line of work we are in, that we are as good, if not better, than they are. But from the sound of your posting, you are going in the direction you are aiming for. It is natural to self doubt now and again, but unless any of the points you mentioned above are making you unhappy, then it it is just fear (again, normal and human). Try to stay positive and don't forget any decision CAN be reversed.

I hope this helps

perhaps you have too much on your mind all at once and this is why you get confused

I've heard of people who fear success. Or... It sounds dumb, but my family has gone through a lot. And it seems like when everything is oing fine, we get bored. Like, we crave some archnemesis to fight or something, a neighboor, a "friend", etc.

Did you have to give anything up for all that you have?

Just as there are many times in life when things don't go your way, there are also times when things do go your way. Don't freak out. Just make sure that you don't get on to much of a high. You have to remember that life is not always beautiful. For now, life is awesome, but things just might fall again. Be prepared, but also enjoy the wonderful time you're having now.

Stress isn't always from negative things. It sounds like wonderful things are happening. That kind of change can be stressful too. Give yourself a few months and see if the roller-coaster stops.

No body can answer all the questions. No body will be able to answer all of their own questions. Sometimes it just feels uncomfortable when everything is going right. Where is the drama or the desire to do better when it seems like everything is going so well?

You shouldn't just quit paying attention to everything that is going on because everything is going great, but I would suggest you don't try to think much about it. Things are going great, don't try to worry.

how about: a mind block induced from the chaos. as a teacher/counselor, u know the answers to the questions u ask ur students. mayb ur soliciting answers from laymen to jar the answer from ur mind,like a student aswering a question. this brings u back to a familiar situation, and hence,easier to retrieve the answer from ur mind. good luck in ur new career!

All of us have a life to live. Sooner or later life will come to an end. We can not avoid that which is unavoidable. Thanks to Almighty God and Creator of the Universe, He loves us and has prepared an eternal Heaven as our home when end of life arrives. God can make our life worth-living now, with peace and joy and hope, and glorious future in Heaven. Do not miss Heaven for anything in this world.

View http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2 (check out the whole site: it will also be worth reviewing in several weeks time when almost completed), and closely examine the mental-health-abc website. Also http://www.neurology.com may come in handy later, and the WebFerret search engine, Ask.com %26 the Wikipedia %26 Google websites. I would employ one of the relaxation methods, take 4 fish oil supplements, exercise daily, and have a look at www.mercola.com

Hey, my kids say we hear foot steps in the attic! What should I do? Help?

2009-10-31T07:06:00.000-07:00

My kids say they hear footsteps in the attic at night and they know its not the wind! What should I do? Please Help!!
Answer:
have someone go check the Attic for rodents. i had a squirrel get in my Attic and it would get moving alot at night and sounded like someone walking around.

Stop walking around there at night and scaring them.

Just tell the spirits to go away... if they're friendly they'll leave!

Could be a bat flying around or a squirrel that got in or possible a bird has made it's nest in there or you could have a mouse.

Go up and check during the daytime to find out what's going.

Maybe one night you should go into their rooms and try to listen for the sounds. You might have a ghost living in your attic. But I bet it's your kids just trying to fool you.

Have you heard the footsteps? Maybe it's the house settling or maybe your kids are teasing you and trying to freak you out. If that's the case, it looks like it worked.

check and see what's going on but bringa bat or somehing. And make sure all entrances to the attic aren't open

Watch "The Exorcist" and listen to what Karl says.

It could be a bird, or a mouse, or a squirell or groundhog.
Just get a flashlight and investigate.
Throw a garlic bulb in the attic to keep pests out.
If u dont see anything, then u have a ghost in your house.
Just put a cross near the attic in case it is an evil ghost.

Can you get into the attic? Could be an animal. I had a squirrel in mine once eating nuts and it was very loud and scared ME nuts! Otherwise,,,houses settle and make creaks and moans. Assure them that all is well and maybe spend a nite in their room with them.

I'm kinda, sorta a person who believe's in ghost, so I'd be calling up a priest to get the house blessed. Just what my Catholic up brining inside of me would do.

I don't think it's their imagination tho. I would take it seriously and maybe spend the night in their room one night, see if you hear the noises.

ha, "a ghost living" in your attic? Your kids are probably looking for attention. Try to discuss the sounds with them, allowing them to explain the sounds to you rather than you judging the source without evidence. Houses make many noises. Ghosts make noises too. Go figure.

Call an exterminator!! You likely have rats at best. It could be squirrels, depending upon where you live. When I was a kid we had squirrels in our attic and it sounded like something much larger. In any case, the exterminator can tell you what kind of critter you have.

First, your kids are not crazy. I'm not sure if this is what you're thinking, of course, but since this is in mental heath, I'm just letting you know.

If your kids are telling you this individually, then they may actually be hearing something. If you think they have discussed it first, it could be one's overactive imagination influencing the others.

I personally believe in ghosts, due to about a billion inexplicable experiences (including being thrown out of bed). That could be what it is. Keep an ear out yourself, and keep an open mind. If you hear it too, or if your kids start to get REALLY scared, please consider this as a possibility. I'm not saying it's something bad or anything...it could just be someone visiting their old home or something. If you think this could be it, you can either get professional help (www.theshadowlands.net/ghost has links to your area) or try to tell it to leave yourself.

Again, it could just be your children's imaginations. Kids are naturally afraid of attics, thanks to movies and books. Reassure them that everything is fine and you are keeping an eye and ear out yourself. :-)

Good luck! Hope this helped. Everything will be a-ok.

Go up there in the day time with a shaker of flour and sprinkle all around. If there is some one up there, the footprints would show. Get a few mouse traps and set them around too, as
there is a logical explanation for this. Could very well be some smart *** playing tricks. Another idea, is to fasten some threads across here and there with tape, and see if they are disturbed. Best wishes, and make sure the access door is locked.

It could be a rat or mice. The floors also compress because at night they get smaller so they make noise.

pretend to go up there and confront this person and tell them to be quiet or leave. that's if the children are young. if they are older 7-10, have them go up there during the day to see what's making the noise and/or have them set up a "trap". If they're older than 10 maybe you should have them evaluated!!

go up to the attic. Tell the presence out loud that this is the year 2007, and it is your time to live in the house, that their time is over and they must leave. Tell it or them, to go to the light.

We have experienced similar sounds from above the ceiling.
It turned-out to be an animal that had gotten in. Opossum and a raccoon and their babies. Sometimes they would collect items and drag them to their nest -- like my kids' tennis shoe. It thumped the whole way over the rafters!

If you want to check-it out with a flashlight, you can. But, you may want to have someone come in and do the checking for you.

Empower your children to overcome their fears.

There are many bumps in the night. Some are real, and some are imagined.

Purchase a tape recorder. Hand it to your child. Instruct them to begin recording when they hear the footsteps.

After you review this evidence, you will know if it justifies your staying awake and losing sleep to verify the source of the mystery sounds.

So maybe there are noises ...if so.offer to camp out in the childs room....but only for 2 nights..when they hear the noise they are allowed to awaken you. Maybe you can pinpoint the source. Possibly you can head for the attic when you hear the noise.

Just remember .. this is not a cause to celebrate their fears, or increase them..it is their chance to find an answer to this great noisy mystery.

With a little creativity, you can resolve this, and the children can begin sleeping sweetly again.

Is it really foot steps --- like some one actually walking around? Or just house settling sounds (creaking and popping sounds).
After checking for all other sound sources ---- bird, mice or animal that may have gotten in the attic --- and ruling them out if none are found, it could be just the house settling.
Also it might just be the change in air temperture where you live. The heat of the day then the cold of the night causing the wood frames and beams expanding and contracting making the sounds. (I guess you could classify that as house settling).
Lastly, if none of the above are found have your house checked by a paranormal group like TAPS. They are The Atlantic Paranormal Society, ghost hunters that are excellent at helping people in this type of situation.
http://the-atlantic-paranormal-society.c...

Hey you fellow night owls!....?

2009-10-31T07:05:00.001-07:00

what do I gotta do to get you to give me a star?
and why are we all so stingy with them. from now on all the people I answer gets a star... I mean after all they did get my attention lol...come on...gimmie one LOL ... thanks :)
Answer:
night owl? it's 5 pm here :D

because you got my time wrong I'm not giving you a star *sticks tongue out*

there ya go lol!

Ask better questions lol :D

Sweetie, I'd give you 100 stars

Ok, there you go. Also, did you know you can star your own question.

One star comin up!

I wouldnt mind a star.

Hi there. I gave you a star, so now you can find me and give me a star. Oh wait, I don't have any open questions...Guess I will have to come up with one, now won't I?

Have a GREAT day!

Hey there i am scared of the police can anyone help me overcome this ? has anyone been there can you please he

2009-10-31T07:05:00.000-07:00

Answer:
You've obviously done something wrong and feel guilty. Turn yourself in!

Im scared of the police too like when they pull you over and ask you question yes scary. Police are friendly except some they hard butts. But theres no harm unless you did something wrong

I am too, and I've actually been arrested a few times when I was much younger. I haven't been in trouble in years, but the thought of someone putting me in handcuffs now might send me into a panic attack. I'm always scared they will take me out in the middle of nowhere and hurt me. I guess I'm weird, but you never really know these days.

Fear of the police?...could you please be more specific? are you afraid because you commited some offecne, or is it purely a phobia without a logical reason?...
Fear of the police alone, without obvious reason, might be a fear of authority figures, problems with your parents or violence /father to son ) in your childhood.it may represebt some latent fear of responsibilities...
Just tell us...where in those scenarios are you standing on?

You should be!

As a child, I was terrified of the police...so much so that if I saw even a security guard, I'd run the other way. The humor in this is that although I still feel a bit paranoid when I see a police officer, I'm now married to one! :) Truth is most of the officers are great guys who would rather help someone than give them a ticket. Unfortunately, the lack of respect they receive makes it difficult for them to be portrayed any differently.

I think what you're REALLY afraid of- is the Uniform, not the people wearing them. The Police are just people doing a JOB- they're NO different than bus drivers, school teachers, or dog walkers. It's THEIR responsibility to make sure that people adhere to the laws of the land- and to bring to justice those who break those laws. They CAN'T do things on their OWN...-Like everyone ELSE with a job, they have to work within certain guidelines, or else THEY can get into trouble- too. In other words- they're just like you. They don't "bite"- %26 they don't want people to be afraid of them...

but how scared are you? im mean i get lil nervous when driving and seeing a police car... and i got pulled over once and was sooo nervous that i was gittery... but only in fear of getting a ticket, i think its authority thing, like fear of getting in trouble with the teacher when we were kids... but if you are scared of just standing next to the police maybe you should try and get over it by familairing your self with places that police frequent (like dunkin donuts, ok ok bad joke, sorryyy =) and just keep reminding yourself that police are there to protect us, we should feel safer with them around. i live in NYC and im not scared of the trains but when there is a police officer on the train i just feel sooo much safer than normal, and you need to remind yourself of that

police are just regular people if you sign in to be a police then people will be scared of you so police are normal people just like you.

I think most people are. It sucks because they are suppose to be there to protect us, but instead they end up bullying people who don't do anything.

I know its a general statement and not all are like this, but this is the experience that i've had with the police I've met.

forget about a chep answer because that will never solve your problems. do look up EFT emotional freedom techniques by Gary Craig. if you are sincere this will truly hellp you with this fear and any others you may have.

If you didnt do anything wrong, you shouldnt be afraid of them.

i can be arrested for J walking...I am Freaking Terrified.

I drive a small, round car, and once police pulled me over to the side of the road to stop and ask me if "i drove a bubble". Hah! I think it was a lame attempt to try and prove they had a sense of humour! Anyway...try and think about who these people are, and what they are doing. If there is a reason that you're scared of them - maybe because of a single incident that happened - try not focus on it, or to think of all police as people to be feared. I mean, there are good guys and bad guys in every profession. as a whole, the police around to help you and keep the community safe.

Hey opester!?

2009-10-25T06:11:00.003-07:00

i know you have opie, the overweight cat!
i have a freind who has a couple of cats. i feel he neglets them. when i visit i notice the food bowl is always empty. one of his cats is evil!! he pees on the funitiure and won't use the litter box. i can't really blame the cat because his litter box doesn't get cleaned out on a regular basis. is this neglect a sign of mental defect?? what can i do to help them take care of his pets??
Answer:
Hey Eddie,
Not exactly a mental health question, but here goes. The food bowls may be empty because it isn't meal time when you visit-because of my diabetic cat, we can only feed everyone 3X per day so the food bowls are often empty. Make sure they have water, tho, as there is no reason to restrict that.
As far as the litter box goes, it could be a number of things ranging from depression to distraction to laziness. I'd suggest you ask your friend what's going on, particularly if this is something you just noticed recently. Ask your friend if there is anything you can do to help if it's a temporary thing.

The peeing on furniture is the cats trying to tell their master,,,The liter box is full
I'm hungry!
People don't always realize how smart animals are.
Tell your friend.

Hey i am still not cmng out of my depression .i failed in an exam .another i is 4 wks aftr .i cant concentrate

2009-10-25T06:11:00.002-07:00

Answer:
Are you taking medication? What kind.

Exercising? Eating right? Avoiding alcohol or other drugs?

Maybe you should quit playing on the computer and start studying.

I'm sorry - women suffer depression from PMS. Go to a medical doctor and see if he can help you. If you're a male, try using OT|C St. John's Wort and Gingko- Balboa. It's a natural mood and memory enhancer.

What have you done that you are expecting to be coming out of your depression?

Ideas:

1.) go to the doctor, tell him/her what's wrong, they'll probably prescribe you an anti depressant

2.) Change your daily habits, get some exercise, eat healthier, you know just get into shape

3.) Journal your feelings, write down feeling, (use real pen and paper) keep them or throw them away it doesn't matter. *(this actually does help)

4.) Stop using any drugs or alcohol that your are currently using. (if you can't get into a rehab center)

5.) Interact with real people, not people over the Internet, create some flesh and blood friendships.

Good luck!

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Hey friends...its the first time the head of my penis has come out ...i am having a lot of pain .normal?

2009-10-25T06:11:00.000-07:00

Answer:
Maybe you should go show your Mommy and see what she advises.

I'm no doctor, but it sounds perfectly normal to me. Just continue to go about your normal daily routine.

Oh, i'd have to see it to know.

the first time the head of your penis has come out of what?? erm, or where? And how long has it been in there?

go to the doctor to be sure
dont worry the doctor has seen all shapes and sizes

Hey can you help me out?

2009-10-25T06:10:00.003-07:00

Hi, I'm in my mid-twenties. I'm very short and have some trouble meeting friends and girlfriend. Basically I've isolated myself. Hard to meet people that understand me, but I don't want to meet anyone online.

Is their any advice? Thanks lol
Answer:
5'4" is not that short. Seeing as how I'm only 5'2", I wouldn't care.

Don't isolate yourself--that's the first part of self-sabatoge.
Don't be afraid to talk to people. Get involved in a club, activity, church, etc, and start talking to people.

Not everyone is going to understand you, and it might suck, but it's life. Unfortunately, a lot of us have to go through life without having someone who truly understands everything we go through. The trick is finding someone who truly cares about you. Start by looking for someone with a common interest. Sometimes saying hello can begin a beautiful relationship.

Find your courage and get out there!

well buddy what I think you need to do is dress up go out to some clubs ..go to the movies .and meet some people instead of sittin in front of computer ...doing nothing all day !! try having a little fun in life ;)

Be confident in yourself but not so much that you come off looking like a jerk. Don't be shy, go out of your comfort zone and do things and speak to people that you normally wouldn't have an interest in. Be fun, open and honest there is nothing to lose.

I've seen short/tall couples. It seems as though if a short person can feel ok about it...and can even laugh about it..it will turn out to be no big deal. Plus, after someone gets to know you...they truly won't notice your heighth. Just like when you see someone good looking who's unfriendly, turns into being ugly ...or see someone ugly until you get to know them and they seem to be the most beautiful person in the world. My friend's mom was 6'l" and her dad 5'4". They were so cute together and had alot of fun with it.

Hey do not worry about your short commings so to speak
Be clean and do not have fears like the 50's kids stay in school meet eveyone and just hang out at the mall or library and college classes you will meet some one over lunch or over some least expect it occasion you will meet some enchanted someone Get Ready Get Ready...Here I
Come Motown Temptations for you From the D...Detroit

Love is love. That certain someone will come along and love you for you no matter what. You have to get out and go places to meet people but it will be when you are least expecting it and not looking when you meet that special someone. You are still young. Enjoy life and don't rush things..it will happen.

Hey all. i have been afflicted with bipolar disorder for almost 15 years now and I have a current situation?

2009-10-25T06:10:00.001-07:00

This is the scenario: I have no job, I left my position after a racial confrontation with my boss. i had just finished a graduate degree and thought that I would be able to find something. Welll, 6 months have passed and you guessed it, nothing. Only 1 interview with over 100 resumes out. I am in Michigan, pur economy is awful.
I had saved money and I was paying my bills and then I badly injured my foot in January and I just started getting the bills and it looks like Im 400$ short and i have some other things I have to pay.

To the problem: lately I have these awful thoughts, cant sleep can fell myself going into that depressed state again (I should be coming out of it, it is spring). I just notice I have no desire to do the things I like, and have been having a very tough time with my girlfriend b/c of money. Among other things.

Even doing the simplest things seems impossible. I am starting to get really worried
Answer:
I've been bipolar for 15 years also. I had 2 previous docs who were useless. Finally, a third one took a fresh look at my case and helped me. But it hasn't been smooth sailing. I've tried over 20 different meds and countless more combinations. Spring/summer were always my best times, but this year I'm feeling down. I don't get it. Find a new doctor. Mine is very compassionate and is working to help me feel better. Keep trying.

Wow. And I thought I had a bad day. All I can say is that you have to make up your mind that this will pass like a bad storm. You have to have hope. Be positive. I am a firm believer in the idea that we draw energy to ourselves based on the energy we release. So, if you are negative about a lot of things, then you will draw negativity to your life. This concept is real. As far as the bills go, call the people you owe money to and tell them you will be late making payments. Explain your injury and the fact that it has affected your ability to work right now. This is a Cardinal Rule. (Sorry about your foot.) You say you are taking your meds, you finished your graduate degree, you saved money. You are obviously someone who has their act together. However, if you feel that you are slipping into a depression, in spite of taking your meds, you may need to be reevaluated by your doc. You may just need a simple adjustment. Happens all the time. Focus on those things you have control over, and set aside those things that are OUTSIDE of your influence. Go somewhere today and get some sun. Tell yourself that it's all going to work out. Like I said, you have many outstanding traits. Build on those. Onward and upward.

You mention a lot of negatives here. Some actual ones that have occurred for you and others you are perceiving or anticipating because of them.
Though it's hard to 'see' the future when you feel this way, instead of letting the negatives stack up, take mental 'time-out' and make a list of the positives in your life and about you. Let them 'stack up' and use those to help build up future prospects and hopes for yourself.
Your taking -one-step-at-a-time down the negative road at the moment. Turn around and start taking one-step-at-a-time up the positive road.
It can be done. You've acheived alot by gaining your degree and you're able to be honest with the way you're feeling at the moment. You've achieved then, you can achieve now.
Also, find a relaxation method that works for you. Helps calm the nerves so you can see things more clearly.
Maybe discover something you are passionate about (your degree ?) to help you focus on a better future.
Good luck

Hey Justin, I would like to start with saying I completly feel for you, I've had bipolar for about 10 yrs, so I understand. Honestly, with all my knowledge from my own experiences, I'm still lost for words, and my heart goes out to you.

For me, when I'm in this kind of situation, knowing that I'm actually getting somewhere and digging myself out of my hole, makes me feel better. So, as silly as it sounds, (and I still do it) I make a list of the problems. Then assess each one, individually, and really think about all the different options. Then slowly, make a another list, of which one you're going to do first, etc etc with dates and times - but realistic ones. (I'm always having to change my goals as normally it's lose 5 kgs in 2 days without sawing off an arm kinda thing! *giggle*)

I know it sounds silly, and reading back on this, Im even thinking, omg, yeah right! But it does work! Structure saves me and really seeing that I could get myself back on my feet (or foot ;-) ) helps. Otherwise things just get all mushed up in my head, one thing piles on top of the other and seems just like one big black hole thats pulling me in deeper and deeper. I hope theres someone you can talk to about all this. Otherwise, please email/im me, you've really impacted me, and as silly as I am, I think I can still give some good advice, and sometimes it even works in your advantage when you don;t know the other person!

I know what you mean about doctors tho. I've searched years till I finally found the a shrink - but's that a whole other story!

All the best, and I don't know you, but I know that you will get thru this. Alice.

it might be worth your time to see a psychologist... i know that you say money is hard to come by, but some will work on a sliding scale for you... there are clinics in most areas that are meant for people with limited income... and tough times. medication, even if you need it just temporarily, will give you the edge you need to get through things right now, if that's what you need. your mental health is important. without being able to think clearly and make good decisions, it might be difficult for you to get back up again. i wish you luck.

i am 15 and have been dealing with bipolar all my life (no matter how short it has been). consider yourself lucky to have a girlfriend! i cant keep one for more than a month! yet i digress.
the thoughts are normal (at least for me but everyone is different) i take low dose allergy medication with drowsy side affects for insomnia, but that's just me! the meds are important but don't rely on them they just help. you cant let it control you! you need to keep a grip on your emotions so find an outlet (i do martial arts and a little poetry). if you feel like you are going through mood swings separate yourself from everyone and calm down (meditate and take deep, calm breaths and center yourself) however don't keep the emotions bottled up! they will just rear their ugly heads later when you aren't expecting them. you have to realize that YOU and no one else controls your emotions.
good luck!

Justin,
Judging from your dialog you sound as though you are capable of identifying when you are experiencing highs and lows. So what did you do to get back on track during the other times things fell apart for you? I read other people's advice and some of it maybe helpful to you. But when feeling as low as you sound right now you are probably ready to call it quits. DON'T! QUIT. Give yourself credit for that graduate degree, and the fact you held a job, (your ambitious) and all the other things you have accomplished in life as a person. You are more than just someone afflicted with bipolar. Its too bad your girlfriend is not being supportive right now. Seek out a professional that is supportive, or a family member or a friend. Take it one step at a time starting with sleep. I used to hear numerous things in my head when I was trying too hard to fall asleep. (I swear I could hear a radio or something, it really drove me up the wall!) I am sure you have tried falling asleep in front of the TV or with some type of noise to distract yourself. Maybe once you write down all the things you want to accomplish, some relief may come to mind. Every person that has bipolar, including myself, handles situations differently.

Heroin addiction?

2009-10-25T06:10:00.000-07:00

Our daughter is a heroin addict. She is extremely intelligent and has a college degree. She says she wants to quit, but will not go through detox (withdrawl) as she has done this before. We have been told that methadone and suboxone treatments are a possible solution for her. Any feedback on this?
Answer:
I myself was a heroin addict. I am also highly intelligent (Phi Beta Kappa, MENSA, honors college, deans/presidents lists.,..the whole thing) and I lost it all because of heroin. Some people don't need the medical professionals helping them, some know exactly what they need to do, and just need the love and support of their family and friends to do so. I tried intake once, and it didn't work for me either. Neither did methadone. I just needed to find what made me happy, music for me - and the love and support of my friends and parents, and I wanted to stop doing it. I will amend this if you have any more questions, I want to help anyone who is going thru this, it is SO hard to do. It will take years not to think of doing it again, but it has been 3 for me, and I am back on track to entering medical school now. Let her wean off it on her own, giving her a safe clean place to be with the love and care she needs. This is a mental and physical breakdown for her, make sure she has support. I know this may sound crazy, but just offer to make her as confortable as possible, if she will do it in your own home. It will get very intense, but she can do it.

Herion is a very hard drug to quit. It changes the chemical makeup in your brain and adjusts the levels of neurotransmitters that are produced and released. Even though methadone and suboxone treatments are possible it is still difficult and you have to make a decision to not use everyday. It is not a drug that you can just quit. She needs to be patient and know that it will take time. My thoughts are with you and your family. Good luck!!

If your daughter seriously wants to quit she would go to any lengths to do that, including detox. Relapse after a detox is VERY common, she is not alone. I would suggest she go to a 30 day inpatient treatment facility. There she can detox and get her grounding to do the footwork to remain clean. I personally have never taken methadone, but know some that have. For them it was just trading one addiction for another. A drug is a drug is a drug.
Best wishes.

My husband is a recovering heroin addict and we both agree that the medhadone is just substituting one addiction for another. Many people are dependent on that because your body doesn't learn to fight it and not need it on its own. Unfortunately the most success is usually from going through detox and then moving through rehab. My husband also did it twice, but has been clean for over 4 1/2 years. Find a good place where she feels comfortable and be a strong support system. If she really wants to get clean, she will do whatever it takes, if not, she's not ready. Good luck, I know it's hard.

Methadone has worked for some. Make sure she does not go on a methadone maintenance program. Basically she will still be an addict only the goverment will be supplying her drugs. I would speak to some one who has a casac, I am still working towards mine at this time. Please do a lot of research before making any decisions. Some things work for some people, they may not work for your daughter. Also, whatever happens, you should also go to therapy for education and support. God luck.

I am currently taking suboxone myself, after being on heroin for years and would recommend that above any methadone, methadone is just as bad if not worse than heroin. Suboxone takes away all the withdrawl symptoms, she won't be sick at all and she can have her life back if she wants it

methadone and suboxone are bandaids to a deeper, more serious problem. the 12-step programs available are the proven method of choice among recovering addicts.

i am a narcotics anonymous member(NA) and there are friends who stop using heroin. i mean it is possible to stop. we believe that there is no known cure of addiction in the world except a group support and solidarity. but also addict must be aware of the effects of substance to his/her life and how it ruined his/her life and make a decision.
you can find a NA group close to you and join conventions.
http://www.na.org

Quit giving her money. Drugs will eventually take everything from her and when she finally hits the bottom she will do something about it. Right now she has no reason to stop. But methadone is one way, but even still until she decides to get sober there is no answer for her. She is going to have to suffer some no matter how she goes about it. I hate drugs. They are such a waste of time, money and energy. Life is so short anyways. And its not just heroin its all drugs including alchohol. Oh well such is life. Good luck!

Here we go agine!?

2009-10-25T06:09:00.002-07:00

ok im takeing this anger class and im getting pissed in there!! they keep telling me to calm down and they keep saying it and saying it! and its pissing me off but anyway they say i have anger and i need to let it out.and i say i dont have anger problems i have problems with stress not anger i can keep a cool temper just fine! but they keep saying the point of my stress is girls and i say not ****! they say i need to tell the girl i care for how i feel! and i said ya that wouldent help probley make it worse! im pissed you people can be my anger teacher or something what should i do?
Answer:
r u seriously? thats crazy! good luck...im getting signed up for a shrink...lol dont feel bad!

well first off quit them classes...second take a deep breath now let it out...ok now to be serious try to find some things that really relaxes you. like taking a walk, listening to music, write about how you feel, take naps, buy incents; that'll come you down, and tmaybe even try excercising to get your mind off of things. another thing you can do is eat. like chocolate.

Well! What you have is frustation and not anger, theres something inside you, that is bottled up, and is upsetting you, forget the whole ANGER thing, and lets talk about yourself and get to know you, I am sure I can get some feed back, which might lead us to the bottom of the problem and find the cause, if ever you need to talk I am here, I have gone through worst phases of my life. Good luck

Help? I am only 24 years old.?

2009-10-25T06:09:00.001-07:00

I am scared that i am going through a mental break down.
I am so depressed. My depression comes and goes. Today i was typing at work and all of sudden i thought i was on the phone and i was about to say i have to call you back. I am scared. My moods goes up and down. What do you think? Thank you.
Answer:
It would be prudent for you to talk to a psychiatrist. You may be developing a manic depressive disorder. There is no need to be scared. If you are, there are many medications out there can treat the condition.

Mood swings like that are symptomatic of a manic depressive condition. Please see a doctor as soon as possible.

Are there things going on in your life that are causing you to feel really stressed out? Is there a history of mental illness in your family? If so, see your doctor.

Seriously..stay.off...

Panic attacks sounds like, go to the doctor and get meds for awhile they will help you and talk to someone about it.

Dude! you need some serious help. Go see a doctor! NOW! and pls don't stop by any gun shops on the way.!

Are you stressed? Some times it could be the stress from your daily life. I am 21 and I had a break down yesterday. Just take it easy one day at a time. Pray! and live life. If you can seek help, only if it is really serious. And always remember there are others with situation far most worst than yours, so be thankful.

Stress affects depression as well, try alternating your pastimes, i.e. 1 hour reading, 1 hour typing, 1 hour shopping etc.Don't become over engrossed in one thing for to long.

Have you been stressed out lately? Stress can have a huge affect on your mental health as well as your phyiscal. If it is something that has been going on for a while, you might want to make an appt with your doctor and discuss the options. I suffer from the same thing, and I was told by my doctor that I have a Bi-Polor disorder with BPD. It is important that you put yourself first, and take care of these feelings. Do not brush it off.

Make an appointment with your doctor and see if he or she will either prescribe the appropriate medication or recommend a psychiatrist. If you don't have or can't afford a doctor, look in the phone book under mental health. And relax. With the right help, you'll be fine.
Good luck.

i had the same problem as before, actually i had this depression for about 5 years. But than i came across this natural product called 'Ginko Bilboa' which can be found in Fish oils capsules.
it works wonders for me as this was really good for the nervous system and as well as brain memory.
try it out.

Possible bipolar disorder: see a doctor and ask for a referral.

Sometimes I feel like that too. Try to identify the true cause of your stress!

Imbalance of Hormones in your body can be treated by medication. See a Psych. My relative has cronic problems and his mind is maintained better by medication otherwise he would loose his mind.
Another thing is if you are stressed, get out and exercise, listen to relaxing music, maintain your living space with lots of light, people get more depressed in the winter because of all of these factors.
We are all here for ya man, take care and see someone for us...

take yourself to the nearest hospitat. right now. GO!

pray to God.ask him to help you.

Don't worry about it, your 24, you'll be dead in a couple of years anyways.

Help....?

2009-10-25T06:08:00.002-07:00

1. umm i am a girl been out with another girl before and i fancy this girl right now am i gay? but i have fancied boys before and bin out with them and stuff/

2.I am sad at the moment cause...
My friend died, i have been reminded of the fact i was raped and i just try pretend that never happend, cause i never told anyone but my friend should i have told the police/cops ?

3. People keep calling me emo and its annoying i guess i am but i dont like people to label me when they dont even know me infact i dont like labels atall. anyone else get labled ?

GRRRRRRR JUST KILL ME.
please...
Answer:
i got raped many times and people call me Gothic and a emo

don't really know
parents and family come before friends

ok, if you like boys and girls perhaps you are bi?

To second guess if you should have told the police now is a waste of energy, perhaps you should have or perhaps not-your choice. Dont fret about it now, put your energy to getting over the rape, perhaps a councelor would be good to help you with that and the death of your friend.

lables, well they are a part of life I think. It is just what people seem to do. Not much you can do about it really other than to change your style to fit in and not be noticed and then they will just lable you for some other reason. I would say be yourself and happy with it. If you are not happy with who you are, then work to change to something you are happy with and to heck with those who dont like it.

oh my goodness gracious me---i feel so sorry for you---sounds like life for ya is full or drama and such :(
you may want to get some counseling for the issues you are feeling

you are probably bi, as for your friend im so sorry=( yes u should report the rape to the cops.and last i get labeled a lot because i used to cut myself they call me emo or goth.

Help.. I have emotional problems, but don't have a lot of money..?

2009-10-25T06:08:00.001-07:00

I have a lot of problems that I feel like I need some help with. I wish I could see a therapist, but they are so expensive and I don't make a lot of money. Any ideas on how I can get some help? I just want to stop feeling the way I do..
Answer:
There is usually a county mental health service that operates on a sliding fee based on income. They are usually underfunded and overwhelmed, with long waiting lists, but eventually you can get some help.

If you can't find them try calling your local health department and asking them for the number, they probably would know.

try talking to your peers

what country do you live in? if you live in the states, i have no idea. but if you live in a country with even basic healthcare coverage, some mental health services will be covered by the government.
also, use your yellow pages and look up mental health and counselling services, there are lots of free organizations out there. they might not have the knowledge of a $200/hour harvard-trained therapist, but you aren't paying for one.

you have insuance? it can help cover the cost of a theripist. Also there are therapys out there for low income people they will help you. Or try talking to a close friend sometimes that all you need.

Check with your local churches. Some have people to talk to.

Seek out your community mental health centers, they have sliding fee's that can help with the cost.

Everyone has emotional problems, and it is understandable that we cannot spend a ridiculous amount of money going to a therapist or psychiatrist to help us feel relieved. However one effective way of releasing these problems is by writing them out, and destroying the paper into miniatures to burn them or throw them away. By doing meditation and having a more optimistic and positive approach about this problems you will also find the solution to resolving them. Trust God and ask him to tell you what to do, he is the only one who you can count on and who will bring calm and faith into your desperation.

Are you currently employed? Do you have medical insurance?

Some employers offer behavioral hotlines for their employees (and their families) where they can call about issues like yours.

Check with your medical insurance if visiting a psychologist or psychiatrist is part of your coverage in which you would make a co-payment... again check your coverage.

Remember, all problems start BIG and they end small... Don't loose hope, don't give up.

Good self therapy is writing out your problems. Pour it all out, then look at it objectively and ask yourself what you can do to get beyond them.

You can often discover the roots of your own traumas doing this. Once you've identified them, work with them. Remember that many of them don't matter NOW and won't matter at all in the future. They are your past.

You have to admit you've made mistakes and that you've learned from them. Learn to love yourself. Often a therapist will tell you to face yourself in the mirror every morning and tell your reflection the GOOD points and things you are proud of. It works.

I'm not a mental therapist. I AM a professional writer and the absolute despair of any psychiatrist. I've not only identified ALL my own traumas, but I've given them some of them to my characters. Very therapeutic and I understand how each of them has contributed to my own development.

You are the sum of your experiences, but that doesn't mean you must accept the total. Keep working at it. You are still growing. Oh, and don't forget that God can help you find strength when you are failing.

Chech out GodShew Org for free online counseling, revelations about emotional problems, depression cure.

find a counseling service that charges by your income

i'll be your friend dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. also call 1800 lifenet if u need someone to help you out. metanoia.org offers counseling. also walking helps.

shrinks are cheap.
eat a lot of ice cream.

Problems and no money aye? welll with me i got a lot of problems from having no money so therefore i dint go out looking for a relationship and friends which gave me the problems resulting in getting sick, but for me nah definitely I'm sorry i can't help the only thing nearest to a therapist for cheap is a joint. That's if it helps sorry you feel that way though dude i have massive problems and i like nothing better than to hear reassurance but sometimes i just blinds me and it's no help at all

There are many online forums and support groups that could help you. Talking to another human being about life's problems can be very helpful.

http://www.onlinelifecoach.org
weblifecoach@hotmail.com

I'm not sure about America, but in europe, you can get it covered by health insurence, or are there any free u.s helplines you can try, or maybe your G.P can help, I'm not sure. I wish I could help you, at least you are willing to talk to some one. It's the first stage of healing. x

honestly, I feel bad that I can't really 'answer' your question. but i just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone. I feel the exact same way, and have for years. but i recently found that there are state to state programs for people who don't make enough money. you can get therapy through these programs. do an internet search, you'll find something. just hold on.

Help. deja vu about every day?

2009-10-25T06:08:00.000-07:00

Ever since i've been young, i've been having what people call deja vu. i've heard it runs through my family a little, but is rare. like it left for awhile when i wasn't focusing what was in front of me, you know, life. but now its been growing increasingly since. now almost every night in my sleep i have it and the event can happen in a week, the next day, whatever. but i remember the dream and it happens. like when i was pretty young, since 4 years old, it happened about every day. and i was pretty scared. funny how all the weirdest things can happen to a personl, right? like so many have happened to me, but i won't name them. can someone just help me? someone who knows about this kind of thing and can give me some information on it. i dont know exactly what it is? just some help to what it is or what i could do, or something? thank you
Answer:
I don;t know what it is called, but I have had these same little flash type of dreams too. For me, it has been some small detail that I remember from a dream when it happens. It has never been anything serious or unnerving, just a small snapshot of a future event. These dreamshots don't happen very often, but are vivid when they do, and surprising when the event happens. Nothing to worry about, mine are less as I get older. Best wishes

I've had deja vu for as long as I can remember also, but it's never scared me. I think knowing the future is a gift. You can either be prepared or you can change the outcome. I don't know how to help you stop it and i definetly don't think this should go in the mental section.

oooh i thought i was the only one going through this!!...except i get them usually twice a week rather than everyday...theres nothing bad about it- i think its pretty cool!!..for example i dream about something and i don't know the people or the location in the dream, then 5 years later , what i dreamnt about happens...its a bit scary...but cool heheh..
try researching it...
there are books on it... try searching "the science of sleep" on google or something.

Deja vu has nothing to do with being able to fortell the future or anything that happens in your dreams. It is the "feeling", in the present, while you are wide awake, that what is happening has happened before.

If you do a search on this you can find out a lot from the Wikipedia website.I had this experience every day for a few months many years ago. I think my experience was a symptom of the Depression I was dealing with at the time.

I would suggest checking about the deja vu with your doctor for the possibilities mentioned in the Wikipedia of physical problems that may be causing this.

Deja vu is not something experienced while asleep.

Dream content is something different. Dreams can be related to many issues including daily stressors.

Reliving of past events in one's dreams might be considered "flashbacks".

I don't think there's one 100% undiable answer that can be given to this question. However, I've read quite a bit about this and in recent years studys of the brain have shown "clues" as to what causes this. Unfortunately, I've forgotten the source, and can't summon my deja vu on demand to remember it either lol. But, these finding do not give a flat-out explanation for it either, and are just guesses, theories, and clues. It could also very well have to do with the spiritual being or the supernatural realm. Also, there's Albert Einstein's theory of relativity remember. So who knows really, I guess it's something we may never know the true answer to until we are deceased.

don't worry about it everybody has dreams ihave dreams some are repeated dreams, i think a lot of it is we get in a rut .we keep doing the same thing everyday ,like ttaking the same route to school,or work,and sometimes we dream the same dream .and if you thank you dream weird dream listen to this one i was chaseing this arab across the desert on camels the closer i got to him his skin started melting off the faster the chase him the more he melted then soon he was nothing but a skeleton then i woke up.

I might say something that will offend you . Please dont think yourself as unusual or special perhaps if this ting unerves you ,you would be happy with a down to Earth explanation .

It has been held as a belief for some time that one area of the brain works a little slower than the other when it passes over the concious barier this gives the DE ja Vous feeling . This phenomena running in families could explain the brain chemistry

HELP,HELP,HELP Can anyone Help me out there?

2009-10-25T06:07:00.003-07:00

Has anyone ever had there boyfriend die in there arms because about 2 weeks ago I did and I could use some advice on how to deal.
Answer:
I had that happen to me(except it was my gf) the best thing i figured out is that you have to let it go asap, i know it will be hard, but the world isnt going to stop just for you. so u got to pick your head up, appreciate the moments u had with him, and know that you will have those moments again with someone else...i dont know if that comes off as rude, but by no means do i mean it that way...sorry for your loss and good luck

i am so sorry but i never did and i never did but just calm down and think probably right now he is looking down at you from heaven well thats all i have to right god bless!! and once agin sorry

I did once. I made it through. I will try.

If you would like to IM for a while...do it at
jodygrissom@yahoo.com

Aww sweetie! I'm sorry for your loss. Talk to somebody you trust. Big Hugs!

I'm so sorry for you. All I can say is that your boyfriend would have wanted you to have a good life and not spend all your time making yourself miserable. He is probably thinking of out from Heaven, I hope you feel better. Things will get better just never give up! *Hugs*

Oh, you poor baby! I'm so, so extremely sorry! I'm sorry, but I haven't. If you'd like to talk about it, you may go to my profile and e-mail me.

Help, plz, I dont know what to do...!!!!!!!!...?

2009-10-25T06:07:00.002-07:00

I auditioned for Peter Pan recently and found out I didnt even make it to call backs, that has never happened to me befor I have allways gotten into call backs, if there were any, all three of the other people I auditioned with got in, my three friends, and I have been really looking forward to it, now I have nothing to do for many many many many months, when I am not in theatre/out of school activities, I feel really useless and it makes me depressed, last time I wasnt in anything I started cutting myself and making extra drama in my life. I feel really useless when I cant do anything. Is there something wrong with me? what should I do?
Should I distract myself with something?
Oh yeah, my friends got through to call backs, not sure if they are in or not, but that dont make me feel great.
Heaps of people have said I am WAY more talented than them and I am not upset or jealous of or with them. I just dont want to feel the low I did last time. help?
Answer:
You need to talk to someone, preferably a professional counsellor. YOU ARE NOT CRAZY! You do, however, have some things running through your head that you need to get out. A professional will work with you to get those things out and learn ways to deal with whatever you are feeling. That is the secret...learning how to deal with it. Everyone has their "stuff"; the well-adjusted just know what to do with it.
Good luck!

There is nothing wrong with you. Just because you didn't get in this time doesn't mean that is something wrong with you. Do you know how many auditions and hurdles stars on TV had to go through to get where they are now? many, many obstacles. Don't ever give up, let it make you stronger.

God has something better in store for you.
For many, many, many months absolutely nothing, eh? How about joining the Peace Corps?

Well...one of my friends is into theatre. Just a couple of weeks ago she tried out for a play but didn't get in. She was really depressed at first but then she got over. How, you may ask? Well, she asked if she could be music assistant or stage assistant. She got to make the sound effects and things like that. I know it's not as good as being in the play, but you are still around your friends and be part of the play kinda. Oh, and you're not useless. Everyone has a purpose in life no matter how small. So please please please don't cut yourself.

You need to talk to either a friend, help line, doctor or someone you trust. You need realize that you wont make every call back and that show biz is tough. Even great actors like Grey's anatomy cast dont make every callback. you should take up writing, running, dancing or something to get rid of the depression. Take a nice bath and pamper yourself with a maussage or facial or getting the nails done. Go shopping or somehing. Start fresh and dont let one small audition make you lose yourself. You wont make a lot of auditions for stupid reasons...just dont flip out because of it. BREATHE, MEDITATE AND WATCH A MOVIE OR GO PARTYING. I would recommend your watching THE SECRET%26gt; its a great motivator.

There is reason you did not get a call back. When a door closes a window opens. Cutting yourself is a lot deeper than just being a little depressed. You hold your feelings in and take negative responsibility to harsh even if it belongs to others. If you do find yourself to the point you are even thinking about cutting yourself you need to speak w/ a doctor.
Try doing something that will change you whole outlook on life. Work at a children's hospital volunteer@ an assisted living facility. Seeing these things might remind you just how great you are. When you apply yourself you can do anything. Just remember in show biz every big star has that told you so story. Ask yourself is this your told you so story or will you let people change who you really are just because you don't share the same point of view.

Help, Im goin crazy...seriously!!?

2009-10-25T06:07:00.001-07:00

I need some advice on how to tell my parents on how I think I should be put on some depression pills or something because I have anger problems and everything makes me sad or b1tchy.
My parents split up and alot of things have happend to me since then. I cant stand being around big groups of people I feel ugly and fat and I scratch myself with a wall pin when I get depressed and I see things move and hear voices and things like that. I think im bi-polar and have skizophrenia. Soemone help. I hide these things alot except my anger I cant go 1 minuet without saying the F* word and my dad doesnt care that I say it and my mom doesnt like it so I respect her when in her prescence but I am just so angry all the time...someone help
Answer:
I find it interesting that you start your dialog with complete sentences, and then you really start thinking and letting yourself go and that last paragraph is chaos.

I think you need to slow down a bit and re-access. You seem to be very upset with the parental split and don't have anyone to take it out on. You are in tough situation that you probably don't fully understand, and you have to try to base your feelings on what you feel instead of listening to the back and forth of your parents.

Easier said than done - I know.

Sometimes taking a step back can help with you dealing with a situation, as from what I read you are totally reacting to what is going on and you haven't figured out how to handle it. Try not to give the parentals too much crap - they have feelings and are going through a huge deal with separating.

Talk to a friend, or seek the guidance of a neutral third party (like a counselor) so you gain perspective and enable yourself to deal with what's going on in your life instead of reacting to it.

I'm sorry you are sad. Having been through depression myself, I didn't even realize how moody and angry I was until I got help. And your situation with your parents doesn't help.

I hope you find some solace with this answer. I wish you the best...

Go talk to your school counselor. She will make sure you get some help. It will make you feel better. Sorry to hear you are having such problems.

If you are 12 years old or older then you don't need your parents permission to seek therapy to help you sort things out. Divorce is awful for kids to figure out and even worse to survive sometimes. Have you attempted to talk to your parents about what you are experiencing? The symptoms you describe could be the result of being severely depressed. Please let them know what's going on for you if its safe to do so. If not, please contact your local mental health services in your area and talk to a professional.

pills will help but I agree with Tom Cruise that they will only mask your problems, therefore I discourage you from their use.

It sounds like your over reacting to things, just chill out and get a punching bag and beat it until your knuckles are bloody. You seeing things? very strange. I would however, get that checked out. As for you being bipolar, prehaps, but just learn to take out your bad moods on physical objects.

You need to talk to your doctor. If you don't feel comfortable telling your parents why you want to talk to your doctor, just make up something else that you need to talk to the doctor about, like headaches or stomach cramps or something. Your parents will think you are going for that problem, then once you get in the exam room, you can talk to the doctor about whatever you like. Don't be embarrased to talk to your doctor, he/she has dealt with this many, many times before! This happens to a lot more people than you think. What is important is that you get help that you need! The doctor will definitely lead you in the right direction!

You probally dont have bipolar or schizophrenia. it sounds like you are just trying to cope with the situation. it is an adjustment reaction.

if you are hearing voices you probably have a true mental illness, i think you need the help of a psychiatrist, like another answerer said try to get to any type of doctor,tell your parents you are feeling really bad and you want them to take you to the doctor to see if he or she can help you feel better let them know you are very sick and don't try to keep going on and hiding it because it will probably just get worse

Help, I think I might have some sort of mental illnesss!!?

2009-10-25T06:07:00.000-07:00

Ever since I was a kid, I cannot remember feeling genuinely excited about anything. I have always know when I should fee excited/sad/joyous or otherwise and can mimic the appropriate response when I want to, but no general emotion. I have won a couple of jackpots at casinos (4 times at about $1200 - $5000 each) and it's like "great, this will pay off such and such" but thats it. Meanwhile 80 year olds are doing back flips because they won a five spot on the nickel slots. I've been married for 2+ years now and have my first child on the way and I can honestly say that I am not the least bit excited about it. I'm not apprehensive, happy, sad, prideful, anxious.just nothing. I have always had a great moral compass, knowing right from wrong and acting on the right thing to do (been called boyscout many, many times) and I have had a career in law enforcement and security for many years because I like to protect people. On the other hand, I can still feel anger and sadness. Help.
Answer:
Maybe you need to get to the root cause of what's making you feel so angry and sad? Can you remember any sad times in your life? If you can start up a journal and write down your thoughts in a journal of your feelings and maybe why you feel the way you do. This will help you to take a stock account of things. Write down things you remember about your childhood or any time whether it be happen or sad.

If you feel that you need counselling try to find a counsellor that has your best interest at heart. Read up on the different types of counsellors that are out there. Some are doctors and some aren't. I don't know where you live but in some cases some of them may be covered by medical?

Maybe you can even join a community group that helps men deal with these kinds of problems and also will be like a support system for you to start off with then if you feel you need more then you can look into the type of doctors who can help you out. Check out some MSN or Yahoo Groups that deal with anger and depression. That would be a good starting point to self discovery if it's something more then find a counselor.

http://www.chebucto.ns.ca/communitysuppo...

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emo...

http://www.stressgroup.com/anger.html...

http://www.christianity.ca/faith/spiritu...

Sounds like you have border line personality disorder dude . try counselling with a shrink they have some **** called cognitive therapy which like helps a lot . there's also a book called feeling good by david.d.burns helped my mom a lot .. give these a shot and let me knw

cheerio

It could be depression. I think a visit with a counselor could help. Do it for yourself AND your child. Good luck..

it sound like you are not grateful.. even though you get something you always want something more in life.. maybe sometime you should stop and think the things that you receive in life and other people don't have.. i don't know about you but this method help me... I'm a very cheerful person..

Sounds like a personality trait deficit to me. Check out some of the personality disorders in the DSM IV. Your lack of emotional expression could be from an underactive amgydala in your brain.

maybe after u actually see your baby and hold him/her, you'll finally feel excited, maybe your depressed? anger and sadness are symptoms of that

if you feel you are a happy person/content, then you are probably ok. if you are happy to be alive, then you are probably ok. you are obviously motivated, so maybe your enthusiasm takes a different form. i think disposition is partly genetic, and some people are just more reserved in their thoughts and expressions

I can give you tell you a little bit of information by what you wrote towards the end there: you say that you can feel anger and sadness. Men often seem to exhibit two emotions: ANGER (like you) but also FEAR.

The best thing for you to do is to get to a counselor well-versed in men's issues. It sounds like something deeply rooted in your childhood.

http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.co...

Help, been having the same nightmare for two nights in a row, why?

2009-10-25T06:06:00.002-07:00

the first one was that there was a girl who decided to shoot kids at my college, then last night i also dreamed that in my school there were kids jumping off the roof of the campus buildings??
Answer:
I am not an expert, but I play one on TV. With that said I would guess your recurring dream is related to something that is bothering you, something that you have been thinking about that is carrying over in your sleep. For example, I was really worried about an important interview I had the next day and I was freaking out - I think I checked my alarm three times before I went to sleep and I put my alarm on my cell phone to be sure I got up. Well, sure enough my dream was about missing an important meeting. It is funny, not funny Ha Ha, but funny interesting how the mind works.

Stress about Care Bares all day so you are certain to dream about them!

Good luck!

maybe its just you worrying about the possibilties of that...you know bad thing that happened...
just give yourself time to think it through and im sure itll go away

Sounds like you have a fear deep in your subconcious, or your mind have been cluttered with current events. Go for a drink tonight, if you dont drink, then have a coffee and enjoy your reality, you will miss it when it is gone.

phobia let people know ur dream and it might go away

is that the same ? you should hear sum of mine but they are getting so bad that i care not to remember that i even went to sleep and thats serious bidness . i do feel for you and i hopefully wish that you have sweet dreams from this night forward .

that is a sign of something terrible happening soon ( 1 month to 4 months

This is extremely common. You are probably just thinking a lot about the VA Tech shootings and now because it has happened, you believe it is more likely to happen to you. This is called the availabilty heuristic. If it continues you might want to go talk with a counsler or someone like that on your campus.

With the recent events at VT its normal to have nightmares about it happening to you at your school. This effected a lot of people thatdon't go there too. If this continues talk to a counselor to work through your fears. I am sure others who go to school have the same fears. I hope you have a decent night tonight.

Post traumatic stress. The Virginia Tech shootings are fresh in your mind, Columbine is likely in there too. Living as we are in a world of terror, it is only natural that your subconscious process these worries as you sleep. Otherwise, you might end up being the next person going around doing the shooting. It is natural, and normal to have nightmares.

Your are affected and thinking a lot about the virginia accident and shooting? Stop thinking about it.

Help!--multiple choice BIPOLAR DISORDER?

2009-10-25T06:06:00.001-07:00

People suffering from bipolar disorder often are helped by taking ________.
an antipsychotic
a tranquilizer
lithium carbonate
an antidepressant
Answer:
That is a trick question. The most common prescribed drug of them all is lithium but antipsychotics are also widely used. Antidepressants are typically avoided because they can cause mania. Tranquilizers are sometimes used too because people with bipolar disorder often can not sleep at night. If I had to choose one answer I would say Lithium but it's a close tie with antipsychotics.

an antidepressant

Lithium carbonate

(anti-depressants may trigger a manic episode; no need for anti-psychotic unless there are psychotic features; tranzquilzers would only sedate the patient perhaps unnecessarily)

The lithium carbonate. They aren't psychotic, or depressed (and depressants actually make it worse), and they don't need to be trainquilized.

I have been on all of the above..

Lithium carbonate is the most widely used, first approved, and most researched of the alternatives for treatment of bipolar disorder.

Sometimes a combination of all four. Sometimes lithium and tranquilizer. Sometimes lithium and anitpsychotic. Some times just one of each depending on the severity of the condition.

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lithium, however usually once they feel better, they stop taking it and their symptoms come back stronger (it seems)

all of the above.
antipsychotic is very effective for manic phases of bipolar I.
tranquilizer is effective against mania, hypomania, insomnia and anxiety associated with bipolar I and II.
lithium is the oldest and the first line treatment for bipolar I and is effective against mania and to prevent reccurence of episodes.
antidepressants are effective against the depressive phase of bipolar I and II and can be combined with lithium to prevent switching to mania.
ALL of these drugs are approved for treatment of bipolar disorder.

lithium carbonate

lithium is the conventional med for bipolar. so i would choose that as the 'best" answer. all the others on the list may also be used, but lithium is best.

I TAKE ANTIDEPRESSANTS AND MOOD STABILIZERS. I THINK IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE PERSONS CHEMISTRY WHAT IS THEIR SYMPTOMS ETC. I'VE ALSO TAKEN ANTI PSYCHOTIC MEDS TOO SO IT JUST DEPENDS.

i guess lithium

my son is bipolar and he takes abilify which is an antipsychotic drug. i have heard lithium is a rare prescription except in severe cases. i dont know that for sure though.